Should I ask him (str8 guy) out or not?

[TX-Beau]

...This happened to me once before, I got fixated on another straight guy once before and I kinda drove him crazy. He threaten to beat me up and kill me. I didn't mean for that to happen but he just turned into a complete prick...

...He's a big enemy of mine today. I haven't seen him in a long time. It's a shame cause we could have been good friends...

... That's why I need some advice from the board on stuff like.....well should I invite him out to the movies or not. Should I do this or that...

...so I just need your "honest" advice on this matter and I thank you for it...

Jesus Christ.

WALK THE FUCK AWAY

Maybe the first guy couldn't find any other way to get that into your head.

I begin to suspect you're playing games here - because really, it's hard to believe anyone can be that clueless about the advice you already got.

 

[Rolyo85]

You need professional help. "Fuck him"? Really? For being... uh... what, straight and oblivious that he is working with a psychopath?

 

[bw92116]

Just get over your fixation on him and anyone else.
You're torturing yourself by fixating on anyone.
The problem isn't him, the problem is you fixating on anyone.
I'd recommend you read the book "Obsessive Love" by Susan Forward.
It is filled with many insights that will be valuable to you.
You will recognize your thinking and behavior patterns described in the book.
And you will receive specific advice about how to break those habits.
This isn't about him at all. It's about you and your tendency to obsess and fixate.
To escape the torture of fixating on him, you must shift your focus from him to you.

 

[rareboy]

Everyone has stated the obvious.

succinctly.

Listen to them.

Stop this before you do harm.

 

[Telstra]

To tell you the truth guys.... I'm a little scared. I think I maybe getting fixated on this guy. I tend to do crazy stuff when I get fixated on guys.

This happened to me once before, I got fixated on another straight guy once before and I kinda drove him crazy. He threaten to beat me up and kill me. I didn't mean for that to happen but he just turned into a complete prick.

He's a big enemy of mine today. I haven't seen him in a long time. It's a shame cause we could have been good friends. But... he didn't want that.

But I believe it is possible to make friends with guys if you make the right choices. That's why I need some advice from the board on stuff like.....well should I invite him out to the movies or not. Should I do this or that.

I'm sure you guys have been fixated on someone before. I know you probably know what I am going through, so I just need your "honest" advice on this matter and I thank you for it.

This sentence reminds me of this song below.
Please just go out with the people who are into you.
And NO, you should not invite him.

[ame]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=aSLZFdqwh7E[/ame]

 

[EphGuy]

Do you have a crush on this guy? Is that impacting your judgment?

True friendship is never born of crushes, especially when the object of desire is unattainable. I'd say hands-off.

 

[EphGuy]

I am really just looking for a friend and think that he would be a cool friend. Yes he is 19 and I am 30+

I'm sorry you feel so isolated but even if he were gay friendships between 19 year-olds and thirty somethings don't happen. You are in such completely different phases of your lives: he's still a kid and you're an adult.