Should i come out as bisexual or not?

[dandude07]

I've been interested in guys ever since i was 13... I'm in college now and keep liking guys... I'm only into the str8 acting/looking bi or gay guys. I've only dated girls and would never date a guy. I have had sex with girls and love it. I have had sex with guys and love it... I watch gay porn a lot...

Yeah that may be wrong to some people, but I'm not wanting to be lectured.... I'm physically attracted to some dudes but it's just weird for me to date one... I'm not into that kind of stuff...

Should i come out ?

 

[notherenotnow99]

I was the same way... came out as bi to my friends in Uni (3 years ago). Then got more into the scene and started seeing some guys. Had a shit ton of fun and decided girls weren't worth the trouble. Just came out to my family as gay.

Much much much happier now.

 

[anchihiro]

Come out if you want to and feel ready, and are not in any danger financially or physically in doing so.

Maybe in time you'll change your mind about seeing guys for more than just sex. Best of luck.

 

[FameMonster]

I agree with anchihiro. If you are in a good place where people accept gay and bi people, come out if you feel like you are ready. If you'd rather not come out because of the people close to you, then don't. It's not like you have a boyfriend or something, and if that isn't you thing then that's cool. But if people aren't too fond of gay/bi guys at the place you live, then don't come out. Save yourself the trouble, not everyone needs to know whom you sleep with

 

[TX-Beau]

Well, first off, you sound like you have some personal issues with the gay. You do realize that you’ve trotted out possibly the oldest and most common bi-guy-with-issues insult.

“…Men are for fucking, women are for relationships…”

How many thousands of times have gay men heard that one.

You come in here and tell us that you don’t mind us servicing your cock, but it’s unacceptable for any of us to gain your affection, because you’re “not into that stuff.”

Yeah, you do have an attraction to men and have told yourself that’s not as bad as fags who buy each other flowers so long as it’s not personal. You’re not gay if you’re just getting off.

Why are you not into that stuff?

“…because I’m just not…”

OK WHY? What’s the point of coming out if you never intend to have anything more with a guy than some random sex? No matter what anyone tells you, or advises you to do, you won’t come out until you choose to do so.

If you are capable of getting hard for a guy, you are capable of having feelings for him.

Why would it be “weird for you,” to date a guy? Pretty much all of us who at one point or another in our own issues have said that, called ourselves bi, or would only associate with and fuck the “straight acting;” can tell you that this is an issue with yourself. It’s about discomfort with your same sex attraction, stereotypical and usually misogynistic definitions of masculinity, and what you’re worried people are going to assume about you. You don’t want people to think you’re one of those faggots, because somewhere in your head you still think it’s wrong.

There is no gay or bi guy in existence who’s straight acting – “straight acting," is a completely gay/bi defined internal stereotype that has a whole lot to do with distancing yourself from the “obviously,” gay, and has nothing whatsoever to do with actual straight guys and the ways they act. The only way straight guys act in common is that they don’t want to fuck you.

So a word of advice, if you do decide to come out - which can probably only help you - don't go around telling gay men that women are for relationships and guys are for fucking, that's demeaning, and just sets you up for all those lectures you don't want to hear.

 

[KaraBulut]

Should i come out ?

Unless there's a good reason why you shouldn't, then "Yes".

... I'm only into the str8 acting/looking bi or gay guys. I've only dated girls and would never date a guy.

It's also a good time to update from " str8 acting/looking" to "masculine" or "jock types". Guys don't look "straight" (or look "gay" for that matter), they look/act masculine. It better describes what you're attracted to.

 

[tipmyscales86]

I was convinced for years that I was bisexual. I wanted to have sex with guys, but the idea of dating or having a relationship with a guy weirded me out. That was until I tried it. I haven't turned back.

 

[GhostMost]

Well, first off, you sound like you have some personal issues with the gay. You do realize that you’ve trotted out possibly the oldest and most common bi-guy-with-issues insult.

“…Men are for fucking, women are for relationships…”

How many thousands of times have gay men heard that one.

You come in here and tell us that you don’t mind us servicing your cock, but it’s unacceptable for any of us to gain your affection, because you’re “not into that stuff.”

Yeah, you do have an attraction to men and have told yourself that’s not as bad as fags who buy each other flowers so long as it’s not personal. You’re not gay if you’re just getting off.

Why are you not into that stuff?

“…because I’m just not…”

OK WHY? What’s the point of coming out if you never intend to have anything more with a guy than some random sex? No matter what anyone tells you, or advises you to do, you won’t come out until you choose to do so.

If you are capable of getting hard for a guy, you are capable of having feelings for him.

Why would it be “weird for you,” to date a guy? Pretty much all of us who at one point or another in our own issues have said that, called ourselves bi, or would only associate with and fuck the “straight acting;” can tell you that this is an issue with yourself. It’s about discomfort with your same sex attraction, stereotypical and usually misogynistic definitions of masculinity, and what you’re worried people are going to assume about you. You don’t want people to think you’re one of those faggots, because somewhere in your head you still think it’s wrong.

There is no gay or bi guy in existence who’s straight acting – “straight acting," is a completely gay/bi defined internal stereotype that has a whole lot to do with distancing yourself from the “obviously,” gay, and has nothing whatsoever to do with actual straight guys and the ways they act. The only way straight guys act in common is that they don’t want to fuck you.

So a word of advice, if you do decide to come out - which can probably only help you - don't go around telling gay men that women are for relationships and guys are for fucking, that's demeaning, and just sets you up for all those lectures you don't want to hear.

<3 although he probably won't listen.

No but seriously every gay man who have just had thoughts about men concluded the same thing, until they accepted it. Don't come out until you know you are definitely bi or gay or straight, but don't do it because you are unsure, but you think men are hot. What's the point?

 

[bma1983]

Well, first off, you sound like you have some personal issues with the gay. You do realize that you’ve trotted out possibly the oldest and most common bi-guy-with-issues insult.

“…Men are for fucking, women are for relationships…”

How many thousands of times have gay men heard that one.

You come in here and tell us that you don’t mind us servicing your cock, but it’s unacceptable for any of us to gain your affection, because you’re “not into that stuff.”

Yeah, you do have an attraction to men and have told yourself that’s not as bad as fags who buy each other flowers so long as it’s not personal. You’re not gay if you’re just getting off.

Why are you not into that stuff?

“…because I’m just not…”

OK WHY? What’s the point of coming out if you never intend to have anything more with a guy than some random sex? No matter what anyone tells you, or advises you to do, you won’t come out until you choose to do so.

If you are capable of getting hard for a guy, you are capable of having feelings for him.

Why would it be “weird for you,” to date a guy? Pretty much all of us who at one point or another in our own issues have said that, called ourselves bi, or would only associate with and fuck the “straight acting;” can tell you that this is an issue with yourself. It’s about discomfort with your same sex attraction, stereotypical and usually misogynistic definitions of masculinity, and what you’re worried people are going to assume about you. You don’t want people to think you’re one of those faggots, because somewhere in your head you still think it’s wrong.

There is no gay or bi guy in existence who’s straight acting – “straight acting," is a completely gay/bi defined internal stereotype that has a whole lot to do with distancing yourself from the “obviously,” gay, and has nothing whatsoever to do with actual straight guys and the ways they act. The only way straight guys act in common is that they don’t want to fuck you.

So a word of advice, if you do decide to come out - which can probably only help you - don't go around telling gay men that women are for relationships and guys are for fucking, that's demeaning, and just sets you up for all those lectures you don't want to hear.

Bravo! Bravo!

 

[erobert]

Well, first off, you sound like you have some personal issues with the gay. You do realize that you’ve trotted out possibly the oldest and most common bi-guy-with-issues insult.

“…Men are for fucking, women are for relationships…”

How many thousands of times have gay men heard that one.

You come in here and tell us that you don’t mind us servicing your cock, but it’s unacceptable for any of us to gain your affection, because you’re “not into that stuff.”

Yeah, you do have an attraction to men and have told yourself that’s not as bad as fags who buy each other flowers so long as it’s not personal. You’re not gay if you’re just getting off.

Why are you not into that stuff?

“…because I’m just not…”

OK WHY? What’s the point of coming out if you never intend to have anything more with a guy than some random sex? No matter what anyone tells you, or advises you to do, you won’t come out until you choose to do so.

If you are capable of getting hard for a guy, you are capable of having feelings for him.

Why would it be “weird for you,” to date a guy? Pretty much all of us who at one point or another in our own issues have said that, called ourselves bi, or would only associate with and fuck the “straight acting;” can tell you that this is an issue with yourself. It’s about discomfort with your same sex attraction, stereotypical and usually misogynistic definitions of masculinity, and what you’re worried people are going to assume about you. You don’t want people to think you’re one of those faggots, because somewhere in your head you still think it’s wrong.

There is no gay or bi guy in existence who’s straight acting – “straight acting," is a completely gay/bi defined internal stereotype that has a whole lot to do with distancing yourself from the “obviously,” gay, and has nothing whatsoever to do with actual straight guys and the ways they act. The only way straight guys act in common is that they don’t want to fuck you.

So a word of advice, if you do decide to come out - which can probably only help you - don't go around telling gay men that women are for relationships and guys are for fucking, that's demeaning, and just sets you up for all those lectures you don't want to hear.

There's a lot of guys out there who would benefit from reading this twice. Couldn't have said it any better. Excellent post.