Should I even be considered bisexual??

[Piquechampion]

I mean I know I find females attractive and shit, but I don´t pursue them at all.

Both my past gf´s I had was cuz they were the ones who came on to me, otherwise it we wouln´t have dated at all.

So, am I bi even if NEVER, EVER pursue women at all???

Then again I don´t pursue men either....

In both cases too much work and effort... and Im to lazy to do it

 

[Aaron]

Personally, I think you should focus less on labels, and more on what feels good and what feels right.

 

[rareboy]

In both cases too much work and effort... and Im to lazy to do it

Well, I guess there is always masturbation......

It is up to you as to how you want to self-identify. If you enjoy sex and emotional bonding with both men and women, then you are bisexual.

I find horses attractive and shit, but I don't want to fuck them. Maybe you're the same with women.

 

[Hot Hector]

Well lugus, I think that many people could consider themselves bisexual but prefer to self define gay or straight based solely on what they like MOST, for simplicity's sake at least in my case.

I have been with girls on my teens. I do consider some women beautiful, of course some intimate touches / kisses would make me hard. Who wouldn't. BUT on the other hand I like guys MILES better than girls. I find them far more attractive and interesting to be with, so I don't even consider girls anymore. Thus I 'label' myself as gay based on what I enjoy by far the most.

I have a cousin that I know had a couple of gay experiences in his early teens as many boys do when getting started (he told me!), but today he's just over 30, married and has kids. That experience didn't make him bisexual, or gay; he lives as a straight person (as far as I know, lol).

You don't need to label yourself though, you just need to have fun.

You mention not pursing guys, why not?

 

[Lube]

I 'label' myself as gay based on what I enjoy by far the most.

Same here.

And I hope you're not waiting for Prince Charming to seek you out, find you, and sweep you off your feet.

Because it's not going to happen.

 

[KaraBulut]

Labels are just that- labels.

You're 25. Go enjoy life. Play safe.

The rest will sort itself out.

 

[954dude]

You call the shots in your life. However you feel, go with it.

 

[Aaron]

AMEN. if people in this country spent as much time gettin laid as we spent trying to fit one another into categories we'd be a much more laid back nation

Not to mention sexually satisfied. Sheesh.

 

[Lube]

Well, you need labels if you want to get laid ever.

Or join a site called Just Us Ambiguously Sexually Identified Adults or something.

If you meet a guy and want to date or have sex or whatever, you pretty much have to label yourself as gay if you want him to show any interest. If you just say, "I'm open to having sex with guys" it just doesn't sound very convincing.

 

[reverb285]

OP: Think of most long-term successful heterosexual and homosexual relationships. Consider how the people feel for their significant others. If you can feel that way for either gender, it's safe to say you are bisexual. If not, then probably not. It's possible that you only have sexual preferences with no sexual orientation. I have both. In terms of mere sex acts, I like most typical sex parts - penis, anus, even the vagina since I can derive pleasure from them. I can even have a girlfriend, granted she's just a girl who is friend. But I want to make love (that includes more than sex) with a man exclusively. Therefore, I identify as gay.

Personally, I think you should focus less on labels, and more on what feels good and what feels right.

What if it feels good and right to choose on a label? It's asinine to think that labels sabotage these feelings.

I think that many people could consider themselves bisexual but prefer to self define gay or straight based solely on what they like MOST, for simplicity's sake at least in my case.

Maybe I'm quibbling but I think it's practicality more-so than simplicity.

 

[reverb285]

We can party just fine with them. "Curious" is a label. Let's not be disingenuous.

 

[reverb285]

curious is a label??

Yes

sounds like a state of mind to me

As do the others to me.

one doesn't know if they want fish or sausage

That's confusion

 

[reverb285]

you know what?? you're absolutely right. i was confusing confusion with curiosity.

Oh ok. So you meant to say that those "str8" guys are confused? Gotcha. Can't see people having much fun if they're confused though.

 

[tallguy297]

Ahhh Fellas?

We get the label and confusion thing ok...

Its pretty safe to say that some need to feel the inclusion and comfort of belonging to a group of like minded people and others prefer the freedom of individuality. Theres no right or wrong answer for everyone.

However, the points been made... its time to get back to the op's original question...

Thanks guys!

 

[reverb285]

We get the label and confusion thing ok..

No, some of 'you' don't. Some are still deluded enough to think that the absence of labels means the absence of those same internal experiences and yes, even boundaries that spawned the labels in the first place. Security and freedom have little do with anything, so much as simple reasoning. If one has a problem with the fact that things have similarities and can be grouped, then they probably have a big problem the sciences the arts, heck with life.

Now that that's been clarified, back to the regularly scheduled thread..

 

[reverb285]

You're too kind