Should I give this guy my letter?

[dannyboy92]

Here's the story there's this guy in my school that says he likes me but also likes this one chick, he's bi. I'm not really sure what to do, but I wrote a note, and I haven't decided if I'm gonna give it to him yet. Here's what it says:

There's really not a lot I can say to you at this point. I realize that you have a thing for both (girl) and me and I'm not even sure if that's the real reason (he's not out yet) but if it is I just wanted you to know that I've actually liked you for a long time. Sense we had (class) together (last year). I denied it to myself at that time because I was so fucked up. Anyway if you decide to choose me, you won't regret me.

--BTW what I mean by "fucked up" is I used to be seriously depressed and had some major anxiety issues. But anyway, do you think I should give it to him. Should I change anything?

 

[paatreides]

Do not give the guy a note... (Spelling errors not-withstanding) It's just not the cool thing to do.
If you can't bring yourself to meet with him face to face, at least give him a phone call to tell him his interest is reciprocated.

And don't put anything in terms of choosing between you or the chick. That's not cool either. Don't ever put anyone in a position which forces them to make a choice. He may not be ready for a decision like that. And if he feels backed into a corner, pressured, he may just tell you to get lost. Where does that leave you - without a chance of any kind.

Invite him somewhere to have a soda and talk. Give him (and yourself) a chance to get to know one another, to connect. Tell you like him and would like to get to know him better.

If that leads to some form of physical relationship quickly, wonderful. If not, don't sweat it. Sometimes us Bi guys need a little extra time to deal with our inner turmoil of attraction. Just remember - the less pressure you put on him for a relationship, the more likely it is one will develop.

 

[connermt]

Here's the story there's this guy in my school that says he likes me but also likes this one chick, he's bi. I'm not really sure what to do, but I wrote a note, and I haven't decided if I'm gonna give it to him yet. Here's what it says:

There's really not a lot I can say to you at this point. I realize that you have a thing for both (girl) and me and I'm not even sure if that's the real reason (he's not out yet) but if it is I just wanted you to know that I've actually liked you for a long time. Sense we had (class) together (last year). I denied it to myself at that time because I was so fucked up. Anyway if you decide to choose me, you won't regret me.

--BTW what I mean by "fucked up" is I used to be seriously depressed and had some major anxiety issues. But anyway, do you think I should give it to him. Should I change anything?

Do NOT give this guy the note.
#1 - notes are for junior high school. You're on this site so I have to assume that you are older than that. Giving a note at your age shows immaturity
#2 - don't paint yourself in a corner at your school. You are young and still have A LOT of room to grow in all aspects, including sexually
#3 - if you are interested in him, show him you are an adult and get to know him some. I'm not saying date him for years, but there's something to be said in being an adult in an adult situation and not acting like a 12 year old girl (not saying YOU would, but it has been known to happen to guys in the past)
#4 - it looks like you have issues that you are still dealing with so go easy. After being infatuated with someone for some time, it's easy to fall into the "goo goo ga ga" trap.
#5 - beware someone at your young age that says "I'm Bi." He may well be, or he may just be confused. You run the risk of it all back firing on you with this guy
Finally #6 - Just be a nice guy to him, get to know him and if he comes to you, good. If not, that's good too.

 

[runner]

I agree. Don't give him the note. Talk to him directly.

 

[slnattak]

Aww. I love love letters! I would give him a note. I actually gave a guy a note that I loved. But I don't think he got it...

Even if you guys can't be in a relationship for whatever reason, even if he doesn't return your feelings. Even if he just can't 'be a fag' and he chooses women the rest of his life- at least you cleared the air.

If he does tease you/make fun of you for your affection then you know what type of person he is, and maybe that will 'wake you up.' But if you want to send him a letter, then go for it.

 

[slnattak]

I'm not saying date him for years, but there's something to be said in being an adult in an adult situation and not acting like a 12 year old girl (not saying YOU would, but it has been known to happen to guys in the past)

You need to get off your high horse, fag. I think it's really cute when guys act like 12 year old girls personally. I still play with barbies and I'm 27. Who are you to judge what is acceptable or not. *rolls eyes*

Well it's not your fault. You're just stating your opinion or whatever. But personally speaking, I like guys who act like teenage girls. It turns me on actually.

Love turns you into a dorky idiot. Love is stronger than pride. I love love!

 

[IllgetyouHackman]

^Don't call him names, he is right, it is about acting like an adult, and that isn't something adult like.

 

[arpeggi]

A guy at work gave me a note, and it was completely weird and totally awkward. It also looks as though it was written by a person who has yet to take elementary spelling or english, he's over 30. I also never really had an entire conversation with the guy beyond brief work-based small talk, nothing remotely flirtatious. I felt bad turning him down, but he really is very loud and obnoxious and I found him very unattractive as well. I was nice about it though.

However, you seem young and smart and you actually know the would-be recipient of your letter who seems to have some sort of attraction to you. I would ask him out for a drink, or perhaps a study date of some sort, face to face.