Should I just lose my virginity now and get it over with?

[venicebeach95]

I'm 21 and I've been intimate with a exactly 4 guys in my life, all have been exclusively oral, no fucking. I haven't had a serious boyfriend in my life yet, and I've always wanted to wait for the "special one" for my first penetration experience. But, I'm starting to question if I'm missing out and if it's worth waiting for. Last night, me and a guy I've started becoming friends with were in bed after going to a club together with a group of our friends and things got very heated between us. After swapping head, he started to guide my dick towards his hole. I'm so lucky he didn't get turned off after I declined but I basically said I'd rather wait for that part for the next time we meet. In reality, it was because I'm a virgin and I don't really want my first time with that to be something I regret.

BUT I feel like I missed out on an amazing time. He is BEAUUUUTIFUL and I would've definitely loved fucking him. A hole (haha) in my argument is that I'm afraid I'll regret my first fucking, but I DO regret my first oral experience yet that hasn't fucked me up for life so this shouldn't be any different.

I know you it's my life and guys can't decide for me, but should I just get my first fuck over with so I can experience more of my sexuality?

 

[Cormac135]

In a word............YES.

 

[BiMeGuy]

Do what works best for yourself. After all, only have to live in your body. Only you get a vote on what you do.

 

[jaysizzles]

I think your "special one" doesn't necessarily need to be a boyfriend...just someone that you will always fondly remember...which from your description of him and your desire to be with him, seems to fit the bill. Be up front with him about your lack of experience with anal...it'll take the pressure off of you to perform, and he can likely help guide you and give good advice. Don't expect it to be perfect...go in with the attitude that this practice will eventually make it perfect when you are with the "special one".

 

[kallipolis]

should I just get my first fuck over with so I can experience more of my sexuality?

When you feel comfortable...then go ahead...ensuring that you use a condom....every time.

Regrets for yesterday changes nothing. It didn't happen for a reason..that you weren't comfortable.

 

[TX-Beau]

There is nothing inherently special about virginity. Cultural myths about it's specialness go back to times when men didn't want to raise the bastard babies of their slutty wives - so virginity was specially special and specially "pure" and only to be surrendered to one's only truly special love for ever and ever.

Cultural virginity expectations are basically bullshit cultural baggage intended to control the sexuality of women.

If you want to think about it that way that's your prerogative, but personally, instead of "waiting" for special, I'd look for hot and experienced, because the butt sex can go tragically wrong if no one knows what they are doing, and perhaps the expectation and pressure of specially special twoo wuvs might actually be an inhibitor to getting it right.

Some advice, LUBE the whole bottle is almost enough.

 

[KaraBulut]

...I know you it's my life and guys can't decide for me, but should I just get my first fuck over with so I can experience more of my sexuality?

Based upon what you've said, you should wait until you feel that it is right for you.