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SantaCBear
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wait... but explore some anal play with him if you want
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Be sure to relax and use lots of lube. Ass play is a great way to get the muscles to relax. But, prior to that even, you might want to practice with dildos, starting really small and gradually increasing the size over time. You can even work this into your foreplay.
Good luck!
Good luck!
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If you are not sure, just wait.
SilverRRCloud
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To answer your question: Yup, you should.
You seem to be ready and willing and the guy at hand is willing to do the honors.
Do yourself a great favor: get all the technical stuff, i.e., cleanliness, lube, condoms, etc., in order.
And be prepared to take it. Practically every bttm dude, I have ever met agreed that there is some sort of price (in terms of initial pain) that must be paid for all the pleasure that comes later on.
Have fun.
SC
You seem to be ready and willing and the guy at hand is willing to do the honors.
Do yourself a great favor: get all the technical stuff, i.e., cleanliness, lube, condoms, etc., in order.
And be prepared to take it. Practically every bttm dude, I have ever met agreed that there is some sort of price (in terms of initial pain) that must be paid for all the pleasure that comes later on.
Have fun.
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man, for some folks, it take a while with practice to get the sphincter to open up as much as it needs to. don't rush.
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His dick is not huge. It's only above average. There are bigger guys out there.
The anus is a resilient organ. Having anal sex with him won't permanetely "damage" you. Your fears are mostly psychological.
If you use plenty of lube, protection, and patience, you will be fine. It will hurt, especially since it will be a kind of pain you've never experienced before. But remember, it gets better. Once the pain leaves, it starts to feel very good.
I don't know if this guy should be your first time. What is your expectation out of this? If you don't mind losing it to anybody then go for it. Some guys like to wait for someone serious and special.
The anus is a resilient organ. Having anal sex with him won't permanetely "damage" you. Your fears are mostly psychological.
If you use plenty of lube, protection, and patience, you will be fine. It will hurt, especially since it will be a kind of pain you've never experienced before. But remember, it gets better. Once the pain leaves, it starts to feel very good.
I don't know if this guy should be your first time. What is your expectation out of this? If you don't mind losing it to anybody then go for it. Some guys like to wait for someone serious and special.
I think the first thing you need to make clear is that you aren't into ram, bam, and scram. You should both be sure this is what you want and he should understand that it's going to have to start easy and proceed at a pace you are comfortable with.
Having been through bad as well as good, make sure you start, like was said, with getting everything in order -- clean the garage and enjoy some foreplay. It could include some rimming, some finger play, even a dildo.
When it's time, make sure there's lots of lube and have him start slow. Pushing his member against your hole and then relaxing, push...relax. As the head goes in, have him wait until he feels your muscles start to relax and then he can gently push it in. If it hurts, take it out, breath, and go again.
It may take several times for him to get it all in and then I wouldn't recommend going off to the races. Slow is the operative word!
The first guy I ever took was about 7.5 inches and very thick. He was the "ram and bam" type and it hurt like hell. I was scared shitless (all pun intended) the next time anal sex came up when I first came out two years ago. However, he was large and did just this. Actually a guy I went with a while back was even larger -- he stretched my magnum XL's to put them on.
However, he did just that and I have to admit that I didn't even realize he was in me all the way. It was one of the best fucks I've ever had but he just took it easy.
If it hurts too much, make sure there's an understanding you stop. You can always come back and do it again but don't go tearing yourself up! As for recovery; the hole will close right back up and unless you're thinking about fisting, it shouldn't be any different!
Having been through bad as well as good, make sure you start, like was said, with getting everything in order -- clean the garage and enjoy some foreplay. It could include some rimming, some finger play, even a dildo.
When it's time, make sure there's lots of lube and have him start slow. Pushing his member against your hole and then relaxing, push...relax. As the head goes in, have him wait until he feels your muscles start to relax and then he can gently push it in. If it hurts, take it out, breath, and go again.
It may take several times for him to get it all in and then I wouldn't recommend going off to the races. Slow is the operative word!
The first guy I ever took was about 7.5 inches and very thick. He was the "ram and bam" type and it hurt like hell. I was scared shitless (all pun intended) the next time anal sex came up when I first came out two years ago. However, he was large and did just this. Actually a guy I went with a while back was even larger -- he stretched my magnum XL's to put them on.
However, he did just that and I have to admit that I didn't even realize he was in me all the way. It was one of the best fucks I've ever had but he just took it easy.
If it hurts too much, make sure there's an understanding you stop. You can always come back and do it again but don't go tearing yourself up! As for recovery; the hole will close right back up and unless you're thinking about fisting, it shouldn't be any different!
luismex911
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practice with dildos, starting really small and gradually increasing the size over time, you will endup able o take that cock
NomineDetracto
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before i actually had sex i thought i was a bottom... turns out i don't like it that much.
i'd say try it with someone you know and trust really well.
i'd say try it with someone you know and trust really well.
It sounds like you are really just afraid of what will happen to your bum. You know, you can get a beginners anal sex kit with small butt plugs to play with on your own and move up to the larger ones. That way you'll be primed for it. Taking a huge dick your first time isn't fun. It hurts, I'm not going to lie to you. But if you start off with something smaller you can work up to it. As far as permanently stretching your asshole to unrecognizable proportions, that's not going to happen. Unless the guy your dating has a dick like a watermelon with barbs sticking out of it, no harm will come to you butt. My advice is to start fingering yourself when you masterbate and find some buttplugs to play with. It sounds like you want to do this, so why not? Just make sure whatever you shove up your ass is retrievable. You might want to avoid a late night trip to the emergency room because you lost the cucumber. Also avoid things like lightbulbs, plastic toy soldiers and keys. Thems sharp.
Most importantly use plenty of lube. Proper lube, not canola oil or crisco. Get some good lube - I prefer silicone based, it stays wet longer. Also avoid things with menthol in them or things that promise and extra "zing". There are some places where a slight burning sensation isn't welcome. I found that out the hard way. I thought I had the shits after every time my boyfriend fucked me. Ring of Fire: It burns burns burns.
Once you do it, you'll see it's really not that big a deal. If you start getting into it with him and he tries to put it in and its too painful, by all means stop. It should feel uncomfortable at first but once you start ridin' you should feel amazing. If you don't, then you'll just have a bad experience that will make you more nervous the next time. Relax, its just sex.
Most importantly use plenty of lube. Proper lube, not canola oil or crisco. Get some good lube - I prefer silicone based, it stays wet longer. Also avoid things with menthol in them or things that promise and extra "zing". There are some places where a slight burning sensation isn't welcome. I found that out the hard way. I thought I had the shits after every time my boyfriend fucked me. Ring of Fire: It burns burns burns.
Once you do it, you'll see it's really not that big a deal. If you start getting into it with him and he tries to put it in and its too painful, by all means stop. It should feel uncomfortable at first but once you start ridin' you should feel amazing. If you don't, then you'll just have a bad experience that will make you more nervous the next time. Relax, its just sex.
SilverRRCloud
I'd rather be a Sexgod:)
I'd simply re-read your own posts here and make a pro and con lists. You are really having a problem in deciding, what to do, and that decision is always solely yours.
Clear your view and adopt the approach that whatever decision you make now, later regrets will be fully useless and even counterproductive.
Nope, condoms make break and nope, condoms do not provide absolute protection against STDs. If you have serious concerns about those issues, rest your case and move on.
SC
Clear your view and adopt the approach that whatever decision you make now, later regrets will be fully useless and even counterproductive.
Nope, condoms make break and nope, condoms do not provide absolute protection against STDs. If you have serious concerns about those issues, rest your case and move on.
SC
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If he's an active drug user. Drop him.
newkidondagayblock
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Hi, if you are comfortable with the idea, why not communicate your fears and apprehensions with him....if he really likes you he will atleast talk about it.
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acid and cocaine contributes to his creative process?
*red flag*
*red flag*