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I posted this just passingly on one topic at GD but I would really l like to know other people's opinion on what i'm supposed to do.

There's this one guy who is just like my soulmate, we have a lot of things in common and there's not a day I don't think about him and I always try talk to him online. But yeah he's an online friend and we met a bit dubiously (he wanked on cam for me on our first talk).

Most of the time we talk about mundane stuff like movies,games ,etc but when he's really horny, I can get him to do literally anything to drinking his cum, fucking himself with a giant Dildo and even dressing up as a pretty girl and calling me his "mistress".

Yeah, he thinks that I am a girl. However I know for a fact that he's not completely straight because he loves dressing up and he's at least really curious about transexuals and I think he even dreams of being one himself. (I like him for who he is and whatever he wants to do I support him 110%)

Anyway, the gist is that he is visiting my country for 10 days basically for touring and he said he might explore dressing up as a girl here since our country is very open with any type of sexuality. I am really torn about wanting to meet him but I don't know how he would react about the "big lie". I know I'm the worst person in the world but I just want to meet him in person even with no sex.

Should I risk it or should I just let him be?

TLDR: Not-so-straight Online friend visiting locally, thinks i'm girl from another country, should we meet?
 
You don't have to be gay to want to dress up or think about transsexuals. I think he would go totally batshit and never go online with you again.
 
I think this is going to end poorly whenever you decide to tell him the truth.
 
tylerhart said:
Should I risk it or should I just let him be?

TLDR: Not-so-straight Online friend visiting locally, thinks i'm girl from another country, should we meet?
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I would probably just fess up with the truth and go from there.

Hopefully, you realize that lying about your gender is not the way to go in the future.
 
Seasoned said:
I think this is going to end poorly whenever you decide to tell him the truth.
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i think so too. i've tried this route before with another guy who was very close to me and I did lose him. Only thing I just want now is to meet him in person and nothing else. :(
 
hi Tylerhart,

I would like to advise you to tell him the truth, and as soon as possible. And tell him as well that you are gay, so he knows some of the basic items of you.

I have no idea how he will react on this news. Likely (?), he will react not too well? But hey man, please be honest to this kind of online friends, as starting with a ly is never ever a good & solid base to built up any friendship, and that's including people you meet online (and likely never will meet in real life).

Your profile indicates that you are 29. Two years ago, on July 22nd, 2009, 04:45 AM, you told us (see http://www.justusboys.com/forum/showthread.php?p=5257135#post5257135 ) that you are closeted.

So how is the situation right now? Already opened yourself to the rest of the word? And do you still have contact with this Chinese guy?

Thanks in advance for providing us with some details. No need when you don't feel comfortable to do this.

Best wishes
 
Ganoderma said:
hi Tylerhart,

I would like to advise you to tell him the truth, and as soon as possible. And tell him as well that you are gay, so he knows some of the basic items of you.

I have no idea how he will react on this news. Likely (?), he will react not too well? But hey man, please be honest to this kind of online friends, as starting with a ly is never ever a good & solid base to built up any friendship, and that's including people you meet online (and likely never will meet in real life).

Your profile indicates that you are 29. Two years ago, on July 22nd, 2009, 04:45 AM, you told us (see http://www.justusboys.com/forum/showthread.php?p=5257135#post5257135 ) that you are closeted.

So how is the situation right now? Already opened yourself to the rest of the word? And do you still have contact with this Chinese guy?

Thanks in advance for providing us with some details. No need when you don't feel comfortable to do this.

Best wishes
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I still have him in facebook but I doubt he remembers that I exist. Honesty's track record has been really bad for me as seen with that old case and the other guy that I lost when I opened up to him (even though we were super close online friends for 2 years).

So yeah, someone at least should be able to understand why I am really hesitant about being honest since it has never done me any good. Yes, I am still in the closet and I probably won't be able to come out unless I move to another place.
 
tylerhart said:
So yeah, someone at least should be able to understand why I am really hesitant about being honest since it has never done me any good. Yes, I am still in the closet and I probably won't be able to come out unless I move to another place.
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The guys that are going to talk to you and be interested you because they think you are a girl are much less likely to be the ones who would be interested in a relationship with you once they know you are a guy.
 
Just give up. The eternal truth is whatever starts poorly will end poorly. Don't get your hope up, you ain't getting any.
 
I'm not expecting anything. I mostly just want to meet and talk to him even shortly. He's already in the country and I feel so helpless
 
tylerhart said:
i think so too. i've tried this route before with another guy who was very close to me and I did lose him. Only thing I just want now is to meet him in person and nothing else. :(
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So why did you do it again?

Lying about your gender seems like a really stupid way to approach someone you are interested in.
 
You're never going to get close to him unless he forgives you. Make friends with someone as a gay guy and not a gay guy pretending to get a kinda-straight guy.
 
I don't think that telling him the truth is going to go well either. How would you feel if you found out that he were a different person than you expect?

But since you are in this so deep, i'm going to give you advice that i would normally not give.

Continue your ruse. Get a close female friend (if you have one) to be you - then have you be your cousin or something. Have you two meet him somewhere - and then start anew with him by "meeting" him for the first time as your real self.

Of course, you'll have to tell your female friend all about it - You'll have to make up some reason that she wants you there (for her safety, for example).

Then it will be up to you to become his soulmate all over again.

At least you would be able to meet him.
 
Oh, Tyler. This is terrible. Please end it.

Either tell him the truth, or disappear and never contact him again. I think you owe him the truth though. It won't be easy, but a man must take responsibility for his actions.
 
Um, he might like to dress up and stuff that doesn't make him "gay" or maybe "curious", theres straight guys that are completely into that and doesn't think about fucking with guys, even though I don't think thats your intentions but that guy will probably be disappointed, tell him before you plan to meet him in person
 
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