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Should I or Shouldn't I?

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I'd have to agree with adidas here... No rush to come out, best to have yourself in a secure enough situation, just in case things go bad
 
Yeah, I'm in agreement with the first respondent. Your mom being so into gay-bashing tells me either she's chosen to express herself like this -- or she has some sort of experience she is not speaking of. Anyway you look at, you go to do what's right for you.

In the meantime, you should tell your mother that you would prefer to find your own dates. If she keeps going on, then she's a pain-in-the-ass who'll have to be treated with kid gloves. Hopefully, that's not the case.

Good luck.
 
Hey Rave,
I'd have to agree with the other posters, especially CoolBlue. I'd wait until the end of the school year and I'd tell your mom to stop trying to set you up. I'd also start challenging your mom whenever she makes a gay-bashing comment. Slowly start holding your ground whenever she makes disparaging comments. This way, by the time May/June comes around, her attitude may have changed. If it hasn't, then at least when you come out, it doesn't come as a total shock. In any case, good luck and keep us posted.
 
Perhaps she makes a point of making gay-bashing comments because she suspects that in you and is trying to let you know that she considers that uncool and unacceptable. And, she's probably desperately trying to get you interested in girls, albeit geeky ones, and even probably guaging your reaction to them in order to confirm (oh horror!) or refute (aaahhh!) her suspicions.

All of which leads me back to one of my favorite maxims: Those who can't handle the truth don't deserve to know it. At least, not yet. I have to agree with the others--wait. Move out on your own and then come out if you feel the need to share this with her. Then, there's little she can do about it or to you.

Good luck. Keep in touch with us.
 
i have to agree too wait til the end of the school year and you have your own place, then tell her when your ready too.
 
I have always learned when going on the offense it is better to be on your home turf so like the others its is not that long untill the end of the school year and until you have your own place and it is best to break the new to her at your place instead of hers this way she will have to be the one leaving and you are not embarassed.

Also, this may ot be the case but most parents especially the mother are more observant and she may already be aware of your sexuality, and the comments she make may be a challenge to you to speak up. Just a thought. Good luck and happy holidays
 
Yes, it is a wise decision to wait. I'm glad you confided in the lesbian couple, because now you have at least two people around who know you as you are, accept you, and hopefully can be a form of support.

Keep in touch with us here, especially at the end of the school year if not before. We are interested in how you're doing and what you're thinking.

Good luck!
 
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