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Should I tell him?

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As you can see from my profile, I am bisexual. Nobody knows that, I mean I have never come out to anybody and I think it's time for me to tell my best friend. What do you think?

I am afraid ,though. He's a really good and understanding guy, but still I am very shy and I guess I will be really embarassed. However he is my best friend and we share everything.

What do you think? Should I tell him or not?
 
Im in the same boat. Ive decided that its my business not his. Its not like he sat me down one day to tell me he's straight so why should I have to tell him im bi. If it comes up or he asks I wont lie, but I dont feel like its something I must disclose. I guess I would tell my best friend if I had a reason to, like I wanted his advice or help about some bi issue, other than that... it shouldnt really be a big deal. just my thoughts! good luck
 
If you share everything then you have to be able to trust him with this.

If he doesn't accept it then at least you know that your friendship was only based on what he wanted you to be, not who you are.
 
The definition of "best friend" must have changed somewhere. Best friends are supposed to have openness and honesty in their relationship.

If you're not yourself with your close friends, then exactly what is the friendship based upon?
 
Thank you all for responding.
I had never actually thought about what TrailRider86 said, which is right, at least partly right.

KaraBulut, yes, the definition of "best friend" has indeed changed. That doesn't mean, though, that there is no real friendship left. I have never refused to my BEST friend that I'm bisexual, which is honesty, cause I didn't lie. And I am myself when I am with my best friends, but how nice would it sound if I were together with my 2 closest friends and say "Gosh, I really wanna screw that guy"? Cause that's openess!
 
Why exactly do you want to tell him? What is your reasoning? So hopefull he will say, cool, me too, and you guys can get it on? I know thats not the case, Im just saying. I dont see the need to tell him, unless it comes up. Just my thoughts.
 
I guess you're right. The only reason that I want him to know that I'm bi is that we sahre everything. There are no secrets between us - except this one! So, this is a tough decision, isn't it? I mean, I never feel comfortable talking about my sexual preferances... I think I'm not going to tell him yet unless the whole subject gets in the way.
 
Try putting the subject into a discussion to gauge his reaction. Mention the effort to do away with prop 8 again in California and see what he says about it maybe?
 
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