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Should I tell my Psychiatrist.

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I was having thoughts about coming out to my Psychiatrist,but I decided not to and think it over first.My next meeting is next month should I tell her or not.Personally I think that would be a huge step in the right direction.Thoughts?
 
You should definitely come out to her! It'll only help her help you. Besides, she's not gonna be blabbing about it, either.
 
I would say telling your psychiatrist is great if you think it's a good step for you--that you will feel good as a result of doing something brave, not dependent on her cheering you on. You could be disappointed by her her response, it's hard to know. One of the first people I told that I was worried I was gay was a psychiatrist when I was 14, and he could not have been any less interested. He prescribed Ativan and that was it. I tried telling him I thought my anxiety was related to worrying about being gay, but he was a bad doctor.

If you are in a therapeutic setting like with a psychologist then I think it's probably important to bring up at some point either way.
 
If you can't be honest with your shrink, then you are just wasting time and money.
 
Absolutely. Good luck.
 
Of course you should.
 
I was having thoughts about coming out to my Psychiatrist,but I decided not to and think it over first.My next meeting is next month should I tell her or not.Personally I think that would be a huge step in the right direction.Thoughts?

More than likely your homosexuality is part of the reason you are seeing a therapist, so yeah, tell her. My guess is she already knows, but you should be up front and honest with her. After all, if you're going to lie to her how can she help you?
 
Thanks for all the advice,I'm just scared as hell of doing it.I suppose it plays a part in my depression so I'll do it.I have a month to prepare so I'll keep you guys updated.Wish me luck.
 
Thanks for all the advice,I'm just scared as hell of doing it.I suppose it plays a part in my depression so I'll do it.I have a month to prepare so I'll keep you guys updated.Wish me luck.

Sometimes being scared is that hurdle you have to leap , good luck buddy. (*8*)
 
You know what?

If you have a hard time saying 'I'm a homo' out loud, then write it on a piece of paper and hand it to her.

I have a friend who used to write little memos or diary entries and would give them to his therapist each week and they would then talk about those issues. It helped him share a lot of things that otherwise he was just too tongue tied or frightened to raise as topics.

From there, she should be able to take the lead.
 
Thanks for all the advice,I'm just scared as hell of doing it.I suppose it plays a part in my depression so I'll do it.I have a month to prepare so I'll keep you guys updated.Wish me luck.

Yup, it probably does. Yeah, it's scary. And I'll bet you'll feel really, really relieved once you add that part to your discussions. I sure did.

btw, if you really don't feel good about telling this to your psychiatrist, you should be looking for another counsellor. Just saying'.
 
Honestly, I'm surprised your psychiatrist hasn't asked you.

Maybe your psychiatrist should suggest a therapist- someone you would be comfortable talking to and somebody more inclined to listen.
 
It was only our first meeting,I didn't really feel comfortable doing it the first time I met her.I needed to kinda get a feel if I felt comfortable around her.I think she had the feeling that I wasn't being open enough.I did have sort of a wall up.
 
You know what?

If you have a hard time saying 'I'm a homo' out loud, then write it on a piece of paper and hand it to her.

I have a friend who used to write little memos or diary entries and would give them to his therapist each week and they would then talk about those issues. It helped him share a lot of things that otherwise he was just too tongue tied or frightened to raise as topics.

From there, she should be able to take the lead.

With my new psych we talked a few times then I went into such a dark place I coudn't even talk about it out loud for fear of making it all real. So I did just as your friend did. I wish I would have kept parts of it up now because it would have helped my disability case more having a constant journal.
 
Thanks for all the advice,I'm just scared as hell of doing it.I suppose it plays a part in my depression so I'll do it.I have a month to prepare so I'll keep you guys updated.Wish me luck.

I thought about "outing" myself to my current psychiatrist the last few visits. But the main reason I didn't was I am currently trying to get disability so anything I say goes into my records which goes into my case. I'm fortunate enough to pull off being straight so I'm not outing myself to her until after my SS hearing.
 
It'll make you feel better, it'll give her better understanding of what you go through, and you'll have a deeper relationship with her. Do it!
 
I thought about "outing" myself to my current psychiatrist the last few visits. But the main reason I didn't was I am currently trying to get disability so anything I say goes into my records which goes into my case. I'm fortunate enough to pull off being straight so I'm not outing myself to her until after my SS hearing.

I was on SS when I was younger.Until they cut me off.Personally I was conflicted with it.Basically I felt it made me lazy,and contributed to me sitting around doing nothing.So I was sorta happy when I was cut off.I felt like I was getting money for no reason,and wasting it.so I decided to look for a job.
I understand being on SS though.It just wasn't for me.Good luck with that
 
Alright so my meeting is monday.I'm kinda nervous about it.I don't really know how to start the convo,but I am gung ho on doing it.
 
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