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Should I tell the Police?

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So my ex lives in a house with two roommates, and his two roommates have a lot of weed and smoke it all the time. My ex doesn't. He hates it.

Ever since finding out (this was still while I was dating him) I have wanted to submit an anonymous tip.

I have always hated drugs and the people that choose to use them. I know a lot of people on here are probably pro drugs, but I am not sorry if I offend you. Everyone can make their own choices, and those choices have consequences, which may include people not liking them because of their decisions.

So I am wondering, do you think I should let the police know? Anyone that is aware of it is found guilty- even if they don't use it or have anything to do. So his two roommates (which are dating) and him will be found guilty- they can get up to 7 years jail time, but it could also just be a few days, maybe a warning. I'm not too sure, all I know is the worst case senario is 7 years.

Now I can be a cold person and not care about my ex's future. I mean a criminal record if horrible to have!
But at the same time, I can be held accountable since I have known for a few months.

It's not a ay of getting back at my ex, because even though I am really angry at him, I would never jepordize his future because I am angry in the moment.

It's just his roommates. They leave the place a mess, don't take care of their dog, do drugs, they didn't even register the dog with the city which costs a whole $40, but they have all the money in the world for weed.

On the other hand It's not really any of my business what other people do, and I certainly don't want to have my future jeprodized.

I want to do the right thing and report it, but I don't want to get i trouble- I am not at fault at all, right? I mean, yes I could have reported it when I first found out, but lets be realistic, my relationship would have ended then (The law doesn't care about a relationship, so no excuse)

I know that even if I do it anonymously, my ex will know it's me. So I am not sure what to do.

Sometimes when you try to do the right thing, you get burnt.
 
Drug use by anyone other than me is none of my business. Drug dealing is none of my business either unless violence is involved. You seem too involved in what is your ex's business. Let him take care of himself. Co-dependency can make you crazy so make sure you understand boundaries.
 
Wow... Ok, this is a no flame zone, so I'm not gonna tell you what I think about you right now for even considering this.

I'm just going to point out - as someone who's tried weed a few times, and found that it did nothing for him - that:

1. Weed is not a drug. If you took time from your self-righteousness to actually read a bit on it, you'd see that it is far less addictive than at least 5 substances you take on a daily basis, not to mention how much more harmless it is than alcohol.

2. It is ABSOLUTELY none of your business what people do in their own homes if they aren't endangering anyone else.

3. Following 2, to send a tip or involve yourself in any way would be an act of malice in my book. You have no moral reason for this action, other than to harm other people. There is absolutely nothing in this to merit the label "the right thing"

I mean, seriously... dafuq?
 
Were I thinking that you were reporting "illegal use of plain view unlawfully possessed controlled substances," I would say report. You aren't doing that: you are being vindictive and retributive. Were I you I would find something more positive to do.
 
You are from Toronto which is in Canada, so unless your ex's roomates are selling it I think the police will laugh at you. Sounds like you are just trying to be vindictive.
 
This is just sad. You would really call the police and say that people you know are smoking weed in their residence? It's really sad when people feel like they have to get into other peoples business.
 
Lol weed is ok they do it in their own house they don't bother you at all so why you have to care about it? do they sell it to you? no do they are part of a big mafia? No


I'm from the Netherlands and believe me with all your respect your statement is completely stupid
 
Re: Should I tell the Police?



Wow... Ok, this is a no flame zone, so I'm not gonna tell you what I think about you right now for even considering this.

I'm just going to point out - as someone who's tried weed a few times, and found that it did nothing for him - that:

1. Weed is not a drug. If you took time from your self-righteousness to actually read a bit on it, you'd see that it is far less addictive than at least 5 substances you take on a daily basis, not to mention how much more harmless it is than alcohol.

2. It is ABSOLUTELY none of your business what people do in their own homes if they aren't endangering anyone else.

3. Following 2, to send a tip or involve yourself in any way would be an act of malice in my book. You have no moral reason for this action, other than to harm other people. There is absolutely nothing in this to merit the label "the right thing"

I mean, seriously... dafuq?

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This is so right on point.



Maybe someone has nothing better to do with there time...you must be a real sad person. And bottom line is it is---------->>>

NONE-YA = none of your business, and it is very vindictive..Their are more serious issues than this. But evidently you must be the block captain for crime...
 
torontoguy90 said:
1)It's not a way of getting back at my ex, because even though I am really angry at him, I would never jepordize his future because I am angry in the moment.

2)On the other hand It's not really any of my business what other people do, and I certainly don't want to have my future jeprodized.

3)I want to do the right thing and report it, but I don't want to get i trouble- I am not at fault at all, right? I mean, yes I could have reported it when I first found out, but lets be realistic, my relationship would have ended then (The law doesn't care about a relationship, so no excuse)

4)I know that even if I do it anonymously, my ex will know it's me. So I am not sure what to do.

5)Sometimes when you try to do the right thing, you get burnt.
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At the risk of being harsh, I will be honest - and use the 'red/numbered quotes to make my point...
1) In that case - why even consider it?
2) Your first comment is correct and your second appears to indicate your concerns are more about the implications for yourself.
3) Why is jeopardising his future "the right thing to do" - but I think the second part of the sentence again belies your true feelings, no?
4) To repeat myself... In that case - why even consider it?
5) Again...why is it the right thing? And - yes - you will get burnt.

I hope you take the advice and abandon these thoughts - you would certainly regret your actions.
 
There is no moral difficulty in reporting an illegal act to the police.


Why would you be anonymous about it again?
 
"Should I tell the Police? "

No you shouldn't.
Non of your business. Go and find other things to do.
 
I don't smoke anything. But even I recognize the notion of ratting these people out over weed is ridiculous. Do you really think you would be doing society a favor by doing this? I would wager that some police would think you are just wasting their time. "Doing the right thing" would be to not report it.

But we all know this isn't about the weed. You obviously have some other personal motive going on here.
 
aaronxp said:
While in Mexico people is getting killed and their heads are getting cut off and rolling down the street because those poor people are doing nothing wrong.
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Yeah, except, tons of people grow their own weed. Mexican rolling heads are a poor excuse for a personal vendetta, and there wouldn't be any need of that if weed were legalized.
 
Aside from everyone going back and forth on the great weed debate, I think you should just move on and not report it. I share this viewpoint because you have grouped into your thinking your ex. If you were concerned about justice, your ex wouldn't be on your mind, but how you feel justice should be served.

Also aside from the justice aspect of this, rest assure your ex's roommates will either get what they have coming to them by their own doings. They may get away with it now, but who is to say that don't get caught somewhere down the road, and they will have to deal with it then? They are the ones who have to live life looking over their shoulder for the police or that dealer that is waiting to do them dirty.

So move on to a person or group of people that are more in line with your thinking (those who don't consume weed.)

OH! This opinion is spoken from the viewpoint of a Police Officer. (Don't hate... I have saved lives and do what my government and citizens expect of me.)
 
No, you would be doing it for all the wrong reasons. Thank you for asking us about this, and I hope our answers will steer you into the right direction.
 
aaronxp said:
While in Mexico people is getting killed and their heads are getting cut off and rolling down the street because those poor people are doing nothing wrong.
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That's an argument for legalizing it, not reporting it to the police. The same could have been said about alcohol during prohibition, that caused numerous violent deaths.

People that want to control what others put in their bodies are no better than those that want to ban gay sex imo.
 
The OP obviously needs to question his motives for wanting to do the 'right thing':

It sounds as if you've known about the drug use for sometime now, & decided to look the other way for the sake of your relationship (ie. it affecting you & your ex) - so why the sudden urgency to fulfill that moral imperative now as opposed to before?

Did anything change besides your feelings for one of the 3 persons in that household?

It's fairly obvious what the answer is, but I won't condemn or force you to admit it; instead, I hope you'll see your thoughts for what is & the logical fallacy that led you to consider it - barring that, you will continue to fall repeatedly into the same mind trap.

I say this not for some misplaced need of superiority, but as someone who has been both victim & aggressor of hypocrisy.
 
If your ex hates his living situation, then he ought to move. If he can't afford to, then that's really more his problem than yours.
 
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