should I visit a brothel?

[Kurn]

Get a friend you can go with if you go to a bathhouse for the first time. Don't know where you live. But take a precaution. Can't find a friend? Look around on-line. You might even spot someone from your city on JUB. But there are dating services like on Yahoo that are free or inexpensive.
But don't worry too much about it! You can do fine without all that!

 

[slobone]

That´s the point of meaningless sex with a guy, apart from basic respect for the other and even for his needs, you don´t care whether he wants to fuck you really bad or finds you attractive: it´s about mere courtesy, which is halfway between the degrading disrespect usually associated with prostitution (usually corresponding with the prudish hypocritical moral view of straight male chauvinists) and the schmaltzy romanticist view usually opposed (reread this thread for examples) as the only valid alternative.

Umm... not sure we're on the same page. I was being a bit ironic when I said "meaningless." Of course, sex is never meaningless -- it always means something, at a minimum "you're here, I'm here, we're doing the most intimate thing people can do together."

That automatically creates a deep bond between the two people. I suppose the meaningless part comes in if that bond doesn't last past the orgasm.

What I don't have any interest in is pointless sex -- where one partner is just going through the motions and isn't connecting with the other one. And I suppose that's always going to be true with prostitution.

Although I should add that I've heard about male prostitutes who are really committed to their profession -- more like sex therapists. They do their damnedest to provide a good experience for their customer. But I imagine that's pretty rare.