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Makonai777

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Come out? Why does it matter? My parents are die-hard christians so i already know what they will say. Its bad enough I have to earn there love. And on top of that, my only friend in the world is anti gay also. Im just wondering if its worth it or not. worth being the disgrace of the family and alone.
 
I just recently came out of the closet. My family is asian culture, they are very strict and has little knowledge about gay. I came out because I don't want lie to my mom, because she wanted me to tell the truth. In you case what is the different or the benefit of coming out? If you feel it is worth of coming out then you should go for it.
 
Should you? Only you can know the answer to that. However, consider this--it sounds like your life is filled with people whose love is conditional. Coming out is the only way you're probably ever going to find someone whose love is not.
 
Makonai777 said:
Come out? Why does it matter? My parents are die-hard christians so i already know what they will say. Its bad enough I have to earn there love. And on top of that, my only friend in the world is anti gay also. Im just wondering if its worth it or not. worth being the disgrace of the family and alone.
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If you think that you'd lose your family and best friend, then it might not be a good idea to do it right now.
 
I think that you should come out.

And make it clear to your parents that you are not obliged to earn their love, only their respect.

And drop your 'friend' if he can't deal with it.

Once you're out, you'll feel a lot more freedom to actually find friends that love you for being you, not what they think you have to be.
 
You only get one chance at life. There are no do-overs.

If you're living your life for your family and your friends, then you aren't living.

Get new friends.

Stop trying to earn your parents love.
 
Some very good advice here. I have been in your shoes. Trust me, it's better to be who YOU really are, than to live in a mental prison cell.
 
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