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Well the last few months have been a lot for me... we are still semi-stalking each other online even after all this time and checking whenever the other makes a post (which I can see) but the intense lingering feelings/thoughts I was having about him have greatly diminished. I can tell he's still pretty lonely and sad in most of his posts (even when he smiles) since I've been the same way recently. Even worse, now I've been diagnosed with a possibly fatal illness and I'm seriously considering messaging him again and unloading everything about what happened and how I believe our friendship shouldn't have ended. Yes, I know it's probably a bad idea even if he agrees to reconnect, but I literally have nothing left to lose at this point. I still feel like this door is lingering open (for lack of better words) and I'm trying to seal up any open wounds. There's a good chance he'll be responsive and possibly will be there as someone to talk to for comfort, but I also feel like this may be a bad idea. What would you guys do in this situation?
 
Hello again
In my view , you shouldn't look for him , maybe my way of being is too drastic but when things happen with people , I block in order to permanently shut doors and ignore people who I called it quits with .

I think he is not the right person to share personal suffering with as he's got health issues of his own ( the addictions and the odd behaviour )
Is there any real friend or caring relative that you can open up to ? If you've been diagnosed with a serious illness I think you need to rely on quality people , either caring relatives or a real friend .
I'm not in your shoes , but I think you should just let go and move on ... If there's nobody to share your suffering with , I think you should strengthen yourself and stand the suffering by yourself . I'm not in your place , I lack friends , I may not have a fatal illness, but I've got health issues that I have to bear on my own ( my closest relatives are cold and distant and it's a waste of time to share my suffering with them as they just can't / won't understand ) and it really hurts to bear my suffering all by myself , but it is what it is ... I think one has to be strong ... no matter what ... I know it sounds easier said than done but that's my piece of advice

Good Luck
 
I think you should move on and leave him be. I agree with Frankfab that once I block someone, I am closing the door and moving on. You do not want to go through that rabbit hole again.
 
frankifab said:
Hello again
In my view , you shouldn't look for him , maybe my way of being is too drastic but when things happen with people , I block in order to permanently shut doors and ignore people who I called it quits with .

I think he is not the right person to share personal suffering with as he's got health issues of his own ( the addictions and the odd behaviour )
Is there any real friend or caring relative that you can open up to ? If you've been diagnosed with a serious illness I think you need to rely on quality people , either caring relatives or a real friend .
I'm not in your shoes , but I think you should just let go and move on ... If there's nobody to share your suffering with , I think you should strengthen yourself and stand the suffering by yourself . I'm not in your place , I lack friends , I may not have a fatal illness, but I've got health issues that I have to bear on my own ( my closest relatives are cold and distant and it's a waste of time to share my suffering with them as they just can't / won't understand ) and it really hurts to bear my suffering all by myself , but it is what it is ... I think one has to be strong ... no matter what ... I know it sounds easier said than done but that's my piece of advice

Good Luck
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Unfortunately, the friends I thought would support me through this have not been there. It's been a devastating realization, but I have to be strong on my own like you said I guess.
 
I can relate to a lot of what you wrote about and I am truly sorry man. I have had friendships like that and I also need a bigger support system. I would be glad to talk to you and try to be supportive. I wish you the best man.
 
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