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Should You take a Drunk Guy Serious?
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Okay I was hanging out with this guy who I see all the time last night but he was drunk.
I usually walk past their apts everyday & say hi and sometimes him and his friends are grilling or drinking or both and thats when they want to stop & talk to me lol
so this time the guy i was hanging with was asking me about psychology (i am a psych major) and then he wanted me to come and talk to him. And was acting kinda weird lol and was telling me his life story preety much an he got close to me alot and told me to look in his eyes ( and these lil moments drove me crazy & i wanted to kiss him) but he said hey im not a faggot or nothin' lol I was like i know lol and then he started telling me how good of a person i am and how were good friends now and so i said id better be going cause i wanted to go home & cook an i was gonna call it a night but i wanted to go back out there and talk to him for some reason and i did an we were just sitting and talking till 4 30 in the morning and i went back out there at 10:00 so

the bottom line is

Should I take him seriously? Cause him an his friends only decide to stop & talk when they are drunk otherwise its how ya doin and keep it moving

but eventhough he was drunk we really connected but i really think its because he was drunk

so do you guys think it was just a fluke or will we be friends now?

oh an he is str8 with a gf
 
sounds like he feels a very close connection to you, however i don't think he wants to sleep with you
 
He could very well be attracted to you where he ignores it when he's sober. This means it isn't worth the trouble of hoping for anything. If he starts chatting you up sober then look into being actual friends perhaps?
 
He's comfortable with you and he likes you..Be open to him, he trusted you when he was drunk...and vulberable..
 
it's possible but i wouldn't be so sure. when i'm drunk i can be pretty physical and some people have read into it too much. i think some people just come across like they are interested when they're drunk and maybe even up for some play, and even if they act on it they might regret it afterwards. it's a really awkward situation, especially if you see this guy a lot

it's probably not a good idea to get too attached to this guy without getting to know him sober first

i know from first hand experience that being drunk doesn't bring the truth out, like some people think. it just throws all rational thinking out the window
 
thanks for all the responses I preety much got that hes not interested in me

i am just wondering if when he is sober will things be different and i havent quite seen that yet. I just dont like having a friendship start off so strong then fall by the wayside the week after but i guess i will just roll with it
 
some people are just happy drunks, and really like to chat

like my brother in law, one cup of rum, he'll just go to bed,

2 cups of rum, he'll bar-b-cue and go to bed

any more rum, he's gonna talk about nothing and smile 'til his face hurts.

same with my stepdad in foster care,

1 giant cup of whiskey and he will tell you he loves you 50 times in 50 seconds. and then demand that you help him get to bed,

(and he will really need the help)
 
Sounds like he likes you and trusts you and opened up to you (which was a big deal to him) but is not into guy on guy stuff. BUT... see how he is afterwards when he's sober.

If he's still chummy with you, then be friends. If not, then he's a friendly drunk.

If you get a "mixed" vibe from him again, and on friendly terms, make a joke out of "you're very lucky I didn't kiss you that night, but I know you're straight ha ha and off limits" and see how that goes over. If you sleep with him, you MUST tell us (and pictures would be nice). ..|

One word of warning: if you do end up just friends, let it be just friends. Don't waste your time trying to get it something else.

And if you do bag him, it is probably a onetime thing. Low expectations, dude.

I had TONS so straight guy friends who all said "if I had to have sex with a guy it would be you". And the few that I encouraged to think about it, got a little freaked about the mechanics, lol.
 
I would never take a drunk guy seriously!

He sounds like a great guy and great friend, but "it is what it is"; even if he made a move, chances are, he wouldn't want a gay relationship.

Appreciate it for what it is, set your expectations low, and you'll be happy.
 
Nah, I don't think you should get any hopes up either. People are just more open and emotional when drunk. Or he might have been going through a rough patch with his other friends and needed someone else whom he could talk to. What I'm saying is that there are a million and one factors and reasons why he was suddenly so chummy with you. It is very unlikely that he's into you romantically if he says he's not interested even while drunk and vulnerable.

Don't at disheartened in the least by this though. This guy can't help the fact that he's straight any more than you can help that you're gay. He obviously thinks highly of you and treasures your bond. In other words, he loves you as much as he is capable of. So you must be doing something right. =)
 
texan_slant said:
Appreciate it for what it is, set your expectations low, and you'll be happy.
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^ probably the most sound advice.

I've been in numerous situations where this kind of thing goes on, sometimes you strike lucky and other times you don't.

I've come to the conclusion though that in most cases the men involved are 100% straight, comfortable with their sexuality and simply enjoy the attention that you're showing them.
 
okay

Sidebar- IF ANYONE READ THE OP YOU WOULD READ THAT I WAS ASKING WHETHER YOU GUYS THINK WE WOULD BE FRIENDS I DIDNT SAY I WANTED HIM OR HE WANTED ME OR THAT I THINK HES GAY NONE OF THAT BUT YET MOST OF THE RESPONSES ARE OH HE MAY NOT BE INTO YOU ROMANTICLY OR WHATEVER THATS NOT WHAT I WAS ASKING

(SIGH)
 
Considering how many guys, including myself, responded to what they thought was romantic advice, perhaps you weren't that clear.
 
Tomas CT said:
Considering how many guys, including myself, responded to what they thought was romantic advice, perhaps you weren't that clear.
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No you guys are just used to ppul cryin on here about how they think a stra8 dude is gay so its almost a knee jerk reaction imo

I Was damn clear
 
Tomas CT said:
Considering how many guys, including myself, responded to what they thought was romantic advice, perhaps you weren't that clear.
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Agreed.

Lewis1 said:
I Was damn clear
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FYI, there is something to be said with regards to people taking their valuable time to even respond - including me.

Lewis1 said:
okay

IF ANYONE READ THE OP YOU WOULD READ THAT I WAS ASKING WHETHER YOU GUYS THINK WE WOULD BE FRIENDS I DIDNT SAY I WANTED HIM OR HE WANTED ME OR THAT I THINK HES GAY NONE OF THAT BUT YET MOST OF THE RESPONSES ARE OH HE MAY NOT BE INTO YOU ROMANTICLY OR WHATEVER THATS NOT WHAT I WAS ASKING

(SIGH)
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Asking whether or not you guys'll develop a friendship is a moot point right now, cuz everyone defines friendship differently and you have to allow it to develop over time.

For example, all of my friends aren't just hang-out buddies, they are also family, and also soul-mates who I've known for 20 years. If you've been 'round the block like many of us, you'd also know that friendships come and go - and if they "go", you kind of have to take it for what it is.

With all due respect, just from reading your posts, I will stereotype -

You have no patience, otherwise you wouldn't go all caps on everyone, and "SIGH" with frustration; not to mention, you're asking a question about whether or not we think that you and someone are gonna be friends, when in fact, the ball is in your court; not our's.

Friendships - they're all 'bout patience and non-judging, so heed this advice: they take time.
 
texan_slant said:
Agreed.



FYI, there is something to be said with regards to people taking their valuable time to even respond - including me.



Asking whether or not you guys'll develop a friendship is a moot point right now, cuz everyone defines friendship differently and you have to allow it to develop over time.

For example, all of my friends aren't just hang-out buddies, they are also family, and also soul-mates who I've known for 20 years. If you've been 'round the block like many of us, you'd also know that friendships come and go - and if they "go", you kind of have to take it for what it is.

With all due respect, just from reading your posts, I will stereotype -

You have no patience, otherwise you wouldn't go all caps on everyone, and "SIGH" with frustration; not to mention, you're asking a question about whether or not we think that you and someone are gonna be friends, when in fact, the ball is in your court; not our's.

Friendships - they're all 'bout patience and non-judging, so heed this advice: they take time.
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I dont have that much experience in dealing with guys who are drunk is all

jeesh
 
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