"Shy Bladder Syndrome"

[LonelyFace]

(I'm assuming Bladdivan isn't real)

If the title didn't make any sense to you, I'm talking about the whole peeing in public thing.

Like when you're standing in an empty bathroom and you're just about to piss into the urinal and then someone else comes in and starts using the urinal nearby and then all of a sudden you can't go. Or if you have to go to the bathroom and someone's already using a urinal but you have to pee, too.

This happens to me all the time. I can't go if the bathroom isn't empty, and if someone else comes in while i'm going, I all of a sudden stop going (even though I'll still have to go) and won't be able to finish emptying my bladder unless I go into a stall and sit there for a while. I've tried avoiding using public bathrooms altogether, but I don't think it's a good idea. It's really irritating and embarrassing for me, and I have no idea what to do. I can only hold it in for so long!

Am I right in assuming I'm not the only one with this problem? Is there anyone out there who maybe overcame the same problem or someone who's going through it right now? Any advice would be greatly appreciated.

 

[vadersapprentice]

You are certainly not the only person with this problem : )

This is purely psychological. I am no psychologist but I'm willing to bet that it has something to do with the fact that from child-age, we are reared to think of our private parts as shameful and peeing or pooping are shameful acts.

I personally focus intensely on a spot on the wall or try to picture myself in the woods near a large waterfall. Or you could try flushing and then begin to pee- sometimes the distraction of sound helps.

 

[jft245]

I used to have the same problem. For some reason I used to feel that if someone else was standing at a urinal near me they were checking out the size of my penis and that made me uncomfortable and my bladder closed up like someone turned off the water faucet. Now that I am older it doesn't seem to bother me as much but I still can't use the type of urinal that more than on person can stand at. I use the same method as vadersapprentice, stare straight ahead and focus on the wall in front of you.

 

[shea]

No, you are certainly not the only one with this problem.
I have no problem taking a shower in publc whatsoever.
No issues about nudity at all, but try to take a leak at
a urinal with someone next to me forget it.
However once the stream starts it doesn't stop if someone
comes up next to me to use urinal. Very frustrating at times.
shea

 

[miaedu]

I never knew anyone with this until I dated someone suffering with it. He taught me patience and I gave him confidence.

 

[ChickenGuy]

I've had this problem for years but have gotten used to it so much that I don't find it annoying and in fact I seem to have 'trained' my bladder so that I rarely ever need to go when I'm out anywhere

But if I do have to go I'll try and find a cubicle

And if it's really crowded and all the cubicles are locked then I just pretend that I came in to wash my hands... LOL

 

[LonelyFace]

This is purely psychological. I am no psychologist but I'm willing to bet that it has something to do with the fact that from child-age, we are reared to think of our private parts as shameful and peeing or pooping are shameful acts.

Yeah, I bet you're right. I kinda had issues with going to the bathroom when I was a kid (don't ask why, 'cause I'm not really sure. It's all a repressed blur back there), so I suppose that could be it. But I think maybe it's more the whole oh no what if he's gay and checking me out thing. :/ I dunno.

I personally focus intensely on a spot on the wall or try to picture myself in the woods near a large waterfall. Or you could try flushing and then begin to pee- sometimes the distraction of sound helps.

Duh bathrooms don't have manual flushers anymore. Automatic is the way of the future, apparently. :/ I usually turn on the fan in my bathroom at home so nobody has to hear me pissing on the other side of the wall.
But I'll be sure to try the woods/waterfall/focus on a spot on the wall technique next time.