Sick of size queens

[jdcnow]

^ I'm proudly a 6. 6s RAWK!!!

 

[Agent Provocateur]

I might have a reasonably big one, but I greatly prefer the smaller ones. 6" or less is perfect for me.

 

[G-Lexington]

I hate this idea that because a guy was born a certain way, he has to attempt to rush his heart into a relationship instead of being free to attempt the same sex everyone else is having.

Generic you throughout.

You can try conforming reality around your expectations, or you can try setting your expectations around reality. In the hook-up world, gay guys are drawn to well-endowed guys, and are less inclined towards smaller guys. There's nothing wrong with going the hook-up route, of course. You can either be honest about your size and get (presumably) fewer responses, or not mention it and deal with both the questions ("so how big is it?") and the potential for rejections once the guy gets to take your pants down. It's been my experience that if one goes the dating route, rejection based on size simply doesn't happen all that often...because the guy has decided at that point that the guy's worth having, no matter what's in his pants. Yes, that means less sex, but it also means less rejection. There are a lot fewer "size queens" when it comes to the dating scene, simply because if it's that important to a guy, they're usually off hooking up rather than looking for a relationship.

Lex

 

[peeonme]

I think that I'm a total bottom but my dick is big, around 8 inches or so and I just find it a turn off if the dude that would be fucking me was noticeably smaller. however i'm straight/curious only been with girls & i've haven't been with a guy yet so I get my perceptions from porn but when I see a small dick I can't get into the guy generally, I mean less than 5-6 inches. Big dicks are an instant turn on for me I wanna ride one so bad while my monster flops around on him hmmmmph :c

I understand what you are saying, it's like str8 guys who want girls with big boobs... I think that once a person grabs the brass ring and finds the dick of their dreams that it becomes pretty ho-hum, they might start to ask themselves if the person attached to the whopper has a brain, can they think? Sex is great, but what the hell do you do after the orgasm?
I get your fantasy, but I think once you achieve it you might want a human being to be with, regardless of dick size.

 

[FPNY]

I understand what you are saying, it's like str8 guys who want girls with big boobs... I think that once a person grabs the brass ring and finds the dick of their dreams that it becomes pretty ho-hum, they might start to ask themselves if the person attached to the whopper has a brain, can they think? Sex is great, but what the hell do you do after the orgasm?
I get your fantasy, but I think once you achieve it you might want a human being to be with, regardless of dick size.

Excellent, also, can the person that dick is attached to hold a job or a half intelligent conversation. Not that big dick boys can't think or speak. There is too much emphasis placed on the cock. I'm sorry the OP had to hear an asshole insult him.

 

[mikey3000]

As one friend on here so kindly explained to me when I was new, "Guys who only seek out big dicks are usually just big assholes. " I found that advice to be so true. If the guy is charming, I can make anything I find down there work.

 

[birddog7]

^ I'm proudly a 6. 6s RAWK!!!

Nothing wrong with being average. I agree, guys who are at least average should be proud...

 

[glasvegas]

Nothing wrong with being average. I agree, guys who are at least average should be proud...

And those who aren't....should perish in hell!

 

[birddog7]

And those who aren't....should perish in hell!

Not hell, but being smaller has caused me plenty of grief over the years...

 

[G-Lexington]

And not for nothing, most guys who want relationships still would rather have that with someone who's penis isn't laughably small. Just because a guy is a "size queen" doesn't mean he's only into hooking up. That can't be further from the truth. That simply means he's adding "nice penis" to all of the other qualities he wants in a partner, long-term. It happens quite often.

My thought is that the "standards" (if you have to use that term) change from one to the other. People tend to have different qualifications for hook-ups than they do for partners. Hook-ups have everything to do with the sexual act, and so not only is everything concentrated into that act, it's usually magnified. They don't want someone "not overly small" - they want someone hung. They don't want someone who "isn't terrible in bed" - they want someone who "can fuck all night". Moving into the realm of relationships seems to minimize (but not eliminate) those people. So many other attributes get added to the list in terms of personality, compatibility, and so on. You're much more likely to see a guy with a five-incher called "laughably small" in the hook-up game than in the relationship realm.

As far as the rest of it, I dunno. I don't think I got a great hand in the hook-up deal. I'm not the sort of guy you could strip naked (or remain clothed) and stand against the wall with twenty other guys, and watch me get picked that often. Not even when I was twenty. I realized that I didn't have the hot-face-hot-body that made me a go-to when it came to hooking up. But I never found it blatantly unfair, either. I just realized my talents lay elsewhere. I found if I approached other guys, and chatted with them, and worked the personality angle, I could sometimes get them interested. Yeah, if they were only interested in models with eleven-inchers, I was out of luck. But by revealing my personality to people, they found something else to latch onto and find intriguing. Maybe this falls on either side of the hook-up/relationship dynamic, depending on your point of view. It obviously works better at a bar than, say, on Grindr.

Lex

 

[peeonme]

Not hell, but being smaller has caused me plenty of grief over the years...

I am at 5 1/2", I have not been active in a gay way since I got married at the age of 20. All of my gay sex experience was in my teen years, I think every guy I was with was bigger than me, one had about 3" on me, he blew me and then I topped him, he did not laugh.
I will admit that I got the hell teased out of me in the 6th grade, it was the first year for mandatory showers in gym class.
I hated it, but survived, it took me a few years to get over the stigma of not being "hung" perhaps fucking a few guys that were hung helped, my friend, it's all in the head, not the one at the end of our cock I might add, we project an image to others, I can not tell you how to gain some self esteem, it works a little differently for all of us, but I am sure a few more inches of cock would not do it, I have known guys with well over 6" and they think that they are small.

 

[Harke the Boeotarch]

I don't care one bit about the size of that piece of meat... that's attached to the back of the enormous penis.

 

[birddog7]

LOL.

You are average.

I don't agree. I have read many scientific penis size studies, including their methodology, and I have info to support an average of 6 to 6.5 inches,

I am at 5 1/2", I have not been active in a gay way since I got married at the age of 20. All of my gay sex experience was in my teen years, I think every guy I was with was bigger than me, one had about 3" on me, he blew me and then I topped him, he did not laugh.
I will admit that I got the hell teased out of me in the 6th grade, it was the first year for mandatory showers in gym class.
I hated it, but survived, it took me a few years to get over the stigma of not being "hung" perhaps fucking a few guys that were hung helped, my friend, it's all in the head, not the one at the end of our cock I might add, we project an image to others, I can not tell you how to gain some self esteem, it works a little differently for all of us, but I am sure a few more inches of cock would not do it, I have known guys with well over 6" and they think that they are small.

Your experience has been similar to mine. I was ridiculed in school over my penis size, and I never really got over that. I see you have also found that 5 to 5.5 inches isn't average. Until someone offers real scientific evidence, I accept 6 to 6.5 inches as average.

I really believe, that had I been average or above, and not gone through that ridicule when I was young and impressionable, that my life would have been very different. I don't think I would have feared relationships and or sex the way I have. I don't believe I would be 52 and never been in any relationship or ever even had sex with a partner. It's far more complex than that now, but I really believe that it started with the ridicule over my size. I also believe that there is very little chance of ever changing my life now. It's just been too long, it's just too late. I really wish I'd never been born...

 

[peeonme]

I don't agree. I have read many scientific penis size studies, including their methodology, and I have info to support an average of 6 to 6.5 inches,



Your experience has been similar to mine. I was ridiculed in school over my penis size, and I never really got over that. I see you have also found that 5 to 5.5 inches isn't average. Until someone offers real scientific evidence, I accept 6 to 6.5 inches as average.

I really believe, that had I been average or above, and not gone through that ridicule when I was young and impressionable, that my life would have been very different. I don't think I would have feared relationships and or sex the way I have. I don't believe I would be 52 and never been in any relationship or ever even had sex with a partner. It's far more complex than that now, but I really believe that it started with the ridicule over my size. I also believe that there is very little chance of ever changing my life now. It's just been too long, it's just too late. I really wish I'd never been born...

I don't think that I said I wasn't in the average range, how ever if I am not I don't care, in the grand scheme of things wtf is an inch?
I sure as hell won't let a silly inch be the ruler of my life,(pun intended).
5" in my ass feels no different than 7" my ass does not have a built in peter meter.
I wish I could help you, but, you must want help, you seem to hang on to this penis problem and torment yourself with it.
This seems to tell me that it is more than size in this issue, I at one time hated myself, only because I listened to those around me.
One day I came to the realization that these folks were full of shit, dude, you are a good guy, please accept that.

 

[glasvegas]

I don't agree. I have read many scientific penis size studies, including their methodology, and I have info to support an average of 6 to 6.5 inches,



Your experience has been similar to mine. I was ridiculed in school over my penis size, and I never really got over that. I see you have also found that 5 to 5.5 inches isn't average. Until someone offers real scientific evidence, I accept 6 to 6.5 inches as average.

I really believe, that had I been average or above, and not gone through that ridicule when I was young and impressionable, that my life would have been very different. I don't think I would have feared relationships and or sex the way I have. I don't believe I would be 52 and never been in any relationship or ever even had sex with a partner. It's far more complex than that now, but I really believe that it started with the ridicule over my size. I also believe that there is very little chance of ever changing my life now. It's just been too long, it's just too late. I really wish I'd never been born...

Alright that's it. Someone needs to tell you this.

I understand that being ridicule when you're young for small penis has a psychological impact on you hence you sort of put up as psychological barrier. But, that's not an excuse. You spent half of your life keep thinking of I got a small penis and I can't get a shag. Don't you think that's a bit pathetic? Penis is just a penis. Mine is even smaller (way below average) than you but that doesn't stop me from shoving it into someone's ass. You know why? Because I don't care. You don't like my size, fine, get out of my bed. I'll find another one. Your life is beyond your penis size. Don't let it define you. Now, I want you to really think about this, you're 52, you don't have much time left, use your time to redeem yourself. Go out, meet people, find someone you like, be confident and talk to him/her.

I hope i'll see more positive post from you near future. Life is depressing enough, we all need some positive energy.

 

[Latimer]

A former boyfriend, one of the best lovers and greatest, most charismatic guys I've known, is probably about 4 1/2, and the fucking was always amazing. Amazing enough that it never occurred to me that it would be better were he bigger.

 

[tcrawford18]

For me I can only get turned on by guys that are like, 7" or bigger. But it's because I've been with guys that are small, and guys that are big, and when I'm with a guy that's big it feels so much better, their dick hits the right spot and I feel full, satisfied. It's just pure science that men with bigger dicks can satisfy their lovers better.

 

[jmadaf]

Everybody has there prefrence, but if you love to suck, can't see turning down 5 inches, that's big enough for me, sucking and getting fucked. Don't waste your time on jerks, there's more cock out there.

 

[eastofeden]

For me I can only get turned on by guys that are like, 7" or bigger. But it's because I've been with guys that are small, and guys that are big, and when I'm with a guy that's big it feels so much better, their dick hits the right spot and I feel full, satisfied. It's just pure science that men with bigger dicks can satisfy their lovers better.

LOL...er...ahem...your personal preference is "pure science"? Seriously?

 

[GamerBear]

LOL.

You are average.

In one ear out the other... He ONLY believes he's tiny.