sick of the "all bi guys are just gay in denial" tag

[mike_n_herrin]

/\ agreed x2. If we continue this stupid argument here instead of via a PM, I will start deleting them from this thread.

I have noticed some folks slamming the bi guys about them just really being gay. I try to shut those things down when I see them. We are not here to tell someone else what their sexuality is or isn't. I'm equally tired of seeing it and try to deal with it when i do.

 

[blackbeltninja]

I have noticed some folks slamming the bi guys about them just really being gay. I try to shut those things down when I see them.

Cheers - I for one appreciate that.

It's bad enough that there is so much bitterness between the gay and bi guys in here. It becomes completely counterproductive when guys who are just starting to accept themselves get torn apart when they state their positions, and end up leaving angry and confused and no better off than when they came looking for advice and support from like-minded individuals in the first place.

It would be wonderful if some of our more vocal members realised that the tough love approach does not have a 100% success rate, and also that their opinions aren't correct 100% of the time.

-d-

 

[lovespells]

Okay I kinda think like that sometimes.... but Im sure theres some bi's that are actually bi.

From my experience, the guys I see are like Really? YOU wanna sleep w a girl?

My ex that was uncomf w his sexuality said he was totally bi. I watch str8 porn that was MINE w him and he didnt really get hard.
"Would you ever a girl?"
"Not really"
"Would you a girl?"
"No. Gross."
"Okay would you kiss a girl or finger her or squeeze her boobs?"
"I wouldnt finger her but yeah"

And I kinda thought that was retarded b/c I did those things & I know better than to label myself Bisexual.....

And thats how it is for a lot of bi guys that Ive ran into. They wouldnt fuck a girl....

Unless youre willing to fall in love w a girl and go out w her and youve been "OUT" for more than 4 years I highly doubt their sexuality.

I have yet to be proven wrong but I know it'll happen eventually.

I just know theres not as many bi people out there as you see.

 

[lovespells]

Oh and by the way I dont belittle these guys but I dig for the truth. Im not an asshole Im just putting in my 2 cents. So I dont wanna fucking hear "OMG you're so hypocritical" "what if the tables were turned" ORRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRR
none of that crap.
I know theres Complete bisexual people out there, just that Ive only found bicurious ones.... and a lot of people are bicurious.
Not a lot of people fit into the description of BISEXUAL

 

[Lewis1]

Human sexuality has too many nuances to be labeled in three categories

there are truly some guys who are atrracted to both sexes equally and some more than others

 

[wonderfulwilkinson]

You know what? Just throwing this one out there, because it has been something running through my mind a lot: sexually isn't as much about who you have sex with as it is about who you are (I can't find a great word for it, so...) romantically attracted to.

How does everyone feel about that statement (because, really, it is just a thought)?

 

[wonderfulwilkinson]

You know what? Just throwing this one out there, because it has been something running through my mind a lot: sexually isn't as much about who you have sex with as it is about who you are (I can't find a great word for it, so...) romantically attracted to.

How does everyone feel about that statement (because, really, it is just a thought)?

It's weird, because there's straight, bisexual, gay... With bisexual and especially with bicurious, guys are sometimes not "romantically" attracted toward one way, for example, but may be sexually attracted to either sex, nevertheless. The lines are so blurry.

 

[gsrdj2001]

You know what? Just throwing this one out there, because it has been something running through my mind a lot: sexually isn't as much about who you have sex with as it is about who you are (I can't find a great word for it, so...) romantically attracted to.

How does everyone feel about that statement (because, really, it is just a thought)?

I think I would have to agree with you bud. I honestly comldnt picture myself being romantically involved with another man, it seems unatrual to me.

 

[Design]

What I hate (and it got me and my best friend arguing) is that apparently, being "bi" is to get people used to the fact that I sleep with guys so then I can come out as Gay.

Couldn't be more wrong, sure I enjoy guys but I also enjoy girls. Apparently not everyone wants to believe that.