Silly Butterflies

[klbaud]

I'm not out and this story might get lengthy.

I have this friend (let's call him Edward) who i've known for a few years now. I'm confused with how he looks at me but I can't help but think that he is sometimes dropping hints.

Edward used to have this best friend who was obviously gay for him, though he's never admitted it. They ended their friendship on bad terms and they hardly speak to each other anymore. I've talked to this friend (let's call him Jack) and he's told me some of the intimate moments he's shared with Edward. Experiences including having several 'bromance' dates, and holding hands at one point. I sorta have feelings for Edward, and Jack's experiences with him kinda hints to me that he might be gay.

So the last few days I've hung out with Edward with our group of friends. This one day, he and I went to buy food for everyone, just the two of us. I expected nothing from it. On the way there, he managed to find some chips in my car. It was at the drivethru of some fastfood restaurant where we first shared an a 'moment' together.

I asked him if he'd share some of the chips he was eating. I tried my luck and just opened my mouth signaling him to actually put a chip in my mouth with his hand. He actually did and he did this twice. The second time my lips lightly brushed his fingers and this is when he says, 'you just kissed my hand' and we laugh and ignore it.

And there was this one time when he tapped my nose playfully with his finger and would just pretend like that was some casual friendly thing to do.

These little things might sound ridiculous but I got the wildest butterflies when these moments happened. The only problem is, Edward is really blank when it comes to emotions and expressing how he feels. I feel that the pressure of society is what's pulling him back but at the same time I feel like it maybe something else? Is this hopeless? I just want to know if he might actually be hiding the same feelings I have for him? What should I say or do that might not be too obvious and not too straight forward, but enough to get a response (and obviously, I don't want sex)?

Thanks guys.

 

[klbaud]

Oh and sorry for the weird stars. I'm on my iPod touch and it did that strangely. Sorry to double post too.

 

[Corny]

hooray for apple I substituted the *s with blanks

 

[Female]

Is this friend of yours generally affectionate to his friends?

I think only you can answer your own question on this one, I think one can definitely tell if the other is in to them or not so read the signs (the way he's looking at you..etc) the best you can and all I advise you to do is continue flirting back and forth and see where it goes.

 

[rareboy]

Tell him you're gay and see what happens.

Before you get too far down the wrong apth.

 

[klbaud]

Is this friend of yours generally affectionate to his friends?

I think only you can answer your own question on this one, I think one can definitely tell if the other is in to them or not so read the signs (the way he's looking at you..etc) the best you can and all I advise you to do is continue flirting back and forth and see where it goes.

No he's not generally affectionate to his friends. These moments are just so random and it's hard to read him because he doesn't show his emotions well. So it's all confusing for me, because there'll be times where he seems like he wants to be closer. :/ Thanks for the responses!

 

[texan_slant]

Unless you see it, witness it, or experience it yourself, don't assume that he's gay;

You never know whether or not you are setting your expectations based on nothing - unless you come out to him, and tell him that yuo're interested. Until then, all this wondering might become borderline-obssessive.

 

[klbaud]

Unless you see it, witness it, or experience it yourself, don't assume that he's gay;

You never know whether or not you are setting your expectations based on nothing - unless you come out to him, and tell him that yuo're interested. Until then, all this wondering might become borderline-obssessive.

Oh man, I think you're absolutely right. Thanks!