Silverdaddies? Need help.

[slimbum]

Hey guys,

Curious to weather what you guys think of silverdaddies and what your reviews are on it and have you been successful. I've seen a few guys I am interested in but i am limited to the 2 message thing. I want to subscribe but I don't want the card holder to see on the bill that I'm bi if it comes up. When you purchase a subscription does it reoccur? Also does the site and gay stuff come up on card holders bill etc. I am not ready to be exposed. Thanks.

 

[pat grimshaw]

fair enough

 

[1091MAC]

You could contact the billing company and ask what will come up on your bill. More than likely it will just be the name of the billing company like ccbill or segpay.

I have purchased subscriptions to porn sites and have never had a problem, it's all discreet. But I get the impression that you might be using someone else's card, which you should not do. The card holder can contact the billing company and find out what site you bought a subscription to. Plus its wrong. Don't do it.

Most sites will have automatic rebilling unless you click a one time fee and that is a little more money. I suggest you either do that or cancel the subscription after you buy it so you will not be billed again.

 

[antiqueboat]

SD uses ccbill for billing, which appears as a generic line on the credit card bill, but if the card is not yours, I would advise against it. They also accept paypal if you have an account there. SD does not automatically renew, you will receive an e-mail about 10 days before expiration, and if you do not renew, your account will revert to non-supporting membership. Should you renew late, no data will be lost. I hope that answers your questions. Look for me sometime there.

 

[fetaby]

I want to subscribe but I don't want the card holder to see on the bill that I'm bi if it comes up.

Sooooo, is the cardholder your wife or your parents?

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[Orlandude]

Not a good idea using someone else's credit card. Credit cards are VERY traceable. If the person who owns the credit card decides to challenge the charge, they can demand that the credit card company investigate the charge and the details about what was charged. If you don't have your own credit card, get a Pay Pal account.

 

[4older]

SD used to take PayPal but was told a couple of years ago from the admin that they don't anymore. Paypal had a major crack down on anything that was related to sex a few years back.

SD is the most reasonable subscription service out there. $15 for three months is pretty damn good. As a suggestion, how about getting one of those reloadable VISA cards? Not sure where you're located but you can get them all over North America in various stores or at the post office.

 

[altlover85]

I'm confused as to why you don't have your own credit card and thus can avoid this whole problem.

Is it an issue of bad credit or what?

 

[nbluth]

Couldn't you just go buy one of those Visa gift cards and use that?

 

[WestCoastWilson]

Silverdaddies is completely discreet. Nobody outside of the site will know you are bi. It just says 'CCBill' on the CC statement which you could explain away as anything. Be creative. You have to enter your name and address when you go to the CCBill site but it never goes any further than that. It's just for an automated check to make sure the card you are using is registered to the address you've given and bears the correct cardholder name. But if you falsify any of that, the owner of the card you're using may get a phone call from the card company advising of attempted fraud.

Is Silverdaddies any good? That's another question altogether. I've been a subscriber for 3 years now and had no luck. Chatted briefly with a few guys but that's all it's ever come to. They say they want to meet, you say you want to meet, they don't follow through. Great eye-candy of course, but I don't get many messages. As a place for making friends, it's limited. But if all you want is a hook-up and you're prepared to travel, it's probably OK. Just don't expect too much.

I think Caffmos is better, the men on there seem to be more honest and sincere. And a lot of the guys on Silverdaddies are also on Caffmos. But you still get your fair share of guys who won't show a face pic. I doubt I'll be renewing my Silverdaddies subscription this year.

I agree with The General in regards to his answer to “Is Silverdaddies any good?” About 6 years ago, when I search for various online connection/dating websites, I paid to have a subscription for my personal ads on those websites. However like what The General said when he said “Chatted briefly with a few guys but that's all it's ever come to. They say they want to meet, you say you want to meet, they don't follow through. Great eye-candy of course, but I don't get many messages.” That was my case with about 99.9% of all of the “paid” and “free” connection/dating websites I was a member of 6 years ago. Fast forward 6 years later, I now see no reason to pay for any connection/dating website, because in my case, the bottom line 99.9% of the time, the guys I wanted to meet, never followed through. So when I helped a 54 year old friend of mine, who is not internet savvy, set up a profile with a photo on Silver Daddies about 3 years ago, the exact same thing happen to him EXACTLY as The General described. Yet since Silver Daddies will give you 2 free contacts per day (either to write to someone or let you respond to someone who wrote to you), my friend never got more than 5 replies per month. So even if you get 5 replies in one day, you can get them all answered in 3 days. Yet one thing that I would recommend is, ALWAYS put your email address in your reply or response and let whoever you are writing to know that you do not have a paid subscription and request that they write to you at your email address.

I know that the people behind these connection / dating websites can not control their millions of flaky members/users, but since it seems that so many guys on these type websites flake-out when it comes time to try to meet, I see no reason to pay for a subscription since you would be paying to get VERY sub-sub-sub-sub-sub quality men. Just looking at what I and many of my friends have been through over the past 10 or so years, when it comes to trying to meet men online, I would say you are far better off meeting men in person . . . because at least you are able to see them in person “at least that one time” vs. the games that so many of these internet guys like to play by stringing you along online, yet give you every excuse in the book as to why they can’t meet you in person, when it comes time to set up a date to meet in person. Yet mind you, none of these guys never tell you to go pound sand . . . so what they end up doing, for some weird twisted reason of theirs, they want to keep you on the hook so they never ever say that they are not interested in you or that they have changed their mind about meeting you . . . for these guys, they seem to get off by keeping your hopes up that they will soon meet you for a date (yet in reality, they have absolutely no intention of every going out on a date with you), yet that seems to be the game of choice for these FLAKY guys. LOL!!! I agree with The General when he said “Just don't expect too much.”, in regard to trying to meet someone on Silver Daddies.

Good luck!

Wilson

 

[altlover85]

One other quick note, since this is talking about silverdaddies and online dating.

I would have a face picture and wouldn't waste more than a month at most as far as trying to meet someone, especially if he is local.

 

[mcbrion]

ANY site's being "good" is a matter of how mature the individual is. The site itself is nothing but a virtual space for older men and men who want older men.
I've met guys, but I think it's easier in big cities because the transportation/distance thing is very challenging to many guys. Also, there's the assumption that if someone doesn't meet you, they're a flake. Please keep in mind that there is a human being behind the screen, one who may have just lost his job, or is having health issues, or the house was damaged during a natural disaster.
If you exhibit compassion -- at least up until the point where the other person isn't contributing to your meeting them -- then you will be able to navigate without bitterness or frustration. If your expectations PRECEDE the men you are trying to meet, withdraw until you can say to yourself, "I have no idea who this person truly is, so I can't make a valid assessment of whether they're 'real' or not."
Some people create a fantasy and when reality doesn't match, they diss the person or site. Come prepared as an adult with hope, but without expectations, and you'll find some guys are truly interested, some are kinda interested, some are interested only in sex, some are interested in YOU, and some are just incapable of actually meeting a person in the flesh (which means, they're wounded and wounded people should get compassion, not scorn).
I've been on SD for years, met about 10 guys, although many other profess wanting to meet me - and I, them -- but sometimes it doesn't happen. The last guy I met, we were buddies (no sex) and met twice. He is a psychiatrist and wrote me a letter saying lets cut off contact (it didn't bother me, since I'd never professed anything except a social relationship), but if he'd asked, he would have been told I'm having some ongoing medical issues that haven't yet been diagnosed correctly, and I'm a bit down about it, so I haven't felt all that social. But he didn't ask, he assumed. And I let it stay that way, because, if someone who has a psychiatric degree doesn't know to ask, "Is there some reason we're not hanging out more often?" then that's okay with me. Especially since I called several times, wrote emails and the like, just t keep in touch.
The point, again, is: you don't know what's happening behind the computer screen. But something is happening: LIFE. And it comes with unexpected events sometimes.

 

[WestCoastWilson]

Just to clarify my last posting. I know that we all have problems of all kinds . . . yet what I am saying that someone else's problems should not become "my" problems when it comes to trying to meet someone on an online connecting / dating website. Though my friends and I have gone through some very negative experiences over the years when it comes to trying to meet someone online, yet I believe that there are some “sincere” and “good” men out there . . . that is the only reason why we do not give up hope on meeting guys via online connection / dating websites. For sure, in my case 1/10th % of the guys I have met online are sincere, honest, and good. That 1/10th % do not play games or string you along, and they are honest and up front. Those are the types of men that I admire and show compassion for.

I am totally okay when I answer an ad and I don’t get a reply back . . . not even as much as a “Thanks, but no thanks." I am okay when someone answers my ad and I reply back, and they don’t reply back. Though I do not like this type of rudeness, when people do not acknowledge my email or message, yet that is very normal when it comes to trying to meet people online. Though personally, I have always replied back to every reply or response I have received . . . even if it was even me saying “Thanks, but no thanks.” I don’t have any expectations really other than for guys to be sincere, honest, up front, and not a game player. The way I feel is “Just speak up and say what’s on my mind! Don’t pretend you are interested in meeting me when you don’t intend to ever meeting me in the first place while you keep me waiting for days and weeks before you flake-out on me without at least telling me to go pound sand!” If I see someone’s personal ad and photo or if someone writes to me with their photo, I pretty much have to accept that they are being honest and the words are their own and the photo is of them (the reality of this connection, not a fantasy) . . . until something happens where I have cause to disbelieve them.

The pet peeve that my friends and I have is when guys (who live nearby to us, withing easy driving distance) have a regular ongoing email exchange with us for days or weeks or maybe even a month, while claiming that they are interested in meeting during all of this time, then when it comes time to set up a date with them, they either want to feed us every excuse in the book as to why they can not meet us or they just up and totally stop writing to us with no explanation at all. Mind you the correspondence is always positive and very attentive . . . without the slightest clue that they have no interest in meeting one day soon.

I feel if people have any type of issues that will prevent them from meeting people, then they should not be wasting peoples time by either running their own personal ads or them answering other peoples personal ads. Especially those that are incapable of actually meeting a person in the flesh. It is that plain and simple! I feel that if one who may have just lost his job, or is having health issues, or who’s house was damaged during a natural disaster . . . then trying to meet someone online “mayby” should not be their biggest priority at that moment. An internet connection / dating site is not for meeting people to dump your problems or troubles on them. Again, we all have problems, and there are many avenues to go for help and compassion, but an internet connection / dating site is not one of them in my book! I think that if someone has a current issue or an ongoing issue that will prevent them from meeting someone in a reasonable amount of time, yet they still want to meet people, then they should disclose this in their persona ad or in their reply to someone’s personal ad. Then let that person decide if they want to connect or not. I have a very good friend that is handicap. He is shy about meeting people due to him being handicap, yet what he does to subtly disclose his handicap is that he has a photo in his profile of him sitting in his wheelchair. I have seen hundreds of such ads over the years where people will blatantly tell you of their handicap or will subtly put that information in their personal ad. I myself have answered personal ads when guys were up front about their handicap in their ad, and I instantly liked them and had compassion for them galore. Every one of those handicap guys that I was in contact with were sincere, good, kind, honest men. I think honesty is the best policy, so I do not see the need to hide things from someone that is interested in trying to connect that person, yet the other person has issues that will prevent them from meeting that other person. “Oh please! Bite me!” Go take care of your problems, and come back when you will be honest and will actually have time to meet someone! This is where my compassion comes in, when people are honest and up front with me from the start . . . I most admire men who do not string me along and hide a problem that affects us trying to connect with each other.

Yet my last posting was in reference to guys (who are behind the screen) who purposely place or answer personal ads to purposely play games and string guys along for days and weeks AND have absolutely no intention of meeting whoever they have been in regular email or message contact with. Yet Godspeed to all of you out there that have been fortunate enough that this has never or very seldom happens to you. Yet again, I believe honest is the best policy. If you have problems that will affect the person that is trying to connect with you, then plead your case to them, then let that person decide if they want to connect or not with you.

Wilson

 

[thatdude313]

i find mixed results on Silverdaddies
ive only met 2 guys on there

One turned into a great fuck body back where my folks live that knows how to put it down.

The other was my ex-bf and lov of my life

Most guys are all talk. I mean i just wanna hang out with older guys and have some fun.

 

[mcbrion]

Well, if a guy responds to your ad and you KNOW he's playing games, he's part of the "fooling you is as good as fucking you" brigade. Which means he's mentally a bit unbalanced, and there's no point in railing against unbalanced people. And some people who think their thought processes are completely 'normal,' are sick and need help. But don't think that they KNOW they need help. A lot of people who need help, even if only one-on-one counseling, don't even recognize it. And I include some very famous people who didn't realize until late in life - if ever -- that they needed help. Sick people are rarely the best judges of ethical/moral uprightness.