Sleeping together but NOT sleeping together

[gsdx]

I think he's happy to have a friend with whom he can be himself and comfortable. It may progress into something more, but who knows? Guys don't need a reason to get an erection. Just because he was in your bed when you got one doesn't necessarily mean it was because of you.

Play it by ear and be grateful you have a friend you can share good times with.

 

[Homoerectus]

You have the potential to make a really good friend. Don't lose the opportunity. After your friendship blossoms, you may determine he really is your type. Let him sleep over as often as you are comfortable and it is convenient. If he puts the move on you, go along, participate and enjoy it. He may be looking only for companionship and a f-buddy.

 

[RicanDAB]

You say that the two of you recently met and that you already know that he's not your type. Perhaps he'll grow on you to be something more than friends? You never know ... you guys became friends and have entered each other's lives for a reason. I agree with others, go with the flow! Don't have expectations and don't push anything to go your way. Let nature determine if the two of you are to be friends or something more. This would prevent unnecessary stress from evolving.

 

[gotdimples77]

You never know ... you guys became friends and have entered each other's lives for a reason. I agree with others, go with the flow! Don't have expectations and don't push anything to go your way. Let nature determine if the two of you are to be friends or something more. This would prevent unnecessary stress from evolving.

I would be wary of attributing too great a teleological purpose in meeting someone new. but give him a chance. I would say that if he got a stiffy while in bed with you that he at least does not find you a) unattractive or b) intimidating. like rican says...why not go with it?

 

[thermodynamics]

You say he's not your type? Are you sure?

Opposites have a tendency of attracting each other.

If it feels good, it is good.

 

[sixthson]

Guys tend to get boners

Don't you just love that about guys?

 

[bcwang]

Don't you just love that about guys?

Cute...both the fact and this remark, come to think of it.

 

[tyler1987]

i recently met this guy who came out to me and we hung out, but strictly as friends because we're both not each other's type. this one night i asked him to come over and he slept over. since the bed was small we were very close to each other and i accidentally felt his boner. he keeps telling me that he just wants to be friends with me, but i feel like he's b/sing me...not that i'm interested in him, but i'm just wondering if he's interested in me then why won't he just admit it? this one night he also asked me to massage him and i said i would if he would reciprocate and double the time i did for him and he agreed. then he asked if he could sleep over again and i said no. so is this guy interested or perhaps he just wants friendship? i really think he is interested. what do you guys think? just out of curiousity i want other gay opinions.

oooo ooo oo!!! i think he's teasing you.....i remeber that when i slept over my friends house...we would share the same bed, and we would also massage each others backs...then we would go to lower backs and bare asses [im kinda geting hard just remembering these events *sigh* ]well yeah, i think he's being curious and secretly does want to hook up with you. <3

 

[gabriel1]

I think you should just let it be friends. I think it is great if both of you can be that comfortable with each other. That is hard to find today, so totally enjoy this friendship & trust that you have. Nothing means more than a friend. If things end up happening, that's cool but don't push it.

 

[Croynan]

I think you should just let it be friends. I think it is great if both of you can be that comfortable with each other. That is hard to find today, so totally enjoy this friendship & trust that you have. Nothing means more than a friend. If things end up happening, that's cool but don't push it.

What a great posting. Full of sensitivity, thought, maturity and intellect. BRAVO.



eM.

 

[jockboy01]

I moved your thread to the relationships forum as it is a no flame zone and more appropriate there.

I think it is difficult to say what this boy is thinking. Time will tell I think. But I think there is a lot more to being gay than just sex. I'm looking forward as much to the closeness of bf as I am the sex. So either way, he seems like somebody to keep around. The more you get to know him, the more it will become clear as to how he feels about you.

 

[bluedragon4]

OH PLEASE!!!!! HE LIKES YOU OR AT LEAST WANTS TO FUCK YOU!!!! massage and boners?! you even have to ask?

 

[Evsann]

I have to side with O2 here. I would love that type of closeness with a friend but it is apparent that you don't. So why did you sleep with him, again?

 

[tyler1987]

that's exactly how i feel. because those are intimate things...sleeping together, cuddling and massages. his actions say 'yes' but his words say 'no.' i think it's cuz he just came out and only to a few people so he's not ready to have sex with a guy yet. i don't know.

well that maybe.....but let me give you advice from a guy who's gone through this.....if you really value your friendship with him, then you won't take it further than a friendship.....i learned from experience, and because i didnt follow my own advice i ended up losing a real close friend. so if this guy is giving you a "just friends" vibe....maybe you should heed it?

 

[gsdx]

WHAT MICHAEL JACKSON DID HAVE NOTHING TO DO WITH THE TYPE OF

AFFECTION THIS THREAD IS TALKING ABOUT! IF I UNDERSTOOD WELL

THE AUTHOR OF THIS THREAD IS REFERING TO THE AFFECTION BETWEEN

CONSENTING ADULTS!!



LEANDRO

Is there any particular reason why you are shouting?

 

[Corny]

just having a boner doesn't mean anything. the good thing about both being open gay is that you can admit it and do not care. i've sleptover more than once at gay friends, and sometimes in the same bed, too (even if there is more space, but hey even a good friend is nice to warm you a bit in the night ) and occasionally someone has a boner because of whatever. doesn't need to mean anything.
and that is something you most probably won't ever have with straight friends - so keep him warm

 

[texan_slant]

Enjoy your friendship and get to know each other more. It is what it is until one of you takes it to the next level - mentally or physically.

BTW - Boners tend to spontaneously occur, so it could mean "something" or "nothing."

 

[bluedragon4]

Enjoy your friendship and get to know each other more. It is what it is until one of you takes it to the next level - mentally or physically.

BTW - Boners tend to spontaneously occur, so it could mean "something" or "nothing."

if he was rubbing the boner on your but or leg than it ment something! just suck each other off! (and post pics )

 

[_AJ_]

i think you should just be friends and maybe something more will come of it maybe not but dont risk you friendship over it

 

[mnaoitb]

OMG, i am in the same predicament but i am the one that wants just a friendship, i have recently (2 months running) come out of the closet as bisexual and open to experimentation and this one guy i met in school, when asked if he is bi says "i don't know, it would be a lie if i said no" but anyway, i have slept with him, and i just want a friendhip, i used to be in to him, but i like hime to much as a friend to lose hime to sex, and when we slept together i ept all my clothes on and lay in bed for 3 hours, i didnt want to move in to him, but anyway, when you are in close quarters things change and i knew i wanted to have sex but held myself back, anyway, tommorow we are hanging out, would a "straight" gut let a bi guy into his bed, i think not but i dont want him to get the wrong impression, he gets so jealous when i talk about guys i am into and tries to put them down or ignore me so i will stop, how do i maintain a friendship with someone that wants more???