Sleeping With My Mum Or My Mum's In The Closet.

[Cormac135]

As some of you may know my mother passed away on Christmas morning, i collected her ashes a couple of days ago from the funeral directors, they're in what looks like a fat Pringles tube and presented in one of those bags a good wine shop would put a boxed bottle of quality whisky, pretty classy if a bit tasteless.

Anyway i've now got her at home with me, in my room in fact, in the closet not ten feet from my bed, don't want any robbers running off with the old girl, needless to say it's a tad weird jacking off with her kinda in the room, when i finally get back to having gentlemen callers i'll tucked her behind the tv in the livingroom.

Here's my problem, i'm not sure what to do with the ashes, it's a bit mawkish to have them in the house for ever, she didn't want to go home to Ireland or her last home in Spain, she wasn't bother what i did with her remains so we never made any plans.

Have you ever had anyone cremated, what did you do with the remains ?

All suggestions welcomed.

 

[Alistair]

Was she religious? There's some things you can't do with ashes if she was catholic.

Was there a particular place she liked? Dump her ashes there.

 

[Cormac135]

Was she religious? There's some things you can't do with ashes if she was catholic.

Was there a particular place she liked? Dump her ashes there.

She was born catholic, well raised catholic but gave them the heave-ho for the Baptist in a bi-polar religious mania episode, she loved pubs but it wouldn't be fair blocking someones drains.

 

[Vannie]

All suggestions welcomed.

Make a mix of Mum and baby powder.

Make a nice Mum spice rub.

Get a Chinchilla...they love a dust bath.

Make a lovely sand terrarium with Mum.

Use a little Mum every year on Ash Wednesday.

Put Mum in an Etch A Sketch and draw with her.

Invite friends over for Margaritas and rim the glasses with Mum.

Make a nice Zen garden using Mum instead of sand.

 

[seven2go]

Was she religious? There's some things you can't do with ashes if she was catholic.

Was there a particular place she liked? Dump her ashes there.

You can do anything you want if you keep your mouth shut.......
Ditto to some favorite place.......a river or lake would be ideal.

 

[Thad1527]

At least for a little while, let it be.
You'll know what to do when the time and place is right.
Again, my sympathies on your loss.

 

[Rickrock]

My cousin was cremated and put into a small marbleized vault, about a foot square, and buried in her mother's grave on top of her mother. A small cemetery stone was added below her mother's stone. It does cost some money for the digging up and closing of the grave and for the stone. Some cemeteries also charge extra if you put two people into one grave.

I believe that Catholic's ashes must be buried in a grave or placed in a mausoleum vault. I could be wrong about this though.

 

[rareboy]

I would go with a favourite place and scatter her ashes there.

 

[mikey3000]

I would bury her ashes under a young tree at her favourite location. That way she's doing some good for the earth, her 'living headstone' will be there for a very long time, and you'll have someplace to go if you ever need a place for quiet contemplation. In my family we always bury people under trees.

 

[Vannie]

She was born catholic, well raised catholic but gave them the heave-ho for the Baptist in a bi-polar religious mania episode, she loved pubs but it wouldn't be fair blocking someones drains.

So apparently I thought you were adding humor to this thread.After all there are only so many tears you can cry.My Mom died in 92,and I was telling jokes at her funeral service.

Its hard to tell with some of your threads.Or maybe it wasn't funny.Either way.

My apologies and have a great day.

 

[DepravedMuscleFTL]

if she doesn't have a favorite place then put some of the ash in a helium balloons - destination unknown....

 

[mikey3000]

I'm so glad to see how well you are taking your mum's death, jokes and all. Soon it'll be like it never even happened. Thoughts and prayers.

 

[Alistair]

if she doesn't have a favorite place then put some of the ash in a helium balloons - destination unknown....

No balloons. they pollute the land and waterways. Turtles think they're jellyfish.

 

[DepravedMuscleFTL]

^ I didn't know that - good to know

 

[ShadowCat]

Find a beautiful spot by a lake or pond someplace beautiful and let her go honey. I'm sorry you even have to go through this. All my best.

 

[luckynumbah7]

You could replace the sand in an hourglass with her, perhaps get the rim engraved first. Useful and a bit less morbid than an urn. That or a nice park.

 

[Vannie]

The issue for me in keeping it,is what's going to happen with the ashes when you/I die? They might end up in landfill unless there is someone to pass them onto who loved the deceased as well.

Better to scatter them on or near something they loved.

 

[unloadonme]

Soon it'll be like it never even happened.

God forbid.

 

[Alistair]

The issue for me in keeping it,is what's going to happen with the ashes when you/I die? They might end up in landfill unless there is someone to pass them onto who loved the deceased as well.

Better to scatter them on or near something they loved.

I've asked to be scattered in the field next to my childhood home. But if I was thrown in the trash I really wouldn't care.

 

[Kahaih]

. . . .

Have you ever had anyone cremated, what did you do with the remains ?

All suggestions welcomed.

Cremains are basically pure calcium. Good for flowering shrubs.

Either in your own gardens, or a nice public garden, if you can get away with it, there, spread them under the shrubs and you'll find yourself smiling every time you see a new bloom - guaranteed.