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This past summer, I had sex with a good friend. He's married (to a woman), I'm partnered with a longtime boyfriend. So far no one knows. We were both pretty drunk, both times, but he loves to be fucked and I find him hard (LOL) to turn down. We have talked about it, recognizing that neither of us want more than occasional sex. However, I feel uncomfortable about the whole situation.
This past summer, I had sex with a good friend. He's married (to a woman), I'm partnered with a longtime boyfriend. So far no one knows. We were both pretty drunk, both times, but he loves to be fucked and I find him hard (LOL) to turn down. We have talked about it, recognizing that neither of us want more than occasional sex. However, I feel uncomfortable about the whole situation.
You cheated, he cheated, and y'all want to continue. No wonder you're uncomfortable. 
Hi, Port!
T
Just in the case, you missed something very obvious:
You have cheated.
Which makes you a cheater.
Which is profoundly deplorable and borders on abominable.
Which makes you feel bad about yourself and your friend.
Or so it happens to be, judging by the prevailing ideology on these boards.
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Cheating is a massive phenomenon though, and the one which provokes loads of anger among guardians of the concept of 'marital' fidelity.
Their anger is understandable, if not necessarily justifiable. People have been told by the church, society, friends, parents, governments, fellow JUBers and just about everyone else that cheating was wrong, wrong, wrong. Everyone, who has heard about Coca Cola knows that cheating is wrong.
And people simply continue to cheat on a very massive scale, don't they?
Because, most of us have been biologically wired to spread our seed as far and as often as we can.
And because the Judeo-Christian cultural conditioning only works so far and actually has very little relevance, when it comes to m2m relationships.
Basically, the concept of cheating, which is mightily outraging the others and giving you pangs of bad consciousness came in as an indispensable part of a political program of Judaism more than 2,000 years ago with a solitary aim of refocusing all the sexually related societal activities towards increasing the population of people, who were born and raised with the simple aim to promote Judaism as a view of the world. Judaism effectively outlawed any sex before and/or outside marriage and elevated the role of family values to the position it is even today so dear to the conservatives.
Judaism elevated the role of the female to the position of relative importance in a largely very male-dominated world.
The end of the adulterous-friendly male-dominated Greco-Roman world was to come in its own time.
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Once you look into the matter, you will soon realize that most people have very strict views on it but that very few of them can offer any explanation as to why are they so fervently representing a view, they cannot really explain at all in the first place.
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When you put the matter into the prospective, you'll come to the conclusion that you and your buddy simply love it, rite?
You will also agree that the 2 men can have sex at the drop of hat and that no serious emotional, legal and religious bonding is needed for one dude to fuck another. It comes with the territory or biology as the case may be.
You have a good thing going. Why spoil the fun?
SC
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