Small penises

[birddog7]

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I haven't been with a guy yet, mainly cause I only recently left the closet, but that "moment of disappointment" is one of my biggest fears when I eventually do. Second only to fucking.

All the other small guys: I assume you're bottoms, but was it natural inclination, or did you learn to adopt the role? At 4.9" I'm obviously going to be bottoming. That should be ok: I identify w/that role and in porn I'm always more attracted to the bottom and interested in watching what he does. But, taking something up the ass isn't coming naturally to me. Like, at ALL. Lots of practice and I can take a good size at a slow pace, but speed up the pace to simulate fucking, and all kinds of unpleasantness ensues.

If I were a normal guy I could just be a top. But instead, one more insult added to injury.

Another depressing post. Most everybody seems to be ashamed, and or insecure about having a small cock. Dissapointed partners, only good for being a bottom, etc. It's just depressing. The women don't want small cocks either. Why didn't they just shoot me while I was still too young to understand? Why did they let me out in a mans world, when I'm not quailfied as a real man? Why couldn't the world have ended on 12-21-12?

 

[rm71182]

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Another depressing post. Most everybody seems to be ashamed, and or insecure about having a small cock. Dissapointed partners, only good for being a bottom, etc. It's just depressing. The women don't want small cocks either. Why didn't they just shoot me while I was still too young to understand? Why did they let me out in a mans world, when I'm not quailfied as a real man? Why couldn't the world have ended on 12-21-12?

Or how about this: let's say you're lucky enough to find an understanding top who doesn't mind your size/not having much to put his mouth around. At least you have an asshole that works, so sex is ok, and he "loves you for who you are," &etc.

But there's always something missing--something not satisfying. Everytime you two are intimate, it's a compromise--he could've been with a normal guy (let alone a big cock), but instead, he's with you. It's not just aesthetics, it's worse than that: it's un-masculine, un-virile, even *creepy* at times, considering you have a cock the size of what his was pre-puberty. It's frustrating for him-- having nothing to suck on, having to jack off your small shaft with his thumb and index finger.

How long until that lack of fulfillment turns to curiosity? How long till he just wants to have a normal sexual encounter again? Boredom and infidelity--it happens to all couples, but this is different, because this cuts so much deeper, to the essence of masculinity and sex. And there's nothing you can do to fix it or change things up: no diet, no surgery, no couples' therapy or role-play exercises to rekindle the spark....

That's the scenario that keeps me up at night: not that my one-night stands will find me unattractive, but that even serious, long-term relationships are doomed to fail. He may be sincere when he says, "size doesn't matter," but does he really know what he's getting himself into?

Look at how difficult it is for normal people to find true, lasting partnerships. Assign that a percent value (you may disagree on the exact number). But now, multiply that number by .000001.... Perhaps you see my point? It's safe money we'll die alone.

 

[birddog7]

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At my age, and with my looks, it's really safe money that I'll die alone, and a virgin...

 

[rm71182]

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At my age, and with my looks, it's really safe money that I'll die alone, and a virgin...

I'm 26 and fully expect to do the same, so it's not just about age. I mean, I'm gonna give it my best effort, but that doesn't mean in the back of my mind I don't already know the outcome, for the reasons I outlined above. People don't understand how dark and almost macabre an existence it is to have a tiny penis. What a cold, dark, loveless corner of the human experience it is to be confined in.

Even in things like psychiatry (where lots of us end up) there's no recognition. Without exception, the psychiatrists I've seen have had nothing to say to me besides upping my meds. See, there's a "Small Penis Syndrome" diagnosis, but that's only for guys who are actually normal and just feel insecure. But if you actually *do*have a tiny penis? Nothing -- they barely even acknowledge it in their literature (afterall, what can one do anyways?).

Just take more drugs-- prescription and otherwise lol

 

[GamerBear]

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Another depressing post. Most everybody seems to be ashamed, and or insecure about having a small cock. Dissapointed partners, only good for being a bottom, etc. It's just depressing. The women don't want small cocks either. Why didn't they just shoot me while I was still too young to understand? Why did they let me out in a mans world, when I'm not quailfied as a real man? Why couldn't the world have ended on 12-21-12?

You get use to it, all my life I wanted to be a top and then finding out that I can't top my partner is the most depressing thing in the world. Then hearing people on here how they are versatile and they can flip flop with their partner makes it even more tragic. But I've learned to accept, and that's all you have to do Birddog is accept your size. I've said it a hundred of times that your cock technically is not considered small, might be on the thin side but not exactly small.

A lot of posters who have pictures of their dicks who think their cock is small, it's not exactly small. Until you have a cock smaller than 4 or 3 inches then it can be considered small. But sometimes I see guys who are showing off their 6 inch cocks who call it small. It's not small!

 

[GUNIT7996]

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thought i whould post a few pics of my small u/c cock. maybe 5 1/2 hard. soft i cant find it!!!it was big enough to give me two great kids. i'v learned to live with it. i love jacking myself off, and sharing it when i get the chance.

 

[birddog7]

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You get use to it, all my life I wanted to be a top and then finding out that I can't top my partner is the most depressing thing in the world. Then hearing people on here how they are versatile and they can flip flop with their partner makes it even more tragic. But I've learned to accept, and that's all you have to do Birddog is accept your size. I've said it a hundred of times that your cock technically is not considered small, might be on the thin side but not exactly small.

A lot of posters who have pictures of their dicks who think their cock is small, it's not exactly small. Until you have a cock smaller than 4 or 3 inches then it can be considered small. But sometimes I see guys who are showing off their 6 inch cocks who call it small. It's not small!

No, I will not get used to it. I'm 51 years old, and I'm no more accepting of my small cock now, than I was at 14 years old. I don't think I will ever be satisfied with my size. I have no idea how to go about attempting to be satisfied.

Some doctors say 5" is average, I find that difficult to accept. Others say it's 5.5", others 6" or 6.5". Who's right??? As for circumference, many say 4.85",and others say 5" or a bit more. If it's 5" in length, and 4.75" in girth, then I'm about average, but I don't really accept that, and I don't think you, or most other people do either. I know it's very discouraging for me to see guys that when flaccid, are as big or bigger than I am erect. I'm also take a hit in my confidence when I see guys in their early teens who are bigger than I am. It's just sickening.

I find it very difficult to accept my not feeling like I'm a real man. I think a real man should be able to sexually satisfy a woman. If he prefers men, I understand that, but I mean the physical ability to do so. From what I've read, and heard, women don't like small cocks either.

Yes, I know doctors say a penis isn't small unless it's shorter than about 3" or so, and 4 or more is plenty for anybody. I think they do this because they have no alternative, and just want guys to feel better about themselves. I would bet a lot of money that should a medical procedure become available to safely, and reliably enlarge penises, then doctors will say size matters. Hair loss is a good example of how doctors change their tune when they see an economic opportunity.

I'm 26 and fully expect to do the same, so it's not just about age. I mean, I'm gonna give it my best effort, but that doesn't mean in the back of my mind I don't already know the outcome, for the reasons I outlined above. People don't understand how dark and almost macabre an existence it is to have a tiny penis. What a cold, dark, loveless corner of the human experience it is to be confined in.

Even in things like psychiatry (where lots of us end up) there's no recognition. Without exception, the psychiatrists I've seen have had nothing to say to me besides upping my meds. See, there's a "Small Penis Syndrome" diagnosis, but that's only for guys who are actually normal and just feel insecure. But if you actually *do*have a tiny penis? Nothing -- they barely even acknowledge it in their literature (afterall, what can one do anyways?).

Just take more drugs-- prescription and otherwise lol

That's why I don't fool with psychiatrists, all they want to do is give meds, and tell you to "get over it". There is no medicine that can cure a shitty life. I do think a lot of this is just a financial wracket fostered by the big drug companies. These days doctors blame everything on "depression", and I think that is bullshit. They don't acknowledge small penises, because there's nothing they can do, and don't want to admit to that, because they'll lose money if patients don't come back.

I once found a comparator online that used the data from the Kinsey Institute. It showed how your penis size compares to the average. It said I was smaller than 90% of all men. According to that I'm in the bottom 10% compared to average. Not a very encouraging result. I know some have questioned the Kinsey data as being unreliable due to the "self reporting bias". Is it really unreliable, or are the others wrong, that remains the million dollar question.

 

[xbuzzerx]

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No, I will not get used to it. I'm 51 years old, and I'm no more accepting of my small cock now, than I was at 14 years old. I don't think I will ever be satisfied with my size. I have no idea how to go about attempting to be satisfied.

Some doctors say 5" is average, I find that difficult to accept. Others say it's 5.5", others 6" or 6.5". Who's right??? As for circumference, many say 4.85",and others say 5" or a bit more. If it's 5" in length, and 4.75" in girth, then I'm about average, but I don't really accept that, and I don't think you, or most other people do either. I know it's very discouraging for me to see guys that when flaccid, are as big or bigger than I am erect. I'm also take a hit in my confidence when I see guys in their early teens who are bigger than I am. It's just sickening.

I find it very difficult to accept my not feeling like I'm a real man. I think a real man should be able to sexually satisfy a woman. If he prefers men, I understand that, but I mean the physical ability to do so. From what I've read, and heard, women don't like small cocks either.

Yes, I know doctors say a penis isn't small unless it's shorter than about 3" or so, and 4 or more is plenty for anybody. I think they do this because they have no alternative, and just want guys to feel better about themselves. I would bet a lot of money that should a medical procedure become available to safely, and reliably enlarge penises, then doctors will say size matters. Hair loss is a good example of how doctors change their tune when they see an economic opportunity.



That's why I don't fool with psychiatrists, all they want to do is give meds, and tell you to "get over it". There is no medicine that can cure a shitty life. I do think a lot of this is just a financial wracket fostered by the big drug companies. These days doctors blame everything on "depression", and I think that is bullshit. They don't acknowledge small penises, because there's nothing they can do, and don't want to admit to that, because they'll lose money if patients don't come back.

I once found a comparator online that used the data from the Kinsey Institute. It showed how your penis size compares to the average. It said I was smaller than 90% of all men. According to that I'm in the bottom 10% compared to average. Not a very encouraging result. I know some have questioned the Kinsey data as being unreliable due to the "self reporting bias". Is it really unreliable, or are the others wrong, that remains the million dollar question.

With 4 inches you can reach every corner of the human vagina.

Women until relatively late in life have difficulty reaching climax from ordinary intercourse with men and a great majority of the reasons have nothing to do with the man's size or shape. The concept that being banged away at by an 11 inch cock is sure to do the trick is pretty much urban legend. The reasons are psychological and physiological. A majority of women under 30 have never successfully achieved climax from intercourse alone.

I sometimes get the impression birddog that you are pretty deadset on being unhappy and scapegoating all of it on your penis size, but I pretty much try to operate on the benefit of the doubt that there's some reaching you. Most of the stuff you seem to blame being single on-- actually, the only thing you seem to blame it on, dick size, is pretty unimportant to an enormous number of people and seeing as how a guy isn't even going to know your dick size anyway when you start to date him, it can't possibly be the reason you've been a virgin your whole life.

It kinda seems like you use it as your excuse for not actually trying to have a normal dating/love life.

 

[birddog7]

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I can tell you that most of it did start with my insecurities over my penis size. A lot of that came from being made fun of over that in school. I've also been insecure about my looks, and body. Along with being bullied, and denigrated in general, including by some family members. I never really got over that. I now see myself as totally undesirable, and basically useless. I wish I knew what to do to get past this. I fear it's too late at my age. I have thought about suicide many times...

 

[xbuzzerx]

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I can tell you that most of it did start with my insecurities over my penis size. A lot of that came from being made fun of over that in school. I've also been insecure about my looks, and body. Along with being bullied, and denigrated in general, including by some family members. I never really got over that. I now see myself as totally undesirable, and basically useless. I wish I knew what to do to get past this. I fear it's too late at my age. I have thought about suicide many times...

There's something 100% honest in this post birddog and it's that you're admitting you're afraid to try to date because you're afraid of re-experiencing the rejection or picking on you felt when you were a kid. Just keep in mind that browsing around porn forums or grindr, you're not getting an accurate pulse on how most people actually are in terms of what they'll reject a potential partner for or whatever else. And the concept of someone flat out laughing at you in the bedroom or making fun of you isn't a sign that something is wrong with you, but a sign that they're a very shallow individual who probably isn't relationship material and is a jerk.

But I think you should focus more on your anxieties over rejection and your self image, more than just emphasizing so much that you're going to die a virgin because you have a small dick. Plenty of not huge guys have no problem getting either sex or boyfriends.

 

[GUNIT7996]

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Hey Birddog, Im small also, I posted a few pics above. I was married to a woderfull women for 24 years, I lost her about 10 years ago. She never complained about my size. Im also a bigger guy, 340lbs and my stomach hides my dick,so that doesnt help. I consider myself BIi, but lean more to the gay side. The few guys iv been with never said anything about my size. I had to use a rubber band to hold on a rubber when i topped, i just wasnt big enough to keep it on!! Im 53 yo. and whould love to find a guy about 22-30, but at my age and being fat, that likely wont happen .Im ok with it. There is someone for everyone. I know i can never be with someone and live happily ever after because of my kids, im very in the closet, but i still look for hook ups and that male bonding that i crave. Size isnt that important, sure i wish i was bigger, dont we all?? Learn to accept yourself and what god gave you, there is someone for you, you just havent meet him yet. Never give up.

 

[onlyrealguys]

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I love small to average sized dicks. Let me know what you think of these Take care!

Jeremy

 

[rm71182]

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I love small to average sized dicks. Let me know what you think of these Take care!

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Hmm, most of those just looked flaccid, not small.

I guess, while there's lot's of kind words and noble sentiments on this thread, I repeat what I said earlier: what are the actual chances a guy with a small cock finds happiness? Assume normal appearance, not Adonis or anything, etc. It seems to me an insurmountable obstacle. Hope?

Lately, my only "good" days are when I delude myself into not thinking about the issue at all; my "best" days, at least when I feel I can see the future the clearest...those are the days "I quake with fear" (any John Donne fans here?).

I mean, how many guys out there actually like small cocks? Enough to commit long-term and not someday want out? Sure, they may be out there, but the odds we find them? Or live long enough to?

 

[Nikeah]

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I mean, how many guys out there actually like small cocks? Enough to commit long-term and not someday want out? Sure, they may be out there, but the odds we find them? Or live long enough to?

Me Me Me

 

[seven2go]

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If a guy would bail on account of a small dick.......there are two small dicks in the relationship.......

 

[GamerBear]

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I can tell you that most of it did start with my insecurities over my penis size. A lot of that came from being made fun of over that in school. I've also been insecure about my looks, and body. Along with being bullied, and denigrated in general, including by some family members. I never really got over that. I now see myself as totally undesirable, and basically useless. I wish I knew what to do to get past this. I fear it's too late at my age. I have thought about suicide many times...

My hubby is 53 years old and he didn't find someone until he was 49 years old. I really do think that you obsess about having a bigger size cock but then there are people out there in worse situations than you when it comes to size.

 

[GamerBear]

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I guess, while there's lot's of kind words and noble sentiments on this thread, I repeat what I said earlier: what are the actual chances a guy with a small cock finds happiness? Assume normal appearance, not Adonis or anything, etc. It seems to me an insurmountable obstacle. Hope?

Try Overweight, small cock and Latino...Bad fucking luck right? Nope, found someone who is happy about my cock size. I found happiness even if all the odds were against me.

 

[rm71182]

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Are you guys tops or bottoms--just curious?

On the one hand, I almost want to cry with happiness when I hear stories like that. But on the other hand, I just don't believe anything like that can happen to me. I don't negate your stories, honestly I don't, but I have heard many more the opposite. I cant believe that they're representative. It's like someone saying. "Hang in there, I won the lottery and so can you").

(And who out there are my John Donne fans? English-major gays...anyone?) Was hoping someone would catch that allusion, because it's the only way I can describe how I feel. Sometimes I get momentarily deluded by false hope, but afterwards, when I clear my eyes, think level-headed and look the future in the face...that's when I feel the worst, when I can really grasp the hopelessness of what my life has in store.

 

[fotlkid]

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I have always liked a smaller cock on a guy. The pics posted here are amazing! Thanks everyone.

 

[GamerBear]

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Are you guys tops or bottoms--just curious?

On the one hand, I almost want to cry with happiness when I hear stories like that. But on the other hand, I just don't believe anything like that can happen to me. I don't negate your stories, honestly I don't, but I have heard many more the opposite. I cant believe that they're representative. It's like someone saying. "Hang in there, I won the lottery and so can you").

(And who out there are my John Donne fans? English-major gays...anyone?) Was hoping someone would catch that allusion, because it's the only way I can describe how I feel. Sometimes I get momentarily deluded by false hope, but afterwards, when I clear my eyes, think level-headed and look the future in the face...that's when I feel the worst, when I can really grasp the hopelessness of what my life has in store.

I'm a bottom and he's a top. I'm what you call a forced bottom, I would love to top but the size of my cock is what limits me to what I can do. Hell I even thought at one point I'd be versatile but that doesn't look like it will happen. Yeah I've had people tell me to lose weight so I can grow inches to my cock. Nope, not exactly true it might help you see your cock when you're looking down to pee but it won't add inches unless one had a lot of fat around their cock area. I lost about 50lbs and my cock still looks the same, it get depressing when you see all these guys on JUB with 6+ inch cocks and some even complain that their 6 inch cock is tiny and wish they were bigger.

I've thought about getting a penis extender for sex but then I am sure it would be more of the extender than my actual cock inside my hubby. I've spent 6 years of my relationship happy, but whenever it came down to my size its made me even more depressed. I just never worry about it then I can go on with my life and not making such a big deal about my size. I've talked with my ex-boyfriend about his sex life and it seems that he enjoys being versatile and flip flopping a lot, sometimes it pisses me off cause I wish I was versatile and other times its like "Why the hell am I getting depressed over something I can't change?" its not worth being miserable over especially when there are people out there who don't care about size.

Sometimes you have to accept with what you got, surgery might make it bigger but it leads to a lot of problems later on. I still don't understand why so many people let the size of their cock control their happiness, you can't change it unless you spend lots of money with surgery but then again you'll just make it worse.