So close to being at peace with my sexuality...

[Rex]

You might be bisexual and there is nothing wrong with that, despite what Jasun or the rest of the "bisexuals are evil" bandwagon have to say.

I am just curious as to why you think of this as a negative thing. To be honest, most people are bisexual to some degree no matter how much they try to deny it.

So you had sex with a girl and it wasn't planned. As long as nobody was hurt in the process and she isn't talking about getting married or being pregnant I don't see what the issue is.

 

[hungrybrownbear]

hee hee, girls are icky.

Ok if you're really attracted to them, then you're bi --don't feel bad about it.

But if you're just doing them "out of boredom" and you feel bad afterwards, then you should stop.

OH. I KNOW! Whenever you see a hot girl that you want to flirt with, just tell her you're gay. Problem solved.

yes?

 

[fetaby]

The important thing is the fact that you don't really like flirting/fucking girls. If it makes you feel akward and ashamed of your actions, stop it. Just stop it already. Oh to be young and full of energy! I'm not tryin to come down on ya, but I think you feel the need to start standing by your convictions. By all means go ahead, it makes you stronger, and who can resist that?

 

[Rex]

Hey bud, dont stress over it, i find girls hot too (only in a i would fuck and leave you way, not i want to settle down with you, im gay).
But you said it yourself, you only get with girls out of boredom. Maybe time to start getting with more guys for the fun of it.




he cant can he... build a bridge and get over it.

Um.... most straight men think the same way about women. Do you honestly think the average Joe is thinking "wow that madam would make an awful good wife" when a big tittied hoochie crosses his path? Nope.

If you have a desire to FUCK them, you're bi. Not gay. Maybe you are more attracted to men than women but if you DO have a sexual attraction to women, you are somewhat bi. Are you sure you aren't just identifying as gay because you prefer men over women?

The only problem with that, is after all is said and done.. with guy OR a girl.. I feel disgusted and awkward...
Even if the person is really, super hot.
Well I haven't done much with a guy... but enough to feel like shit afterwards.
So it doesn't help my retarded brain.

Not like I go around and fool around with as many people I can. lol..

I have so much growing up to do I Think, I just don't know how to bring it on.

I don't think your issue is about sexual orientation. I think you just don't like the idea of having sex or expressing your sexuality because it makes you feel promiscuous or desperate or something.

 

[godson112]

I don't see how you can consider yourself gay if you have sex with women and find them attractive...?

Not doubting/disrespecting, I genuinely don't understand that.

 

[fetaby]

The only problem with that, is after all is said and done.. with guy OR a girl.. I feel disgusted and awkward...
Even if the person is really, super hot.
Well I haven't done much with a guy... but enough to feel like shit afterwards.
So it doesn't help my retarded brain.

Not like I go around and fool around with as many people I can. lol..

I have so much growing up to do I Think, I just don't know how to bring it on.

And that is an intimacy issue. If you don't feel the intimacy you will feel like shit after the deed is done. The solution; only get down and dirty with someone you actually care for. If you didn't feel dirty and disgusted after, you'd have bigger problems.

When you , your alone. You have no qualms. Your completely at ease. Intimate with yourself. This is secure. Add a person and all your hangups are suddenly at the fore front. It takes time, and jumping in the bed fast is sure to muddle the situation.

I hope this helps, and have no fear of growing up, your asking all the right questions at all the right times, and that speaks volumes.

 

[Rex]

No. Ive had far too many cocks inside me to play the bisexual excuse

I think sexual behavior and sexual orientation are two different things but that's just my opinion.

 

[StillWaters24592]

I think sexual behavior and sexual orientation are two different things but that's just my opinion.

Good observation.

 

[DiamondSkin]

I'm sorry but if you do the following:

A) Have emotional and sexual attractions to women

B) Have sexual relations with women

C) Like having sexual relations with women and continue to do so

than you're not a gay person. You're a bisexual.

I'm rather annoyed with the "there's no labels!" contraband randomly sprouted by people.

Gay, Bi or Straight. That's it.

I can say I'm duck. I may not look like a duck or have the physiology of duck, but that's just a 'label' and there's a 'spectrum' of complexity that makes unique.

Uh-Huh.

 

[fetaby]

doesn't necessarily work. I promise I don't lie, haven't had any kind of contact (not even kissing) with any person in the last 3 years, but actually, there are only 4 girls I have told I was gay in the last 2 months (since coming out started), end ended up fooling around with 2 of them afterwards, like just about an hour later...
I'm still confused what to think of that.

True for me also. I've broken as many hearts in the closet as out. But I've only fooled around with one. I told her I was gay, she wanted to know how gay. Could I do her? Well, biology didn't fail. We didn't go all the way, no condoms. It is what it is, in most cases. Only you and her know the motivations, so don't listen to anybody that will tell you otherwise. Some will say it's wrong, some will say whatever, live and let live. Why do you think you went ahead and did it? And if you want to know, ask her the same thing.
this is a great advise I think. I also think I have intimacy problems, and I guess I figured, I just have to find someone I feel totally confortable around, not just sexually, but kind of like a soulmate.

Sure, that's probably hard to find, but I'm sure it's worth the search and the sex will be awesome

Once your confident in yourself it comes naturally. Some guys can have sex just to have sex. Some can't. For some it's all tied up in your emotions and brain. A good sex partner doesn't necessarily have to be your soulmate. Just some one that you find comfortable enough to be around that you can take it to that level. Many times, a guy is most comfortable with himself, he can and cum in no time. He knows what turns him on, he doesn't have to feel self conscious about himself. That's how it was for me. You more than likely are different, or are you?