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I've never been in a relationship with a guy before but I've been talking to a guy for the past month. We went out on a date about 2 weeks ago and it went really well. Well my problem is that we talked every day but I havent heard from him in 2 days now. I've texted him saying "hey" yesterday and today and I've seem him post stuff on facebook from his phone so I guess he's getting my texts.

So my question is, am I being weird and over reacting or what? He's a really nice guy and I really like him and I thought he liked me too.

I'm just so confused
 
Yes you are. Forget about it and just go with the flow. if he contacts you, good if not? Then meh, brush it off and keep trekking.
 
The first relationship is important - it is like our first sucessful venture and we tend to make it more than what it might be.

Be honest - prior to the last 2 days - what was the % each of you were putting into the texts / calls? Were you letting him carry most of the load? Was it even? Were you carrying most of the load?

We can not read his mind either - it might be something came up or he might be thinking you two are moving too fast or ? If you need to know, then ask, listen and learn. Or do as Taylor said, and wait and let it happen.

Even if you all start back up, please continue to look around and find others - they might not all be boyfriends, but they can all be friends.

Whatever you do, do celebrate your life. Take care and enjoy.

Rand
 
The load on both of us was pretty much even I think, and the last convo we had was a good one. We haven't been moving fast, really we've been taking it slow.

I did send him a message on facebook (in case his phone doesn't get the text) asking him what was up but he hasn't responded yet.
 
People need space even in the era of constant communication. Give it time. It will develop further or it won't. Enjoy today.
 
You need to stop being obsessed. Yes, I said it, you are being obsessed with him. If this continues, even if you two become lovers, you will break up soon.

NUMBER ONE RULE FOR THOSE WHO VENTURED INTO ROMANCE FOR THE FIRST TIME:
1 THROW - 1 CATCH
If you contact him once and he doesn't reply, don't think anymore about and DON'T contact him again. If later he contacts you, go with the flow. If he doesn't, good riddance.
 
Boredass123 - once again spot on advice. God I long for the day of the letter: I imagine it kept one date from building itself into enduring romance,

To the OP: move on; there are other fish.
 
Two days isn't very long. He could have a lot of reasons for not answering you. You'll only make things worse by pestering him.

I agree with the one pitch one catch rule, but with one exception: if it's been at least a week and he still hasn't responded, you can send him a short, neutral message saying, Hey, just wondering how you're doing. If he doesn't respond to that one, then forget about it and move on.
 
We're in the middle of the holidays. People are busy. Two days isn't that big of a deal and you've sent him a couple of texts to let him know that you're still alive and you aren't playing any games. It's his turn, so give him some space to respond when he has a moment.
 
It just frustrates me when people just stop all contact, you know? If you don't want to go anywhere just say it don't be a jerk, I'm a big boy I can handle it
 
sclone0419 said:
It just frustrates me when people just stop all contact, you know? If you don't want to go anywhere just say it don't be a jerk, I'm a big boy I can handle it
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But see, that's the problem...

You're putting your thoughts/fears out there as if it's the reason why someone hasn't called you. You don't know why he hasn't called you, so you're thinking the worse and labeling them a "jerk" and assuming they don't want to go anywhere.

People have lives. You're not always going to be the center of it. And when you're not the center of it, don't make them out to be bad people who aren't interested in you.

It's not a great way to start any relationship.
 
I know he has a busy life and I know I'm no where near the center of it. We don't actually talk on the phone, we mostly just text (he's not out to his family or a lot of people) cause it easier to hide.

I know I'm being weird about it but I can't help it, I guess cause all he has to do it just text that he can't talk right now. I'm trying not to think about it and take yalls advice but it's hard.
 
sclone0419 said:
I know he has a busy life and I know I\'m no where near the center of it. We don\'t actually talk on the phone, we mostly just text (he\'s not out to his family or a lot of people) cause it easier to hide.

I know I\'m being weird about it but I can\'t help it, I guess cause all he has to do it just text that he can\'t talk right now. I\'m trying not to think about it and take yalls advice but it\'s hard.
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You need to bring it down a notch. He\'s dealing with family and friends for the holidays he\'s not out to, and simply doesn\'t feel like texting you given the demands for his emotional time from his family / friends, and guilt factor I\'m sure his close relatives enjoy putting on him.

You\'re not in a relationship, you\'re just friends with a possibility of more at this point. Don\'t pretend to be his boyfriend, and that he owes you constant communication, and allaying your every passing whim and fear that needs to be allayed by him.
 
wild side, I do like him but I'm not in love haha.

enduster, I'm not pretending to be anything more than a friend to him right now and I don't want constant communication just a little.

I'm not trying to argue, I just don't want to be misinterpreted :/
 
sclone0419 said:
wild side, I do like him but I\'m not in love haha.

enduster, I\'m not pretending to be anything more than a friend to him right now and I don\'t want constant communication just a little.

I\'m not trying to argue, I just don\'t want to be misinterpreted :/
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I guess in my book, feeling slighted because you didn\'t get daily affirmations from him, seems needy to me. *shrug*
 
He might very well be blowing you off -- you'll just have to wait and see. If he is, try not to get too worked up about it. It happens to the best of us, it's just a part of dating.

But it's still a premature worry at this point. Whatever you do, don't make any more unanswered texts / calls. It won't help anything if he's blowing you off, and it would be a turn-off if he isn't.
 
Well if he's in the closet and you aren't, and he likes you he's going to run, you are exactly why he's hiding.

Could be anything. Leave it alone.
 
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