So he is cute but he is a..

[billybob109]

So this new super cute boy at work i started just chatting with today. If my gaydar is right he is into me. He has a hot body (im assuming ) does mma fighting and is young like 19 Probably. He has to be into me I get this weird vibe and also he started studdering while talking to me and he says he never does that. Okay so I stalked his Facebook page (yeah get over it) and it says he loves god and is a Jesus freak (literally the group he is in). And obviously as Gay person this is a no no!! So am I totally wrong in this gaydar (I do know gay in the closet Jesus lovers btw) or is he actually straight and I avoid him from here on out till when he finds out I'm gay and he totally hates me.

 

[maxpowr9]

At least from your descriptor, he is a total closet case which if you are "out", is a big no-no to pursue. If he comes around to the gay side, I would go for it but if not. just ignore him.

 

[sixthson]

I would not trust your gaydar.

 

[TX-Beau]

Maybe he was stuttering because he didn't know what to say to a godless faggot.

OK you haven't said anything that is actual evidence that this guy is gay, all you've really said is that you want him to be and get funny feelings around him.

So you went a-stalking and found out he's some kind of religious fanatic.

Just some advice - those people are almost NEVER gay friendly and even if(and you have absolutely no reason to think so) he is in the closet all you would ever be to him is a huge source of shame, guilt and sin, and eventually, he'd turn on you.

 

[Ganoderma]

hi billybob109,

So are you -more or less- out at work and/or you don't hide at your job that you are gay?

I tend to give you the advice to be open and relaxed about yourself (i.e. you are a gay guy with a happy life) and just see how he reacts on this. Do you have any idea how he can find out that you are gay?

TX-Beau might have a point that he does not know how to react in such a situation (i.e. at work) towards an open gay who is -apparently?- a happy and a relaxed guy?

Good luck and feel free to react.

 

[Seasoned]

You didn't mention whether or not you're out at work, but, in any case, work is not the best place to look for either the next hook up or the next boyfriend.

 

[evanrick]

you can try being his friend which is what i would do because he obviously likes you, a lot. doesnt mean you need to think about sex with him which i know is impossible because its hard when ppl are not out etc.

 

[billybob109]

I am open at work but I am the most straight acting guy ever some
People still don't believe it. I guess I'll just say hi in the passings for now. Well those likes on his fb page were two years ago so I'm not sure how he would feel. I want to find out more but something tells me this will go sour.

 

[Ganoderma]

hi billybob109,

Thanks alot for your quick reply and good you are open at your work as it makes things far less complicated. So just assume that he is aware that he is talking with a Gay guy, when he is talking with you / working with you together etc. Yeah, go on with being friendly to him and say hi to him in the passings (and things like that).

Likely (?) / maybe (?) he was raised in a homophobe environment? Maybe he is suddenly realizing that gay guys (=you) can also be friendly and nice and pleasant co-workers? Please be aware that there are loads and loads of cute & handsome (etc.) straight guys.

Take your time and see how things are going. Definately, its good for guys like him to experience that being gay is not a big issue for you.