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so he says "i need some space"...

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I've been seeing this guy for about 1 month and a half and last night he told me that he needed some space... WOW! i thought that when you first start dating someone, you would want to spend everyday, every hour, every minute with him. I mean, we do spend alot of time with eachother but most of the time its hanging out at the bar with friends and drinking. Im crazy about this guy and im beginning to fall for him and for him to say that he needs some space, how do you think that makes me feel? like shit.

What does "need space" actually mean? He said he didn't mean anything by it, he is just an independent guy who just wants to be alone sometimes.
Maybe its just me.... maybe i took it a little too hard... i am very sensitive....

What do you guys think?
 
"Need some space"= I don't want to see you anymore. I want to try to see other people, but if don't succeed, I want the chance to go back to you.
 
This is something you should be talking with him about. It could mean that, he just wants some space- so leave him alone for a little while. But we wouldn't know.

The above poster might be correct. A bit too cynical maybe, but it's probably better to be realistic than get your hopes up- only to have them crashing down around you.
 
Chat MAY have it. Or, just as likely, it could mean "I don't know what I want yet, but right now, being with you all the time ain't it."

Lex
 
I’m not a fan of the whole immediate Siamese twin thing. If I was dating a guy who was around me like that in the very beginning, I can guarantee you I would be pulling back fast. For me it’s a smother thing, and a turn off. I’d rather work up to that kind of togetherness.

It could be as simple as that. You haven’t been dating for long at all, why rush things? I’ll also say give him his space, if he never calls back, it wasn’t going to work, if he sees you respecting his boundaries he’ll like you more if he does stay. The worst thing you could do probably is to hound him about this.
 
I find it remarkable that as humans we can find it easier to fuck than to talk. I've been just as guilty of this and I think it comes from our passive-aggressive culture. We could all benefit by learning to be more assertive. My new motto is, "if I can fuck him, I can talk to him."
 
chatolandia and G-Lexington are right. It doesn't matter what he wants, but at least we know he doesn't want to be in a relationship with you.

If you continue to dissect the relationship, his actions and the way he said anything, you'll drive yourself crazy. It's time to start the process of moving on. Sorry, Country.
 
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