So here's a story about my Parents, and how they're being, since I came out to them..

[pkacrotjs]

Re: So here's a story about my Parents, and how they're being, since I came out to th

I'm not their mouthpiece, it was my thought, not theirs. I think the 'between them' will be in private, but the point of posting in public is to use the sounding board that is community--isn't it?

And you're entitled to your opinions and beliefs, and I'll support you in those as best I can as well. I don't think _i'm_ trying to redefine anything, but more point out that someone else's definition may be different from the reader's, whoever (or is it whomever) that reader may be.

Roit... i'll go back to reading instead of posting now...

 

[hotdog1846]

Re: So here's a story about my Parents, and how they're being, since I came out to th

Other than that, I have no idea what you should do. Maybe find your own place?

I think finding your own apartment, getting a job, paying your own bills, and being truly independent -- financially and emotionally -- is possibly the best advice I've seen.

Going to school and getting your degree is even better.

But it sounds like things are on their way to resolution.

All the best, Mills.

 

[dynk]

Re: So here's a story about my Parents, and how they're being, since I came out to th

A big HUG to you Millzy, it was a huge step to take and tell them. I just don't know what to say. Hopefully they will come around, I know my folks did but it took a long time. They also went to doctors, priests, and even sent me to a pshyciatrist.

Hang in there buddy.

 

[PreTTy PeTe]

Re: So here's a story about my Parents, and how they're being, since I came out to th

how do you date someone who lives in another continent.

talking online is called dating now?

and yea if my 19 year old son was dating a guy who was 59
i would be upset. no future there . just a big box of depends.

 

[tila123]

Re: So here's a story about my Parents, and how they're being, since I came out to th

dude.

that sucks.

im so sorry.

 

[1gayguy]

Re: So here's a story about my Parents, and how they're being, since I came out to th

All I can say is WOW. Mills, as long as you live in your parents home, you will not be free to do what yo want when you want. Even if you were to move out with the aid of a room mate, there are still considerations to be made out of respectfulness to said room mate.
Speaking as a parent, if my 19 y.o came to me and told me the same disclosures you made, I think I'd have every right to be at the very least upset, if not down right pissed off! IF said child was still living under my roof, damn right well told I would do everything in my power to educate, investigate and inform myself as to what my "child" was doing. I have that responsibility as a Parent to do that! Whether you understand this concept or not, being a parent is a 24/7/365 LIFETIME job. It doesn't end when said child reaches their own adulthood, I know. If it's done out of love, the worrying and concerns never stop, they just become larger with more ramifications should the choices made by the adult child fail. What if the relationship they're in fails, how will they be able to cope, emotionally and financially? Will I be able to help out, to understand, to console?
Does this make sense?
At 19 you think you have all the answers and you do sound very mature for your age, but have you thought this through completely?Flash is 40 years your senior. Even if his health is great right now, will it be in 5 years or 10 or 15 or 20. Think about this at 79 will flash still be able do the things he can now. At 39 do you want to subject yourself to being someone's care giver? DO you want to be a caregiver from say the ages of 39 to say 54? My dad had throat cancer for 10 years. That meant 10 years of treatments, of doctor appointments, hospitalizations, home care. And my dad had a sound mind. Suppose Flash's mental faculties start to go, can you face that? I've worked in an Alzheimers/dementia ward and let me tell you depending on how ( and if) it goes Flash could end up happy and not remember who you are or violent and want to hurt you or anyone who comes near him. Can you face that?
And I have to ask Flash, what are your motivations in this? Are you really in love with this very young man? Does the person you're married to know and approve? Is there no one of his age in your own country if this is your type? Have you thought this through to the end? Could you subject him to your passing before him? What do you have in common with each other to build a lasting relationship on?
If you guys can get past all the serious obstacles that you will face, then by all means, you deserve each other and may you have long, happy, fulfilling realtionship. However if there is the slightest doubt now, end it now because that doubt will never go away and it will fester and someone will face resentment and end up a very angry person.
Best of luck

 

[star-warrior]

Re: So here's a story about my Parents, and how they're being, since I came out to th

Everything I have to say in response to this thread will be said directly to Mills, for those of you who are noting my silence. This is a very personal matter between the two of us and will be dealt with between the two of us. Thank you all for your comments and advice.

Parents will think the worst whatever the reality, and I hope they'll come to accept you both. As for the other members in the family, especially his cop uncle, it's a private matter between you and your partner, as consenting adults. Mill's should have a word with said uncle.

Hang on in there guys!