So, Heres my problem... (20bi guy x me(19 gay))

[KaraBulut]

Its easy to judge, I know Im the bad guy, the slut, the one that will RUIN their relationship, the monster, the horrible thing... When I think about it, I realize that its not that easy, that im not doing this cause I LIKE TO HURT other people, which is exactly what i really dont want to do since ill be a nurse in less than a year, but its really complicated and I realized that every situation is unique. Im learning alot from this, since iv been on both side.

The responses you're getting are pretty harsh. But they're also representative of the kinds of responses you will get from people in real life.

There's all sorts of reasons why he did what he did. There's all sorts of reasons why you did what you did.

But it comes down to a question of respect- respect for other relationships and most importantly, respect for yourself. You'll find that when you compromise on your values, it damages the respect that others have for you, too.

Early in this thread, there was a warning about the "slippery slope"- that if you went down this path, it would be difficult to stop and it would probably take you to places you don't want to go and in a manner that is too fast for you to handle.

So, you tell us- now that you're down that slippery slope, are you happier?

 

[Robbert]

Im going to be honest with you. If I ever found out my BF would be cheating on me he'd better run. If your a couple it doesn't matter. And this might be really harsh but I pretty much find you a pig. You first ruining a relationship which already wasn't that good and then you are not attracted anymore to him. This guy probably feels like you are serious about a relationship but the only thing you did was ruin something and leaving a person miserable. I know what I'm talking about cause it happened to me it was awful. I don't feel any compassion for you I think you already crossed the line by dating him when he was in a relationship. I normally dont offend the guy who made a thread but I think your a dirty slut. You've probably made someone miserable. And for the record the fact you are not romantic would be a HUGE turn off for me.

 

[DigitalFudge]

This is a really sad thread.


I am so lost/confused/at a loss for words. I can't even tell if I am being trolled.

 

[Georgiadude]

I was in an 18 month relationship with someone that meant the world to me. I loved him more than life itself. I would have died for him without thinking a second thought. I've never loved someone more than I loved him. Slowly I began to notice things were changing. I started catching him lying to me and he told me stories about where he was or what he was doing that just didn't make sense. I caught him cheating and it tore me to shreds. I've never cried so much or had so much pain. I can't begin to tell you how horrible my life became. Every minute of every day I was in agony. How could the man that told me he loved me hurt me so terribly bad. I was close to suicide and it's taken a long time for me to recover from what he did to me. I found the guy he was cheating with and we talked for hours. He had no idea about me and was totally devastated when he found out. I talked to him a few months ago and he was still having a hard time dealing with the pain he was put through.

That is what you are a part of. That is what your doing to another person. To satisfy your sexual desires. This is a no flame zone and some of the above comments are probably going to get this thread shut down. Before that happens I wanted to tell you what it feels like to be the other guy. The one that is being cheated on, lied to and had his heart torn to pieces. It may be harsh and hard to hear but you seem to be ok with it. sad.

Steven.