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So I called and told my friend of 15yrs I'm Bi

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and he surprised me and was totally supportive of me!

Was stammering as I tried to segue from the NFL games and monday morning quaterback talk into my new exploration with men.

I used the fact that I went to get my physical and get blood work done to give him a back drop. And basically told him that as a person that I've known for a long time and shared a lot of myself to him I feel compelled to share with him my feelings now for men.

At first I heard the phone make a clicking sound...I thought "oh shit!" he hung up!!!

:eek:

I was wrong he lost control of the phone, I can only imagine I made him swerve while driving home from work, lol. And then he surprised me by saying that he's not a judgemental person, and that he still sees me as the man and person I was. Even said that outside of his wife, his daughter and newborn son, that i'm his brother and person that he loves and trusts. I was taken aback from the warmth he shared. He then added that the reason why he chose me as the godfather to his kids is because of the person that I am, and nothing will ever change that.

Those words really moved me in a way that I don't think I've ever realized with him.

(*8*)

So basically he wants me to keep him updated to how things are going in my life. He, along with his wife, have even noticed that I was depressed of late for some time--which coincided with dealing with my ex and the stress generated from that relationship.

So I thought I'd share this with y'all as a lot of your stories and perspectives have taken away the fear and apprehension that I've grappled with for soo long.

So now i've told my best friend, my close college friend. I have another close college friend who is in another state, as well as a couple of close friends here in NY that are unaware. I've always believed in having quality relationships over a lot of people that barely know you. I'm glad that I took that route, because the reactions from my best friend and now close college friend has been inspiring--to say the least.

I will tell more of my friends now.

:gogirl:

As far as my family...

that may have to be at another time, waaay down the road.

as they say, "one step at a time".

And I got some baby feet here :cool: :D
 
Congratulations!

Great story. I'm glad it went so well. He sounds like a great friend, and he knows quality in you when he sees it.

Hope this is the beginning of great things. And, just think, if your next relationship is with a guy, you won't have to hide him from him!

Congrats, again! Really happy for you! ..| :gogirl: :=D:
 
Congratulations! I hope your story will give other closeted guys sme much needed hope and optimism.
 
Congratulations! That's amazing man. It's great to hear that you have someone so close to you that is so supportive of your decisions. :)
 
thanx guys! ..|

I was really prepared for the worst reaction, but I said to myself: I'd rather know how true our friendship is NOW then discover the cracks within it later on.

I forgot to add that he admitted that, earlier on his life, he shunned a family member (cousin) because that cousin confided into him being gay.

However he realized how poor and rash that action was. He said when he met him years later (like 4 or 5 years i think he said) he was on bended knee asking for forgiveness. So I believe, that he's much more understanding that sexual desire/orientation is only a small layer to a person's being. And not to make judgements on others.

Interestingly, he also added he had counseled some guys as part of his job and heard all the hearbreaking stories--some that are similar to what are posted hear when family/friends react poorly to the *news*. So he's a lot more empathetic to the possible abandonement/alienation anxieties that most guys have about coming out--in the first place.

I'm glad that for some of you that this has given you hope & optimism.

And I hope your friends appreciate your openness with them, if/when you intend to tell them, hungry.

Just remind them that you're still the same man as you were before; and that you are telling them because you've developed a strong trust for them over the years to confide something very personal and intimate.

That was my thought process when sharing myself to them.

I can only hope & pray that it works out well for you, as well.
 
Thank you for sharing that with us It will give inspiration to the many who are going through these pre-coming out feelings as I type. If it helps just 1 person it is more than worth doing (*8*)
 
Congratulations to you :) I am very happy for you...
Thank you for sharing. This definitely will help me
 
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