so i have moved into a dorm room for the first time.

[thermodynamics]

I'd definitely see your RA about you or your roommate moving. You deserve to have a roommate who is respectful of your sexuality.

Other than that, here are a couple pointers:
-Leave your door open as much as possible. It will encourage other people to knock on your door and meet you. You should do the same. Everyone is equally scared/lonely/eager to meet people.
-Take up some sort of common activity that you can do with others. It might be a video game, a sport, etc. Just something that can help bond people together and you can all talk about.

 

[tbtmo02]

Well I am currently living in a dorm and I love it ..expect to make some good friends and also every person have a different view. I meet some people that I can't even imagine how they werent in my life before. Also be aware that some people standards might not be the same as you standards..I.e cleanliness. Overall just enjoy it for better or worse your going to remember it for the rest of your life (well if u don't drink to much lol)

 

[Kulindahr]

im nervous and happy and anxious and its really really weird. supportive comments and advice please?

Sounds like when I first moved into a dorm. Good luck.

Ask to have your roommate move out.

If he's engaging in discrimination/hate/bullying, this is right -- he's the one who ought to have to move.

 

[highwindcaleb]

oh believe me. I AM NOT going to be the one moving out if something happens. I am out and I'm not going back in for some assholes personal preference. I made some very nice friends today in my dorm hall so I'm going to have a wonderful time

 

[Kulindahr]

oh believe me. I AM NOT going to be the one moving out if something happens. I am out and I'm not going back in for some assholes personal preference. I made some very nice friends today in my dorm hall so I'm going to have a wonderful time

Maybe you should strike first -- come in some time when he's there, throw your pack on the bed, and sound off, like, "I am SO tired of people who can't grow up and treat others with respect! Don't they realize we're all created equal and gave us the same rights? What's wrong with people who don't want this to be a free country?"

Then when he asks who the frak you're talking about, tell him, "Oh, just homophobes. They're like little kids who scream at shadows". Drop into your chair and sigh... and wait.

 

[highwindcaleb]

actually. it turns out that my roommate had a girlfriend whose an RA at a different hall and he spends most of him tome there. i have the room to myself

 

[Kulindahr]

actually. it turns out that my roommate had a girlfriend whose an RA at a different hall and he spends most of him tome there. i have the room to myself

Huh. Then how did the previous guy have a problem?

 

[JayHawk]

Well many have hit on good items... I will hit on a gross but absolutely necessary one. Besides the wonderful shower caddy Idea get a pair of flip flops and use them in the shower.

They cost like less than five bucks but are well worth it. You would rather stand on them than whatever has been before you IF you share a shower.

That aside dont be afraid to set the example and clean up here and there...you dont have to be a prude or a dick about it but dont leave your mess for others at a minimum. I am sure you will respect your other roomies personal items and expect that he respect your things as well. BUT don't give opportunity. many more people will take something if it is easily taken. Lock up what you consider valuable. Don't give them the option...

finally... have a freakin blast dude... its gets more complex later in life and is never quite as fun as right now.....

 

[maxpowr9]

I lived on campus for 5 semesters and was an RA for 3 of them and enjoyed almost every bit of it except for watching the police raid a resident's room for drugs. Campus life is so much different then when you are a commuter. Just remember to get involved in social groups.

The RA can be your best friend if shit goes down. There was several times I had to play mediator for dumb shits.

Reckon I was a bit of a dirty hippie when I still lived in dorms and would walk around the halls barefoot. Hell I remember one fire drill in the dorm, the RD yelled at me for not wearing anything on my feet when it was below freezing. I'm pretty sure they're pics of me floating around the internet with a shaved head and a full beard too. A college ski trip that would go down in infamy.