So I Just Got Played....I Think!

[You Cant See Me]

Ok I'm gonna try make this short but I dunno if I can!

So for the past 1 year and a half I've been chatting to this guy from New York through emails! The past 6 months I would say we have got along really really well! And this guy is smoking smoking hot!

So last week, I dunno I was bored and just felt something and I typed his Email nick in google and this site popped up. So i clicked on it and I found a whole lot of photos of the photo's he has been sending me of himself. I was scrolling down the page and BANG I see a photo of Me on the site that I had sent him and ok it wasn't a nude photo but I was just holding a towel lol.

So I emailed him and said " why is there a photo of me up on this site, that I just sent for you?" He replied back saying " Opps sorry I didn't mean that to happen, I will take it off straight away".

The next day I found a few more sites of the photo's of himself on the sites and in one of the comments a guy had asked him if that was him in the photo and he replied back " No, that's just a friend of mind" when I read that my heart I guess you would say dropped and I was like WTF is going on".

Is this guy I've been talking to for so long been sending me photo's that arn't of himself?

So I emailed him and told him what I found and he replied back saying " He didn't want the other person to know what he looked like".

So yeh that's basically the story, I haven't heard from him since, cause the last email I sent I said " I really want to know the truth" cause obv now it show's that I had feelings for the person I guess. He told me last week he has had a major family problem going on this week, so I really don't want to bother him. But who knows if that's true now?

I've even typed his name on Myspace and a different person has shown up!

So yeh this whole thing has literally been playing on my mind all week. I guess you can say I'm hurt by it cause I don't know what to believe.

Sorry it wasn't short, hopefully it makes sense. I just needed to let my thoughts out!

 

[HunterM]

This person cannot be trusted. Count this as another lesson learned in life.

1. Don't take online friends you haven't met in person seriously
2. Don't fall for someone you haven't met in person...videocaming does not count.
3. Date people in your area...so you can go meet them and check them out in person. Have dates with them a few more times to get to know them better in person.
4. If you want to date someone outside of your area, you MUST make an effort to go visit them in person.

 

[You Cant See Me]

Yeh that's what it is I guess a lesson learned.

Dumb by me though for thinking that those photo's of him were really him, cause the photo's he was sending me, man this guy was HOT lol.

Feel like a dickhead but what can ya do!

 

[BlondeCanadian]

whats myspace? i joke! I am not that young. why do you not cam or something? if he says he doesnt have one he is lying..

 

[gingentleman]

I was scammed by someone on the net once. It is always painful to discover you can't always believe everyone, but there are guys out there who get off on pretending to be someone they are not. Take this as a lesson learned and follow the good advice given by the preceding posters...

 

[altlover85]

I'm sorry that happened to you.

My rule has been no more than a month without meeting.

 

[You Cant See Me]

A bit hard when we live on different sides of the world, but as you guys have said. It's a lesson learned but there is part of me that still think he's saying the truth.

But finding a photo of me on the net and him saying that's not him in the pic, I guess did it for me.

We shell see if I get an email soon from him!

 

[altlover85]

A bit hard when we live on different sides of the world, but as you guys have said.

Yeah, that's why when I was single I just focused on guys that were relatively local and not international.

I've never understood the appeal of an international relationship unless one of the guys involved was looking to move to the others country in the very near future.

Regardless, good luck with things!

 

[HunterM]

If you do hear back from him, tell him you two should webcam each other live on Skype or something similar so you can see what each other looks like. Would be interesting to see his reaction

 

[chrisdobro]

I am sorry about your loss. ... Gather yourself up and move on. There is a saying in business "you can't sell a customer over the phone", meaning that no matter what you say on the phone, you do not have the customer in your store, you cannot get the customer's money.

Same here. You can spend hours, days, weeks, online, and even talking on the phone with the guy, but if you don't have him in your "store", aka see him in person, he just as well might not be real.

I learned it myself when I I was 17 and 18 and talked to a "20 year old" who was smoking hot for a year or two before I had a police officer friend run his license plate on the car photo that he sent once, to find out he was 50 years old. The guy even sent me ice skates and other gifts in the mail while I thought he was who he said he was. He had a young voice on the phone and it was really f*king sexy as well. Later, the guy was arrested for federal offense when he made a mistake of sending something to an underage person, and he stayed in prison till he died. Kind of a sad story all the way around. I apparently was not that bad off. The guy also chatted up another kid who seriously invested himself into the 'relationship' for 3 years. When it fell apart the kid was seriously not happy about the whole thing. He felt he wasted that part of his life.

My advice is learn to weed people out earlier rather than later, or not to invest yourself into things like these, i.e. long distance email chats.

 

[jensu846]

If he emails you, I would just tell him that the online relationship has run its course and be done. focus locally. dont feel like a dickhead. it happens.

 

[blublud]

I guess I've been fortunate in that, over the last several years, I've met 17 guys after chatting for a while. When we actually met, every one of them were exactly as they had presented themselves. 10 of them were really hotties too. And, I had sex, at least twice, with 7 of them.

 

[Frosty]

You should skype with him to see if he's really him. If he refuses or makes excuses then that's more reason to believe he's lieing. You should always have proof if you're going to invest that much time in a relationship. Who knows it could be a 60 years old married man with kids, it could be anyone. It probably wouldn't have worked anyways though cause most long distance relationships don't work out. Don't feel bad just be more careful next time.