So I want to cheat on my boyfriend.

[Entity]

But I won't because I really like him.




What the fuck, is that feeling going to go away? Am I going to be tempted by every hot guy that makes eye contact with me??

I know what self control is, and I have it.

I just wonder if it'd be a good idea, to maybe... sleep with another guy..

Judging on how I Feel afterwards (ie either a dirty slut, or just simply OK) I can gauge.... I dunno, something.

I've just had a rapid increase in possible sexual partners and i swear to god it's only been since I got with him. It's driving me insane. But I really like him and don't want to mess up what we have, but I just feel as it's so restricting...

I Went from being single and lonely and having cold emotionless sex with girls.

To having a boyfriend finally, and not being lonely.

But now it seems like so many guys are either hitting on me, or accepting my flirtatious nature and reciprocating.

FUCK FUCK FUCK. ugh.

God there's only one answer and it's "don't be a slut" and I don't know why I Expect people to feed what I want to hear. (Which is kinda along the lines of "GO FUCK SOMEONE AND *insert reason for justification here* It'll be good!"






Dammit. Help.

 

[Entity]

Doesn't sound like you sincerely love your partner all that much.

You're right, I don't love him, I haven't been with him that long, but I really like him.. It's still a fairly new relationship and I love where it's going. :/

 

[ericwhitney]

my mother always said, once you've done something the first time, it's likely you'll do it a second. so don't.

 

[DeStzjl]

Temptation is a test of strength if its a new relationship yeh it will be hard but in the end it will make you that much better. But i always say that it's the Vices that make us who we are so if you feel that way maybe your not really ready for a relationsip

 

[Sha-Rok]

I'm currently in a long distance relationship right now and yes I get the urge to have sex when I see hot guys(My college has a high volume of them). But I jack off and it goes away...My love for my partner stays and I would feel like shit if I betrayed him. I don't think your really into your bf..maybe you should discuss this with him and break it off rather than cheat.

 

[Nomenclature]

I was just talking to a straight guy who's thinking about cheating on his girlfriend while she's away at college.

So, remember folks: Cheating isn't a "gay" thing; Men are just dirty whores.

 

[Under-taken]

Once you've open the door, its easier to walk through it a second time~!

 

[DeStzjl]

seems you are bi

that may explain a few things

best of luck

I just would like to point out that I think the part that made this sound rude was saying may explaine things. Cheating on anyone has nothing to do with your sexuality rather your morals.

 

[freefall]

The question I toss to my friend who was confused about dating: Do you want him or not?

 

[G-Lexington]

I'd say tell your boyfriend you're opening the relationship. Maybe he'll accept it. Maybe he won't. But either way, you'll be free to start having hot monkey sex again, and won't be tied down to his restrictions on what you can and can't do.

Lex

 

[martin6]

Dat boyuh wawnna be yer boyfrayund but yew wawnna spayunk eeit weeith uther dewds. Sew whah nawt bee sangle?

No, really. I doubt he'll wanna have an open relationship and you should be able to wanna screw around a little.

 

[RationalLunacy]

I want to cheat on your boyfriend, too.

What do you think of that?

 

[Alpha1851]

. . . I don't know why I Expect people to feed what I want to hear. (Which is kinda along the lines of "GO FUCK SOMEONE AND *insert reason for justification here* It'll be good!"

Sure, go fuck someone else.

Naturally, you could be completely honest and genuine w/ your beau by letting him know you want an open relationship--if you wanna get dumped! It's basically saying, "Honey, you're great and all, but I wanna go fuck someone else." I bet that will go over will well. Or worse, your bf might be willing to open up the relationship and find someone he likes better than you. That would suck!

Of course, you could take the noble route by leaving your bf and reclaiming your single status--if you're willing to gamble on a favorable outcome. What if you dump him for a hotter man then find out he's bad in bed? What if all those other guys are only interested in you b/c you're taken? What if you screw around a little, but decide you really were in love w/ that guy? Dumping a sure thing for someone that may or may not be better is an unec. risky venture.

Basically, you need to determine whether you're likely to get away w/ cheating; whether you'll feel guilty afterward; and whether you can handle the possible consequences. From Ravenstar's comment, I assume there's more to your situation than meets the eye. Cheaters don't usu. consider the other person's feelings, or when they do, it's merely negligible. Is that who you are?

 

[Entity]

Basically, I'm just immature and need to grow up.


It's not the fact that I can't be faithful, at all. lol I'm just talking want here, not need. Ugh whatever, this is a ridiculous thread and it's ridiculous for me even to respond. Thanks for all your input though, I appreciate it.

 

[Alpha1851]

^Wait, didn't you create a thread a few days ago about sex being too exhausting, yet now you want to take on more than one guy? Better start taking those vitamins. Just saying it's important to get the logistics down.

 

[LatinTop75]

Why cheat when you can have 3somes?

That's a very good point and possible solution to the "problem." We're guys...we enjoy sex. But rather than cheat, a 3way is definitely a way to have fun with other guys without ruining the relationship. And 3ways can definitely spice up the sex life when a couple has been together for a long time.

 

[Blatino]

Honestly I think you should talk to your boyfriend about how you feel. Who knows he could possibly be having the same issues you are and both of you can work through them together. It's natural to have temptations.

Have you tried talking to him?

 

[954dude]

But I won't because I really like him.




What the fuck, is that feeling going to go away? Am I going to be tempted by every hot guy that makes eye contact with me??

I know what self control is, and I have it.

I just wonder if it'd be a good idea, to maybe... sleep with another guy..

Judging on how I Feel afterwards (ie either a dirty slut, or just simply OK) I can gauge.... I dunno, something.

I've just had a rapid increase in possible sexual partners and i swear to god it's only been since I got with him. It's driving me insane. But I really like him and don't want to mess up what we have, but I just feel as it's so restricting...

I Went from being single and lonely and having cold emotionless sex with girls.

To having a boyfriend finally, and not being lonely.

But now it seems like so many guys are either hitting on me, or accepting my flirtatious nature and reciprocating.

FUCK FUCK FUCK. ugh.

God there's only one answer and it's "don't be a slut" and I don't know why I Expect people to feed what I want to hear. (Which is kinda along the lines of "GO FUCK SOMEONE AND *insert reason for justification here* It'll be good!"






Dammit. Help.

Lust, hormones, and lack of self-control. It's not worth it.

 

[morgaes]

I'd say that it's perfectly normal to be attracted to other people while in a relationship. It's whether you act on that attraction or not which tests your commitment to your relationship.

Of course, you could try talking with your partner about having an open relationship of some sorts. But keep in mind that there may be no coming back from that conversation if he doesn't like the idea.

 

[thisisinteresting]

You're not immature you're just curious/not sexually satisfied. I was in the same place (in a long term relationship) and just dwelled on the thoughts for months and months until I went crazy. The feelings won't go away.