...and it went horribly. It was just a hookup without any strings attached. I had only sucked a guy off once before this experience, and so one could say I am fairly inexperienced in the field of gay sex/hookups. We didn't do anything anal, just blowjobs, making out, etc. I don't think I was nervous (I wasn't shaking or anything), but I just couldn't get off. I was hard and everything, and he was sucking me and jacking me for a while but I simply couldn't get to it. The guy wasn't bad looking either, so I don't think that was a factor. I eventually just said that it didn't seem like it would work out and we parted ways. It was my first blowjob and it couldn't have been worse. I didn't get any feeling AT ALL from his mouth on my dick. I got really frustrated with myself during the drive home and this only makes me wonder more, WHAT AM I? GAY OR STRAIGHT? I almost feel sexually neutral. Is it first time jitters or what? I would appreciate any advice at all. (Did I mention that I'm 18, supposedly at my sexual 'peak'?)
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Hey Mikey,
It sounds like a bad first experience but don't give up even though you said the guy was decent looking it just sounds like the two of you didn't have a connection and that happens to everyone sometimes. When you are together with the right person at the right time it will be amazing. Just be careful and above all be safe when meeting someone online for the first time. Always meet in a public place at first and if your comfortable with the guy then take it further and if your not comfortable with him listen to your instincts and just leave because your gut instinct is usually right.
It sounds like a bad first experience but don't give up even though you said the guy was decent looking it just sounds like the two of you didn't have a connection and that happens to everyone sometimes. When you are together with the right person at the right time it will be amazing. Just be careful and above all be safe when meeting someone online for the first time. Always meet in a public place at first and if your comfortable with the guy then take it further and if your not comfortable with him listen to your instincts and just leave because your gut instinct is usually right.
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Let's see... you got a blowjob from someone that you really didn't know and that you'll probably never see again. And it didn't answer all your questions about your sexuality...
Meanwhile, your straight peers are meeting people that they are attracted to, going out on a date, getting to know them and then having sex with them.
Maybe you need to go back and slow things down a bit and actually date a guy, get to know him, figure out how you feel and then maybe try it again?
Meanwhile, your straight peers are meeting people that they are attracted to, going out on a date, getting to know them and then having sex with them.
Maybe you need to go back and slow things down a bit and actually date a guy, get to know him, figure out how you feel and then maybe try it again?
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^ What Kara said.
Maybe blowjobs aren't going to be intense enough for you.
For some they are just part of foreplay.
Sex is about more than the technicals. Your head has to be fully engaged too. And anonymous bjs from some hook-up can be a real mood killer.
Maybe blowjobs aren't going to be intense enough for you.
For some they are just part of foreplay.
Sex is about more than the technicals. Your head has to be fully engaged too. And anonymous bjs from some hook-up can be a real mood killer.
I Agree with Kara and rareboy,
BUT
Your sexual peak isn't at 18... that's at the peak of when puberty usually is - when most changes happen.
Your sexual peak is whenever - most of the time up past your 40's... it's what you make of it. (And no, I can't speak about this from personal experience since I'm only 25, but I know many guys who are far more sexually healthy than me who are 35-50...)
BUT
Your sexual peak isn't at 18... that's at the peak of when puberty usually is - when most changes happen.
Your sexual peak is whenever - most of the time up past your 40's... it's what you make of it. (And no, I can't speak about this from personal experience since I'm only 25, but I know many guys who are far more sexually healthy than me who are 35-50...)
Shawn1
Sex God
For myself until I cared about the guy, it was 
Once I cared about him, and he me, then
Kara said it well.
Once I cared about him, and he me, then
Kara said it well.
A lot of guys aren't into blowjobs, and a lot of guys aren't into hookups. I only hooked up once in my life before realizing it wasn't right for me. He didn't even say five sentences to me; it was creepy. I just had to stop it and tell him to go home. When you have someone you really click with on a level other than sexual, you're sex together can be much more playful, tender, passionate, and loving. If you really have a strong relationship, you can talk to your partner about it and tell him what he could do to make it better for you, because he will care, and want to make you happy, not just himself.
G-Lexington
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Welcome to JUB! 
There's one other possibility. He might have just really really sucked at giving blow jobs. It IS a talent, after all, and some guys are a lot better than others. Pile that on top of your "first time nerves", the fact that he's a hook-up, and all that...
Don't let it get to you. Sometimes, it just isn't gonna happen. The best thing to do when it happens again (not if - when) is to just stop him and say "Can you just hold me while I get myself off?" And then do just that.
Lex
There's one other possibility. He might have just really really sucked at giving blow jobs. It IS a talent, after all, and some guys are a lot better than others. Pile that on top of your "first time nerves", the fact that he's a hook-up, and all that...
Don't let it get to you. Sometimes, it just isn't gonna happen. The best thing to do when it happens again (not if - when) is to just stop him and say "Can you just hold me while I get myself off?" And then do just that.
Lex
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Don't worry about it and do not start questioning yourself.
I particularly love the feeling of a blow job, but rarely orgasm from one unless the person is really, really good.
Just enjoy it! By the way there is nothing wrong with finishing yourself off.
I also agree with Kara. Casual hookups are great, but getting to know someone etc is great too.
I particularly love the feeling of a blow job, but rarely orgasm from one unless the person is really, really good.
Just enjoy it! By the way there is nothing wrong with finishing yourself off.
I also agree with Kara. Casual hookups are great, but getting to know someone etc is great too.