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So I'm a bitch...

nah, but i would just drop this dude outta your life totally. any and all contact would disappear as much as possible. Being a small city and all..the guy sounds like bad news big time and needs to be drop kicked right in the face...but i digress.
 
Call ins. He is taking jobs away from hard working american citizens. You are not doing it becuase you hate him, you are doing it because what he is doing is illegal!!!!
 
Ugh...I keep seeing him out. Tonight I was out with friends and he showed up, same thing last night. I hate Boston for being so small. It doesn't bother me except for the fact that he has his friends hounding me...today I was talking to some friends (which have boyfriends) and his friends surrounded us listening in on what we were saying. Seriously, if he has a boyfriend why won't he leave me alone?? I can handle seeing him out, I just feel extreme anger toward him, which I can deal with...but what's with the constant spying??!!?? One of his friends called me a gold digger last night because I've been hanging out with my normal circle of friends that are doctors or near-doctors...but the thing is, if those are my friends, those are my friends. I'll be one in a few months and can make my own money then, so why would I gold-dig??? The funny thing is that tonight one of the guys I was chatting with is best friends with the lawyer and saw it all and started talking about how badly he wants the ex deported just so his friend could hear and go back and report was said. I don't want him deported really, and he knows I fully could have it done, yet he still fucks with me. I don't get it. It's like he's trying me, testing to see if I will do it. I know he's stupid--he really is--but why mess with someone until they have you sent out of the country just to stop the annoyance???
 
I agree with you Seth, you did behave like a total bitch and there was really no good excuse for it......ever heard of Karma?

You might want to seek some professional help; the coercive, manipulative behaviour you are exhibiting does not bode well for a happy life.

You might want to apply the first principle of the Hippocratic oath to this situation.
 
ok...so you think I'm crazy...fine, whatever. Last night for some reason I felt the need to look on a website, rentboy.com, to see if he was there sicne one of his friends was there before (and he ridiculed him) and sure enough, there he was. I kinda emailed him asking if this is why our sex life declined at the end and if so, I wanted to know that way I wouldn't be surprised if anything like syphilis or herpes or warts or anything that can be transmitted even with a condom would show up at my next STD panel.

It makes me physically ill to know that someone I cared about is a genuine prostitute.
 
You're obsessing. The relationship is over. He's not the person you thought he was. Lucky you to have found out after only 2 months. Now stop the drama and move on.
 
I stand by my earlier post.........now you're fishing for pity. You've got mine but not because your ex decided that being a paid piece of man-meat was more fun than you.
 
ok...so you think I'm crazy...fine, whatever. Last night for some reason I felt the need to look on a website, rentboy.com, to see if he was there sicne one of his friends was there before (and he ridiculed him) and sure enough, there he was. I kinda emailed him asking if this is why our sex life declined at the end and if so, I wanted to know that way I wouldn't be surprised if anything like syphilis or herpes or warts or anything that can be transmitted even with a condom would show up at my next STD panel.

It makes me physically ill to know that someone I cared about is a genuine prostitute.


Nah, Seth, you didn't email him to find out if you should be surprised something might show up on your next STD panel. You KNOW he's a rentboy, so you KNOW there's a chance something might show up. You emailed him because you wanted to get in a dig about how your sex life at the end of your relationship. You emailed him because you're not done with him.

If you're done with someone, you're done with them. Whether they're on a website or across the room at the club. You don't want him out of the country because of who he is and how he is, you want him out of the country because you don't have the self-control to just get over him. He's moved on, and you haven't.

(*8*) Get over him, and get on with yourself.
 
Please consider laying off guys for a month or two... even limit time spent(texting, email, chat, in person) with your new gay friends. Just take a break from it all and give yourself a chance to let all the shit that's gone down over the past six months settle in your head... throw yourself into studies, work or whatever you're routine was before coming out. Spend time with old friends. Then maybe, when you're ready, step back from it all to take a honest look at who you're becoming versus who you where just a few months ago...is this really who you want to be?

Hey, lot's of guys hop on the emotional roller coaster when first coming out--Nothing new or wierd there, but if you stay on for too long you may forget what it's like to live without it, and loose parts of your personality that make you you... substituting them with the lame-ass facade you created to blend in with your new friends. Then if/when you happen across a cool guy, you may not be capable of keeping him or of even getting his number--where you're at now, well it's usually all too apparent to other guys. We all have little alarms in our heads and they go off loud as shit when we meet guys who're...like who you're becoming.

...sorry if I read too much into your statements and that's not where you're at. I could be projecting to much of myself on you--I had a rough time just being myself around gay guys long ago.

Be happy, be whole.
 
So...I went out with my friends tonight just for like 3 drinks...I didn't get drunk at all, and I was uber-rational. I saw the ex out and ignored him...then he passed by me and my friends, grabbed one of them that was standing next to me (Boston only has like 2 places to go out to on a Saturday night) and started rubbing his dick thru his pants until my friend was able to call him by his prostitute name and push him off. I don't really know what to do, I try to be the better person and just ignore him, which I'm doing every time I see him, but he still does stupid stuff like this to me. I'm supposed to go out to dinner with the lawyer next week and I know he's going to ask me how things are going with him, and I don't know if I'll be able to lie. Pretty much every time I'm out and see him (which is quite frequently) he does stuff like this except the time I was talking with the lawyer and he actually left the bar then ran down the street. My friends are tired of being harassed by him, and so am I. I have no trace of him or his friends in my phone and I seriously tried to end things on a good note, until he started molesting my friends. I don't get it...if I see him out and ignore him, why won't he do the same? I know I threatened to get him deported and all, and we both know I fully could especially now that I might start seeing the lawyer that really wants him out of the country (even if it is just to get with me) again. I'm not going to, but I just want him to leave me and my friends alone. He knows they all know he's a prostitute, and they call him on it when he does it to them (i.e. tonight my friend said "how much is that going to run me eduardo? [his rentboy.com name]" after the groping occurred.) Seriously, I just want him to leave me alone. I've moved on for the most part, know that I am better than what I've done, better than him, and can and have found better in the people I'm currently seeing, but seriously, how can I get him to just leave me and my friends alone? One of my friends going through an INS investigation for her actual marriage right now is pissed that she's being investigated and he might not be even get investigated and wants to turn them in to the ppl doing her case (I won't give her the details though,) but what I'm hoping is that since his marriage is an obvious sham (my friend has her passport with documentation of she and her husband spending time both here and in Italy for the past 3 years, and a fiance visa, etc. whereas he has nothing up to him paying her for marrying him 5 months ago...his name is even on a lease in Boston and his wife's name is on a lease half a state away) that he'll just get caught and be forced to leave me alone since he'll be back in DR.

I dunno...it just makes me mad that I try to do the right thing and ignore him, and he comes up to my friends and me and does this. It's irritating to say the least, that's what started my whole hatred of him, and it continues, even though I try to be the bigger person and ignore him. Oh and his friends come up to me and my friends and say stuff too. I know I you may think I brought this on myself, but it's the whole reason the deportation thing even came to mind. Initially I told him that I'd try to help him with anything that he needed until the friend-groping and his friends harassing me and my friends thing started.

Any suggestions?
 
I like how you seemingly unknowingly just revealed he's a rentboy from boston named "eduardo" on the website rentboy.com.

No, I'm sure that wasn't intentional at all.

You know, anyone can ignore someone who isn't around anymore. It takes real self-control to ignore someone who is still in your grill.
 
If all this drama is happening while y'all is drinking, which it sounds like, I think y'all need to lay off the sauce for starters.
 
You know, anyone can ignore someone who isn't around anymore. It takes real self-control to ignore someone who is still in your grill.

That's exactly what I did last night...and last week when I saw him 5 days in a row. it seems that he's the one that won't leave me alone now.
 
Fuck that.... call him out.... ship his illegal ass back to whatever 3rd world country he came from.... I think he's pushed his limit too far...

You have the upper hand... play the cards your dealt....
 
So...it happened again. My friends (different ones this time) and I went to a bar and he was there so of course he tried to accost my friend in front of me...while I was kissing a hot MD that he knew I always had a thing for and would have left him in a heart beat for except that two bottoms don't make a good relationship. So my friend just said "how much?" to him, and it made his friend try to start a fight in the middle of a dirty pick up bar! But when my frien daccepted the offer the ex and his friend kind of ran out of the bar. All while I was still talking to my MD friend and made sure the ex saw us kissing. Which I suppose is juvenile but it still made me feel good for some reason. I was standing by the pool table/bathroom area in the bar waiting for my friend and the ex kept saying stuff to and about me and said he wanted to fight me and my poor super-queeny friend and his friends had to hold him back. It's funny...to me at least...now even more of the people I know want him deported and say if I give them the info they'll do it. I don't know what to do, I certainly don't want him trying to fight me when I see him out which turns out to be more frequently than I thought.
 
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