So, last night

[winterknight]

I think it just sounds to me like you need a good friend in life. EVERYONE does.

It would be nice, but I've never been able to make them

You should so work on opening up another gay place in Ipswich

Gay bars in Ipswich have a history of not surviving for long. Betty's is the only one recently that's managed to stay open for more than a couple of years, and it's only open two nights a week.

Besides, you're assuming I actually want to STAY in Ipswich

 

[flood22]

I used to go out almost every Friday night. It wasn't always a joyous occasion. I'm not all that social, but there are rare times where I'm somehow the life of the party. It's weird.

Your company is important. If you're hanging with someone that you just occasionally talk to and maybe they aren't introducing you to other friends or don't really care if you're having a good time, you're not going to have a good time. As said above, bars are high pressure social locales. There's usually loud music, lower light levels, and alcohol to loosen people up a million times fold. It's hard for someone to get to that level when they are feeling down. I know. I've been there too many times. A get-together at a friend's is a great way to get to know people. Get-together I've been to usually involve playing console games, eating cheap order-in dinner, or some other theme, but it's always a thinly veiled excuse for socializing and drinking.

I'm sorry you were stuck with a guy that sounds like he could care less to notice your situation. Even if someone didn't know you that well, they would have caught on to the fact that you weren't having a good time.

 

[RationalLunacy]

You'd meet a nicer class of people on Myspace.

 

[winterknight]

Your company is important. If you're hanging with someone that you just occasionally talk to and maybe they aren't introducing you to other friends or don't really care if you're having a good time, you're not going to have a good time.

The trouble is that I know so few people that if one of them invites me out - even if he's just a passing acquaintance - I can't really afford to say no.

And really, passing acquaintances are all I have.

 

[rareboy]

That discussing anything that's said in therapy with third parties could potentially undermine the whole process.

Bravo. I'm glad to hear that you have had some discussions. Hopefully they can help you unlock the reason why you feel unable to just let loose and experience joy.

 

[Pringle]

Gay bars in Ipswich have a history of not surviving for long. Betty's is the only one recently that's managed to stay open for more than a couple of years, and it's only open two nights a week.

Besides, you're assuming I actually want to STAY in Ipswich

Actually I didn't assume that - I just didn't know any different.

So where would you like to be - or would just getting out of Suffolk be enough

 

[winterknight]

Actually I didn't assume that - I just didn't know any different.

So where would you like to be - or would just getting out of Suffolk be enough

I dunno. I just know that I hate being stuck here.

But based on evidence so far, there isn't anywhere else that I'd enjoy living more, so....

(and the fact that having my parents around keeps me relatively sane is a bonus)

 

[Pringle]

Yeah I think we both know it is not the place so much that is the issue - I live not far from you (even if it is a different County ) and I think its a great place to live (could do with some mountains - but what ya gonna do )

So how do you know these acquaintances?

 

[winterknight]

Through the LGBT drop-in in Ipswich

 

[Pringle]

Many people go?

 

[winterknight]

Not really

It's the same faces every week though

 

[Pringle]

Thats a good thing though - means you get a chance to get to know them.

Glad to hear you are going to this

 

[winterknight]

I dunno. I've been going for a year now and still don't really feel like I'm part of the group.

 

[star-warrior]

So where's the pics of you in your package enhanced undies? I wanna gawk

 

[winterknight]

Do I really have to?

 

[star-warrior]

No. You can though, if you're feeling daring

 

[G-Lexington]

Gay bars aren't the only social outlet, despite what some might assume.

>>>But it's a long, slow, HORRIBLE process.

Most worthwhile things are. Keep at it.

Lex

 

[winterknight]

Gay bars aren't the only social outlet, despite what some might assume.

They are round here.

 

[sixthson]

Clubs are not everyone's cup of tea, so don't feel too badly for feeling out of place. I know you also have trouble making friendships on a one-to-one, as well, but at least you are moving the right direction by being around others.
I doubt clubs are places to form friendships, anyway.

I think you underestimate your ability to form friendships, because your presence here proves that others like you. I realize the internet is not the same thing as flesh and blood friends, but it is something.

Keep at it.

 

[winterknight]

Not being funny, but if I "underestimate my ability to form friendships", howcome I haven't made a single one in twenty-eight and a half years of life?