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What is so appealing about wrong guys or girls? Some people tend to fall in love with someone who is not good for them. For me wrong people are the ones with alternative motives to be in a relationship. Someone who are with you for your money, for sex only, to gain popularity or to come closer to the one that person really like.

More wrong people are (usually) men who wants their partners to stay forever with him by brainwash someone psycologically like making the partner feel like trash and that the person should be glad to have someone at all. I also think of people who physically hurt their partners. Some people always seems to pick these wrong people.

Why do people pick these wrong people? Have you ever fallen for wrong type of people?
 
RRRalph said:
What is so appealing about wrong guys or girls? Some people tend to fall in love with someone who is not good for them. For me wrong people are the ones with alternative motives to be in a relationship. Someone who are with you for your money, for sex only, to gain popularity or to come closer to the one that person really like.

More wrong people are (usually) men who wants their partners to stay forever with him by brainwash someone psycologically like making the partner feel like trash and that the person should be glad to have someone at all. I also think of people who physically hurt their partners. Some people always seems to pick these wrong people.

Why do people pick these wrong people? Have you ever fallen for wrong type of people?
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RRRalph,

I took the liberty of highlighting the sentence above. The reason some people always seem to pick these wrong people is because human beings really are, as the saying goes, "creatures of habit." Most of us exhibit pattern behavior in virtually everything we do, even if our pattern is unpredictability. Many people who appear brainwashed by a bad partner tend to already think of themselves poorly in some way, so they seek out someone who will act out upon them what they already believe they deserve. Still others seek out someone who they can then play out unresolved issues they saw played out in their own parents relationships, or their own relationships with their parents.

We like to think that we freely choose people to get involved with, but often we're driven to choose people that go along with how we were conditioned to see ourselves or relationships when we were younger. Many people have no idea the drives and motivations that truly lie waiting in their subconscious until they examine their behavior and begin to find the patterns therein.

And the jerks and why so many exist? Well, they have their own patterns and conditioning they act from often, even if they don't understand why.
 
'cause no-one likes saints ... sinners are more fun. We're all attracted to the darker side of life, huh?
 
We choose bad boys or bad girls so we won't have to have a long-term commitment (whether we consciously know it or not).

If a person can actually distance him/herself from a "bad" person and simply enjoy the short experience, it's probably ok. That almost never happens.
 
I fell for a wrong guy once, James. He was a drug addict, drank heavily and never had any money. Yet I was so fascinated (in 'love') with him that for a long time none of that mattered. However, eventually I realised that I wasn't actually helping him 'up' but he was rather pulling me down into his world. I started to skip work too often and did quite a few bad things that I'm not proud of. So I decided to break it off with him. However, a few months later I ran into him at a club and ended going back to his place. I realised how easy it would be to fall into the same pattern and lifestyle again and since then I stayed well clear of him.

I can't describe what it is about him but I now know that it is not good for me and it is best to stay away from him and other people like him. I'm now much more picky about people I choose to spend my time and life with.
 
in my experience, just because the person is question is wrong you personally doesnt mean they are wrong or jerks to anyone else they are with, personalities dont always much up.

"sometimes the heart should follow the mind
sometimes the heart should tell the mind to
stay at home and stop interfering"

sadly its human nature, sometimes we are just drawn to what is bad for us
 
In the past I've picked the "wrong people" (people with a lot of baggage) probably because I had an inner need to try to "fix" them. I mistook caretaking, for love. It's taken me years to get out of that habit.
As far as "wrong people" meaning someone hurtful or dangerous, it could be because of the 'excitement" of being around someone who might be a little bit bad.
 
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Sadly, shit happens. It just does.

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Humans tend to be pretty complex. If someone looks like a scumbag to you, (and he really, may be one), he might have one or the other hidden quality (no matter how relative the use of that word might be here) that appears to be of decisive importance to someone else.

I used to know a dude, whose looks were 1 on a scale of 1-10. His attitude was 3 bellow zero. His work ethics was non-existant. Yet, he treated me with an immense respect and never tried any foul play.

His BF used to tell me. Yup, the dude is as worthless as they possibly come. But trust me, he has got 11 thick wonderful inches, where it counts and he knows how to use them, too.

There you go...

To each one his own.

SC
 
DANNO said:
You just gotta be strong and not let them get you down!
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rigr33 said:
I fall for the wrong people all the time so you are not alone.
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Maybe i wasn't that clear. This thread isn't particulary about me evntho i recently experienced something with a bad girl. She cheated her bf with me and told to her bf that i made her drunk and took advantage of her.

I started this thread after i saw a story about a girl who fell in love with a wrong guy on tv. After a while he became her pimp and she was his prostitute. It was quite sad. She threw two years of her life away.
 
I know some people who can't help falling in love with assholes. Some girls/gay/bi-guys want to dominated. They often have a low self-esteem and need a person on their side who tells them what to do.
 
I know with girls anyway they tend to like the hard man / bad boy type, I full into the nice category... I think it is a faze, when you get older and settle down more they tend to like the nicer guys. Just IMO....
 
I've always found the biological argument for why women are attracted to good-looking aggressive/mean guys interesting. It goes along with the idea that in nature females are attracted to the male that is more colorful and more likely to pass along survival traits to her offspring. :idea:
 
Killjoke said:
I've always found the biological argument for why women are attracted to good-looking aggressive/mean guys interesting. It goes along with the idea that in nature females are attracted to the male that is more colorful and more likely to pass along survival traits to her offspring. :idea:
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Well, I don't fall into that category. I am a bad girl, myself. A bad boy/aggressive guy would do NOTHING for me other than make me want to go for a few rolls in the hay and drop his ass afterwards. I ain't go the time to be dealing with a dude that is always in some shit or jail for dumb things.

I like my mine to have be the "nice guys" but he better have a backbone also. Kinda like RRRalph.
 
TierraSimms said:
Well, I don't fall into that category. I am a bad girl, myself. A bad boy/aggressive guy would do NOTHING for me other than make me want to go for a few rolls in the hay and drop his ass afterwards. I ain't go the time to be dealing with a dude that is always in some shit or jail for dumb things.

I like my mine to have be the "nice guys" but he better have a backbone also. Kinda like RRRalph.
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Tierra,

That's because I suspect you have bigger balls than most of the guys you are interested in. And that's a compliment said in much love and respect. That's how most of my female friends are. :kiss:
 
Backstappers are also so wrong. Don't you hate twofaced people? Being nice in your face and talk bad about you behind you back. They only want to see you suffer and even trick you into trouble for their fun. Sad.
 
I´m kinda drawn to assholes. For girls, I like them to be total bitches... And for guys, well, let just say that my ex right now is a total loser, but I like him :D
 
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