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So, socializing.

Take horse riding lessons. Everyone is usually very friendly and sociable (pub afterwards - you can always have a softie), a lot of the guys are gay, and it's good exercise too.
 
unloadonme said:
Take horse riding lessons. Everyone is usually very friendly and sociable (pub afterwards - you can always have a softie), a lot of the guys are gay, and it's good exercise too.
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I'm allergic to horsehair. Makes my eyes itchy and my tubes close up. So that's one thing crossed off the list.

I'm also completely hopeless at making decisions.
 
I think we are all going round in circles here.

The general impression I get is that everyone is concerned and seriously interested in seeing you achieve some sort of social interaction with people.

I think everyone understands how difficult it is for you and we understand that your negativity to all our suggestions is just a result of your fear of taking a leap into the unknown.

But you have to meet us half way.

How about giving us a list of things that you think you might be capable of trying out.

If you reply 'nothing' I will personally come and slap your face whilst I am in England in July. ;)
 
Ok.

Now this is the kind of existentially emptiness crap that doesn't cut it with me.

You can't have gone fishing your whole life just looking for what everybody tells you you should do that day.

Because.

If you have, their is a novel in the tale and I'm claiming the story line as my own.

I will, however let you write your own story, beginning from the time of your earliest recollections.

Through it, you may discover how, in the absence of personal desire, you have managed to get to the stage you're at in your life.

And you may find the secret to how, using only your own imagination and yearnings, you can become a fulfilled person.

Now. Chapter One.
 
Why don't you start with us? :)

If you are interested, I can start things off.

So Winterknight, Angela Carter, huh? I love her. What a great author. I like wolves. Prefer crows though.
 
If you have, their (sic) is a novel in the tale and I'm claiming the story line as my own.
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OMG I've self-flagellated over this error. I was distracted by staff while typing this. so I fired them for interrupting me.

Seeta has a great idea. Share with us your interest in Angela Carter. Her work is intriguing. What captivated you about her writing? Do you have other authors to recommend?
 
I haven't actually read anything by her except that one story. And that was years ago.

These days it is pretty much the case that except for a few hours spent wandering aimlessly around Ipswich every saturday, my only three waking activities are work, the gym (which I don't particularly enjoy and only stick to because the alternative is turning back into a tub of lard) and sitting here looking at crap on the internet.

I actually get in trouble with the HR department at work for not taking all my allocated leave each year, because tedious and soul-destroying as my job is, I'd actually rather be there than sitting at home doing nothing. Which is all I do with time off.
 
A highly recommended book:

SOS Help for Emotions: Managing Anxiety, Anger, and Depression

[ame="http://www.amazon.com/SOS-Help-Emotions-Managing-Depression/dp/0935111522/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&s=books&qid=1245278686&sr=8-1"]Amazon.com: SOS Help for Emotions: Managing Anxiety, Anger, and Depression: Lynn Clark: Books[/ame]

Social anxiety disorder may involve up to 10% of the population. It probably is more common in homosexual males than heterosexual males. The problem can get so severe that careers are jeopardized by fear of public speaking or social interaction. These individuals will accept lesser jobs just to avoid the anxiety produced. The lack of friends can lead to social isolation and depression increasing the risk for substance and alcohol abuse.

Treatment is by two means

1. Cognitive behavior therapy..the goal of CBT is to guide the person's thoughts in a more rational direction and help the person stop avoiding situations that once caused anxiety. This is done by a psychologist

2. Medications; SSRI's, beta blockers, and antianxiety agents

Cognitive therapy is the more effective of the two

Counseling to improve self-esteem and social skills, as well as relaxation techniques, such as deep breathing, may also help a person deal with social anxiety disorder
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Because in many cases, it seems to be the only way into self-understanding and managing clinical depression and other mental health issues.
 
rareboy said:
Because in many cases, it seems to be the only way into self-understanding and managing clinical depression and other mental health issues.
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Not necessarily the only way to MANAGING clinical depression - sometimes a person can work around and find one's own way out of the depression, but it's not very common.

Self-understanding, on the other hand, usually comes after professional help, though the alternative of MEDITATION has worked for some.

Meditation or medication, that is the question...

Again, I applaud the big step you've taken, and I do so with all my heart. Many of us would very much love to see you find your way to an abundant, rich and fulfilling life...and to find the soulmate that you deserve.
 
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