So there's this REAAAAALLLLYYYY cute guy...

[menRsexii]

That I've been talking to on grindr for what seems like a hell of a long time... I actually think I made a thread about him earlier but I can't find it. So not much new has happened :/ boooo. But I do see him a lot in our residence dining hall. We just smile at eachother. Though I always got this confident, "cool guy" vibe from him, apparently he is pretty shy, like me!

Anyway, We had a very brief convo one time and he told me his friend thought I was adorable... not him This seems to always happen to me. Guys that I have no interest in find interest in me. I would like just for once for it to be mutual... But ya, do you guys thins he has absolutely no interest in me? Or is he just being shy like me? I swear I get so nervous around him. I get butterflies in my stomach everytime I see him. Any advice? Should I just give up? Thanks.

 

[braex27]

If you've been talking to him for a while, I'd say he was at least interested. He may be using his friend as a cover to voice how he feels about you, because he's so shy.

Maybe you could ask if - 'Your friend thinks I'm adorable. What do you think of me?' See what he says?!

Good luck.

 

[menRsexii]

Thankd braex for the advice I sure hope you're right. I want him so bad! Haha... But i'm not getting my hopes up that much because I know it might not go to plan... oh well, always worth trying.

 

[MoltenRock III]

You mean this thread from a month ago: http://www.justusboys.com/forum/showthread.php?t=356216

So, you've now spent a month fawning over this guy, without ever screwing up any courage to ask him out on a date? Come on man! Did you ever stop to think that the reason why he said "his friend" found you "cute", was actually him? And even if it wasn't, WTF cares? If YOU want a date with HIM, ask him out on a date. Not next month. Not next week. But today. Now! Ask him out. WTF do you have to lose?

Good grief!

 

[rareboy]

Oh for fuck's sakes boy.

Stop with the typing and the txtg and the interwebz courtship and get out on the floor and dance.

As Molten says.

Ask him on a date.

And if he doesn't want to go, ask whether his friend would like to go.

Just do something.

 

[menRsexii]

Well sorry guys for being incredibly slowwww but I mean have a number of obstacles to get over before I can get the courage to ask this guy out... as you all know, I'm like completely new to all of this so I'm nervous, I'm naturally a very shy person -- especially in front of guys I like, and I have self-image issues which make things worse. If he rejects me, it could send me into a deep depression. Though you all may think that's "sad and pathetic" that's probably what would happen. I've been feeling somewhat good about myself lately and that could totally set me back in the process. IDK, I'm just trying to be smart about this...

 

[hotatlboi]

nothing ventured nothing gained.

 

[borg69unimatrix]

Go for the sure thing, and go with the guy that thinks you're cute if your mental stability is that fragile.

 

[MoltenRock III]

Well sorry guys for being incredibly slowwww but I mean have a number of obstacles to get over before I can get the courage to ask this guy out... as you all know, I'm like completely new to all of this so I'm nervous, I'm naturally a very shy person -- especially in front of guys I like, and I have self-image issues which make things worse. If he rejects me, it could send me into a deep depression. Though you all may think that's "sad and pathetic" that's probably what would happen. I've been feeling somewhat good about myself lately and that could totally set me back in the process. IDK, I'm just trying to be smart about this...

Ok, well obviously you shouldn't be dating if you're so fragile.

Just keep masturbating in the dark, outside his window, as he inevitably moves on to find someone, and then you can move on to some other faux boyfriend. The funny thing is though, is that to get over your "shyness" is to actually screw up your courage and do something you normally wouldn't. Otherwise, you'll be a 45 year old virgin, lamenting on JUB in 2031 how shallow gay guys are.

It's too bad that you're living your life in your head. Because actual, real, exhilarating life happens right in front of you. You can choose to join in, or you can choose to be a wallflower. The choice is yours and yours alone.

 

[Light339]

Ok, well obviously you shouldn't be dating if you're so fragile.

Just keep masturbating in the dark, outside his window, as he inevitably moves on to find someone, and then you can move on to some other faux boyfriend. The funny thing is though, is that to get over your "shyness" is to actually screw up your courage and do something you normally wouldn't. Otherwise, you'll be a 45 year old virgin, lamenting on JUB in 2031 how shallow gay guys are.

It's too bad that you're living your life in your head. Because actual, real, exhilarating life happens right in front of you. You can choose to join in, or you can choose to be a wallflower. The choice is yours and yours alone.

I don't always like the tone of your posts (you come across as the biggest asshole on JUB at times) but you are pretty spot on here.

 

[hotatlboi]

I don't always like the tone of your posts (you come across as the biggest asshole on JUB at times) but you are pretty spot on here.

cool avatar!

 

[SLOPPYSECONDS]

That I've been talking to on grindr for what seems like a hell of a long time... I actually think I made a thread about him earlier but I can't find it. So not much new has happened :/ boooo. But I do see him a lot in our residence dining hall. We just smile at eachother. Though I always got this confident, "cool guy" vibe from him, apparently he is pretty shy, like me!

Anyway, We had a very brief convo one time and he told me his friend thought I was adorable... not him This seems to always happen to me. Guys that I have no interest in find interest in me. I would like just for once for it to be mutual... But ya, do you guys thins he has absolutely no interest in me? Or is he just being shy like me? I swear I get so nervous around him. I get butterflies in my stomach everytime I see him. Any advice? Should I just give up? Thanks.

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[MoltenRock III]

I don't always like the tone of your posts (you come across as the biggest asshole on JUB at times) but you are pretty spot on here.

That's true I am an asshole. That said, pay attention to my advice, not my tone. Then you might realize I actually care about the posters I give advice to. Otherwise, why would I spend 10 or 15 minutes of my time to try to help people? I'm not the "pat you on the back" type poster, but rather the "kick you in the balls, yet honest" poster. Sorry if that offends you, or anyone I'm trying to help.

 

[asu1117]

Ask him out, the worst thing that can happen is he says no. And if he does, so what? He's just a crush, it's not like you'll "lose" anything if he rejects you other than the idea of what could have been. And if you don't ask him that idea is all you will ever have. Rejection is a part of life, hiding from it will only keep you from living.

 

[maxpowr9]

That's true I am an asshole. That said, pay attention to my advice, not my tone. Then you might realize I actually care about the posters I give advice to. Otherwise, why would I spend 10 or 15 minutes of my time to try to help people? I'm not the "pat you on the back" type poster, but rather the "kick you in the balls, yet honest" poster. Sorry if that offends you, or anyone I'm trying to help.

Okay now I understand my affinity for you. We basically have the same brain lmao.

 

[MoltenRock III]

Ask him out, the worst thing that can happen is he says no. And if he does, so what? He's just a crush, it's not like you'll "lose" anything if he rejects you other than the idea of what could have been. And if you don't ask him that idea is all you will ever have. Rejection is a part of life, hiding from it will only keep you from living.

Will you go out on a date with me?

 

[asu1117]

Will you go out on a date with me?

Maybe. I've gotta know what a guy looks like first.

 

[goodbadenergy]

I have no courage to ask a guy out that i like, that is relentlessly flirting with me. I'll find the smallest things, like how he doesnt text me, and think he doesnt really like me because of that

 

[rareboy]

Well sorry guys for being incredibly slowwww but I mean have a number of obstacles to get over before I can get the courage to ask this guy out... as you all know, I'm like completely new to all of this so I'm nervous, I'm naturally a very shy person -- especially in front of guys I like, and I have self-image issues which make things worse. If he rejects me, it could send me into a deep depression. Though you all may think that's "sad and pathetic" that's probably what would happen. I've been feeling somewhat good about myself lately and that could totally set me back in the process. IDK, I'm just trying to be smart about this...

Of course you're nervous.

Of course you have self-image issues.

But snap out of it there.

Would this really send you into deep depression? Because if it would, you need to work this through with a therapist before you start the dating game.

Or are you just using it as a dramatic excuse to avoid taking the next step?

At some point you are going to be rejected. If you are like most guys.....you will be rejected or brushed off dozens of times.

At some point, you are going to get your heart battered, if not broken.

You're describing yourself here as someone who is so fragile that any guy you finally date will end up being victimized by your neurosis and insecurity.

Seriously. Get some help from an objective counsellor who can help you overcome some of these unnecessary and debilitating barriers you're erecting for yourself.

 

[SLOPPYSECONDS]

That I've been talking to on grindr for what seems like a hell of a long time... I actually think I made a thread about him earlier but I can't find it. So not much new has happened :/ boooo. But I do see him a lot in our residence dining hall. We just smile at eachother. Though I always got this confident, "cool guy" vibe from him, apparently he is pretty shy, like me!

Anyway, We had a very brief convo one time and he told me his friend thought I was adorable... not him This seems to always happen to me. Guys that I have no interest in find interest in me. I would like just for once for it to be mutual... But ya, do you guys thins he has absolutely no interest in me? Or is he just being shy like me? I swear I get so nervous around him. I get butterflies in my stomach everytime I see him. Any advice? Should I just give up? Thanks.

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