So what should I do?

[SilverWolf]

Today a guy requested to add me as a friend on facebook. I have to accept or deny the request. The thing is...him and others were a complete asshole to me in high school so I'm not sure if I should. But he did have one good redeeming quality...he did tell the school who was really vandalizing my locker instead of me having to pay money for a new lock and stuff.

Its not as though we have much in common and honestly a part of me is still suspicious he just wants to start shit. But then...its not as though I have a life of my own or any friends and I enjoy reading what other people say on facebook. But I've never really mentally moved on from high school and if I accept him there's a good chance I will obsess over what he might or might not say about me. Or if he wants to open old wounds. But if I don't add him, I'm gonna start obsessing over what other people from high school will think of me, especially the ones I am friends with. He was extremely popular, so much that my class started a petition to not have him kicked out. And was considered a legend for breaking the rules so often.

But if I do accept him, its not though I have to worry about him seeing anything since I can block him from reading my profile....Of course other people might say something about me, so that could be a problem.

So what should I do?

 

[TX-Beau]

But I've never really mentally moved on from high school...

Then again maybe HE has moved on since high school - so you might give him a shot.

The rest is just silly needless drama.

 

[lyconthrope]

if he requested you to add as a friend then he probably has moved on, or is just trying to bulk up his friend numbers.

if he wanted to say shit about you then he would add your other friends and not you right?

i have people on my list i have nothing in common with and its fine, we just dont talk

you can always block him and remove him from your friend list if things go south but for now I suggest you use this as your opportunity to move on from high school

if your not 100% sure then just deny the request, if you change your mind in future then you know his name, you add him yourself

 

[Seasoned]

Hanging on to high school hurts or triumps is a no win situation. Add him and see what happens.

 

[Obsessive]

I say add him, and if he starts shit up again just remove him. You said "In High school" so I'm inferring that you're in college or whatever now and removing him from your life again won't be all that hard because he's not someone you ever have to talk to, or see again (or is he?). Either way, my vote is to add him just to see what he says. Who knows? Maybe it's something positive.

Do keep us updated though. :v)!

 

[KaraBulut]

It depends on what you consider a "Facebook friend".

If you pretty much accept anyone who wants to friend you, then accept his request and then use the FB tools to let him see what you want him to see.

On the other hand, if you actually have FB friends you expect to be real world friends, then fuck him- reject his request and forget he ever existed.

 

[koibito24]

id say add him and see how it goes. hopefully he's matured a bit and leaves the HS bs behind. If not, it's as easy to delete someone as it is to add. good luck.

 

[MrEleven]

I think you should add him.

A lot of people change once they are outside of highschool.

I have loads of people on my facebook I went to highschool with that I wasn't close with then, but talk to now. It's also nice to see how people are doing regardless.

And if it comes down to him actually starting shit...just delete/block him?

 

[rareboy]

I can't believe you'd even waste moments of your life worrying about such nonsense.

 

[SilverWolf]

Thanks for the advice everyone!

After debating for a day I decided to add him...and I used facebook tools to decide what he can't see. If I don't like him, I can always delete him

Thanks again!