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So Who Else Here Can't Dance?

When we were in our late teens and 20's we hit the clubs 3 or 4 nights a week and danced until they played Donna Summers Last Dance at closing, then go home and have sex. Ah, those were the days and we were good at it. Now? Not so much, in fact never.
 
i could never dance in high school, and i still cant. part of why i have never been to a gay club.
 
^ We have bars which are licensed to serve alcohol but not to have dance floors.
We have saunas which are licensed to allow sex but can't serve alcohol.
We have venues which allow gambling but don't allow sex or dancing.
 
I can't dance with another person, however one day at work some of the young guys were joking with me, I was about 60 at the time.
To prove to them that I was not dead yet I did a Michael Jackson bit, complete with moon walk and ending with a spin and a crotch grab. It was the first time I had ever tried it, didn't know I could do it.
 
I can dance...I just dance like a white boy. And according to some, that bar is set very low.
 
TheSpectatingLoner said:
And I can say that there's a definite difference in how not matching up with Gay stereotypes and not matching up with Black stereotypes each affect me.
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I must admit that your being affected by either of these things at all surprises me completely, given your steadfast and frequent cry of not marching to everyone else's beat and insisting on always forging your own way through everything.

-d-
 
TheSpectatingLoner said:
And if you read through instead of marching in with your own judgements, you'd see that my upset was more about my lack of connection to those I wish to be more connected to--not simply meeting up to expectations I don't care about.

That's what the entire discussion of difference was about. :dead:
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Tsk tak, NA.

I DID read it, and I'm STILL surprised that it bothers you, which is why I posted my reply.

-d-
 
It's just that I'm seeing the pattern repeat. It's either "I'm different and I love being different (in this way)", or "I'm different and I wish I wasn't different (in this way)". And the responses either illicit high-fives, or "you don't KNOW me".

And maybe CCGI (cracka can't get it), but this just hasn't been an issue in my life since, oh, high school? Or maybe early in college? Yeah, I've got shit about me that I'd change in a heartbeat if WallyKazam loaned me his magic stick. It'd be great to not forget really important things. It'd be killer to know what it's like to leave the house on the first try, instead of standing in front of the door trying to remember what I forgot. (And then deciding it isn't anything important...until I'm ten minutes away, and realize that it's vital to get through the day.) I'd love to get through the day without tripping over something or smacking my shoulder into a doorframe due to my spatial relationships issues. I wonder if I'd have more friends (and lovers) if I didn't look like I was going to kill somebody every time I was sitting around wondering what to have for lunch. And on and on.

But see - I just don't give this shit much thought anymore. I try to find workarounds to my deficiencies wherever possible - there's a shitload of lists on my phone, for instance, including yes, "what you need to take to work today". But when such things aren't possible, I just hug myself, say "that's OK, Lex, I still love ya" and get on with my life, you know? Because I can love myself despite my many many flaws - that's what love's all about.

Lex
 
TheSpectatingLoner said:
^Do you have gay bars near you that don't have dance floors? One thing I love about NY is how vibrant the bar scene is for people who actually drink, instead of merely dancing.
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i think the only one nearby (at least the only one ive heard of) is 'the den'. and from what i can tell its basically the typical club with little lighting and lots of dancing.
 
The few gay clubs I've been to recently had dance floors, but they were fairly minimal compared to the overall size of the venue. In fact, often enough, the "dance floor" was filled with people standing around, drinking and chatting.

Lex
 
TheSpectatingLoner said:
If I'm so predictable, why did I "shock" him? Can you guys get your stories straight before you come at me?
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You can't quote "shock" when I didn't use it. I said surprised, yeah? Twice. And Borg and I are two different people; we don't need a straight story to reach the same opinion, and we're not coming at you.

Keep on believing you're better than the rest of us, though! ..|

-d-
 
G-Lexington said:
The few gay clubs I've been to recently had dance floors, but they were fairly minimal compared to the overall size of the venue. In fact, often enough, the "dance floor" was filled with people standing around, drinking and chatting.

Lex
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LOL

In was once standing on a dance floor with drink in hand, and an employee stopped to tell me I couldn't dance with a drink. I looked at him, looked at my drink, and proceeded to do a nice swing with the drink as my "partner". When the tune ended a half minute later, I got applause, and the employee laughed. He said, "Okay, you're not supposed to dance with a drink".

Didn't get me a free drink, though, dang it.
 
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