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So yea, this will probably be verbal buck shot but...

So yea...

It couldn't have been worse #-o . Let me start off by saying that I was totally right about the pictures. The original ones he had up must have been professionally done or something, because he looked nothing like them. Again, not trying to be shallow, but looks play a part! I wouldn't have minded so much if our personalities matched, but they totally didn't. He couldn't have been more stereotypically gay, again, nothing wrong with that, just not who I would normally go out with (the perils of online dating I assume ](*,) ). He kept trying to be extremely touchy feely, which isn't in itself is a bad thing, but how in the world can he move so fast, he opened the door and went directly for my arm :help: . I would never in a million years do that until I got to know a person. Towards the end of the night maybe, but not outright.

Talk was non-existant, save for some small talk (here using small in the most extreme form of the word). In fact, the most meaningful conversation we had all night was how large my salad was at the Cheesecake Factory...

The night ended with me saying "Have a nice day." I couldn't wait for it to be over

He was definitely not my type.

You live and learn i suppose.

On the upside, I got to see Inception again, and it was just as good as the first! Flipping love that movie (!)
 
I'm sorry it went crappy. I have some questions though.

Hadn't you guys talked beforehand?

What do you mean by stereotypically gay?

Why would you see the same movie twice, even if it was good? This one is more just my personal curiosity because going to the movies is expensive.
 
altlover85 said:
I'm sorry it went crappy. I have some questions though.

Hadn't you guys talked beforehand?

What do you mean by stereotypically gay?

Why would you see the same movie twice, even if it was good? This one is more just my personal curiosity because going to the movies is expensive.
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Yes, we talked beforehand, for like a week and a half, and we got along really well, but in person things didn't go nearly as smoothly.

By stereotypically gay, think the nephew from Ugly Betty, or really, any gay guy in a movie. He was wearing spandex, and just the way he talked bothered me. Nothing wrong with people like that, I guess I just didn't realize how uncomfortable that makes me. I'm not looking for some totally beefy masculine guy, but not someone, for lack of a better word, that gay...

I know....I just confused myself too....

As for the movie thing, it really helps when you don;t buy food XD. $10 is nothing, especially for a movie like Inception. I would totally go out and see it again right now if the opportunity presented itself :gogirl:
 
Oh okay. Now you know for next time to talk on the phone first.

I talked on the phone with the guys I ended up getting serious with for a few weeks before we met in person.
 
altlover85 said:
Oh okay. Now you know for next time to talk on the phone first.

I talked on the phone with the guys I ended up getting serious with for a few weeks before we met in person.
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Yea, I'm chalking this one up a learning experience #-o

I have been working on finding some gay friends at my school or in my area to go to WeHo with. Never really been there, and I think something like that would be really, really good for me. Totally just shove me out of my comfort zone. I'm all about learning by doing :badgrin:
 
You live near WeHo and have never gone? I'm so jealous! There must be tons of clubs and stuff there.
 
altlover85 said:
You live near WeHo and have never gone? I'm so jealous! There must be tons of clubs and stuff there.
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Yep, I live about 30 minutes away, 45 minutes tops. I just don't have anyone to go with, and I'm not so sure I would feel right going alone ](*,)
 
I can understand that. I don't like doing things alone either, especially if it's going to a club or something like that.

Did the guy you met online seem interested in you? Could you two just become friends? Could you go with him?
 
altlover85 said:
I can understand that. I don't like doing things alone either, especially if it's going to a club or something like that.

Did the guy you met online seem interested in you? Could you two just become friends? Could you go with him?
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He seemed interested in me, but in all honesty, I would rather not see him again. He grated my nerves #-o . Just not my kind of people.

I am working on things at school to get to know some new people. I'm trying!!!!

Hopefully soon I can find a few like minded peeps to go out with.
 
Sorry dude, but frankly I think most dates don't go well so yeah, chalk it up as experience.

And I am totally with you on that whole too gay thing - could never go out with someone like that. Yet, one of my good friends is flaming. And he is touch feely too.

But what was up with wearing spandex to a date? I wore spandex to a date once - because we were going biking! Spandex to a movie and restaurant? Wow. Did he have a body for spandex?
 
Short answer, no, he totally didn't have the body for Spandex :help:

I have been trying out a few other sites recommended by other members on here. But I feel like they are just a cop out, that I should be focusing my energy on finding people where it matters, in the real world... :badgrin:

Another month or so and my body should be pretty close to where I want it to be. My confidence has been slowly rising, and I think once I hit that goal, I will be un-freaking-stoppable :twisted:

So yea...I'll keep you all updated :wave:
 
I think ideally you use online websites to allow you to have connections with people you normally wouldn't meet. I don't think you should think of it as a cop out. It can just be another tool in your repertoire.
 
SomedaySoon said:
Short answer, no, he totally didn't have the body for Spandex :help:

I have been trying out a few other sites recommended by other members on here. But I feel like they are just a cop out, that I should be focusing my energy on finding people where it matters, in the real world... :badgrin:

Another month or so and my body should be pretty close to where I want it to be. My confidence has been slowly rising, and I think once I hit that goal, I will be un-freaking-stoppable :twisted:

So yea...I'll keep you all updated :wave:
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Look dude, you need some serious practice in dating. So you didn't like him and it wasn't a love connection, BFD. He's still a person with feelings and seemed into you. If he read here what you said about him, he'd feel pretty shitty. Would you want the same treatment from someone you liked, but whom wasn't all that into you?

I see you are on a commonly mistaken path young people make about dating. It's all about results and if you find something magical, and if you don't you're a bit twisted. Dating isn't always about immediate results. Buying lube and whatnot, seems like you are trying to fit a preconceived idea of what you expect onto someone that fits it. It's kinda like buying a really nice custom size suit hanger, and then going to find a suit that fits your hanger. The process is backwards. You find a suit/boy that fits you, and then you worry about the process (hanger). Does that make sense?

Most of all you should always try to have fun on your dates. Enjoy the process. Just because you didn't find the 1st, 2nd, 8th, 80th, or whatever boy to be your one and only, you should never feel like it was a waste of time. Even an unsuccessful date, teaches you something.
 
Ok...so this update has been a long time coming.

Long story short, I have met someone, and my weight is slowly but surely dropping.

So first the weightless. As of this moment I am 178lbs, down from the 190 of my first post. Mind you, a 12 pound weight loss since July is no big deal, but the 12 pounds have come off all in the last month or so. I shifted my workout routine to a more cardio based work out, and the pounds just fell off. My birthday is in a month, and I would love to be in the 160's (lighter than I have been since I can remember), so that is my goal.

As far as the guy I have met, things are moving very VERY slowly, but I kind of like it this way. We met almost a year ago online. We hit it off right away, but before we could get together, we both had personal things to deal with, so we lost contact for almost 8 months. A few days after the last date I went on (talked about in earlier posts), I got a message from him out of the blue, and we have been nonstop ever since.

This Friday will mark our 7th "date" (I say that because nothing is really official yet, we haven't put labels on anything). We have done movies, food, random tomfoolery, and just last week, we went to Disneyland . It wasn't until the 5th date that we first kissed, and now things are heating up.

The only issue is that he lives like 45 minutes away from me, and he has no car, so everything has to be planned like a week in advance.

I know this update was kind of lack luster, but I promise I'll update again on Saturday.

If you want to know anything, please ask =)
 
Everything sounds good SomedaySoon!

I do have some advice on dating someone without a car. You want to make sure that things are even in terms of where you do things. Sometimes go near him, sometimes go near where you live.

Does he drive? Is it a big deal that he doesn't have a car?
 
Therapy? Find a GLBT group in your community? I mean we can't really tell you how to go out and be social because in reality if you don't have the confidence to do it no matter what or how we tell you, you wont do it. Kudos on the weight lost and i do hope that has bumped your confidence up & your progressing on everything. It's late or I would reply with a more in depth response as I am not one to give generic answers but as I am sure everyone has said some extremely positive do as they say & keep on keeping on.
 
stk620 said:
Therapy? Find a GLBT group in your community? I mean we can't really tell you how to go out and be social because in reality if you don't have the confidence to do it no matter what or how we tell you, you wont do it. Kudos on the weight lost and i do hope that has bumped your confidence up & your progressing on everything. It's late or I would reply with a more in depth response as I am not one to give generic answers but as I am sure everyone has said some extremely positive do as they say & keep on keeping on.
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Hahaha I am waaaaaaaaaaaaaaaay past all the crap I posted earlier (this thread is about 3 months old)

Everything has been looking up and up lately. I have met someone, and it is going swimmingly, and I am branching out socially.

As far as the weight loss, by Christmas I should be exactly where I want to be. I am still self conscious, but I am at a weight now that I haven't been in years, so I am still optimistic
Baby steps, but steps in the right direction none the less =)
 
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