So... your friend appeared in porn...

[goldenmunkey]

I was just clicking through some free clip porn sites when i came across this picture of someone who looks very familiar.

A friend of mine from school or someone who has an uncanny resebleance has appeared in a porn vid. This wouldn't be a problem except that its on Broke Straight Boys and he doesnt know that im gay.

Should i confront him or just try not to look at his crotch when i talk to him?


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Has anyone else found a picture of their friend while looking for some whacking material?

 

[AdmiraalW238]

In a word ... NO

It is irrelevent to you whether he has appeared on Broke Straight Boys or not. If he did do the vid shot then he did it for a reason. So, confronting him, in my opinion, is not an option.

 

[RightWingHomo]

Depends on what you mean by "confront."

I don't know, I'd be the one to very casually, in passing, say "Yo, how are you? How was you day? By the way, saw that you're doing gay porn, how's that working out?"

You never know what could happen. You could hook up with the guy. I find it hard to believe that a straight guy strapped for cash sits down and thinks "I could get a job, or I could fuck a guy on camera. Yeah, that second one sounds good."

 

[G-Lexington]

Unless you want to explain to him why you were on "BrokeStraightGuys", there's really nothing to say. Just be happy your friend is comfortable with it all.

Lex

 

[goldenmunkey]

Thanks guys, im in Japan at the moment so I probably wont be able to ask him about it until i get back home, by then i'd have probably forgotten and have lost the link...

 

[CSI_3Stokes]

Lucky, lucky you're so lucky. Probably best not to confront. Or you could fib and say that you have done something. It might come out that way.

 

[godson112]

Depend how close you are.
You're obviously not that close if he doesn't know you're gay, so it's best to just leave it.

 

[iamthesean]

I've found several of my friends on porn sites...a couple of them on x-tube...i've only ever said something to one of them...but it was because I was sort of seeing the guy at the time. lol

I think that you could probably just bring it up in conversation with him sometime, it could possibly lead to something more? who knows, at least open up a channel of communication, and gain a better friendship, as you could simultaneously be telling him you're gay...and hell, if you're closeted, I don't think that he's going to tell your secret to people that wouldn't be ok with it if he was worried that you could potentially tell the same people his secret..if it is a secret.

 

[gameaddict]

leave him be, maybe he needed the money or enjoys doing it, there's no point talking about it really

 

[TX-Beau]

Me, I’d start with the innuendo, just ‘cause, just to watch him squirm, but that’s my friends. I can think of several of my straight friends I’d love to catch doing gay porn. I don’t know your situation so yeah, unless you’re good friends, both know the score, i.e. you’re gay, don’t bring it up.

 

[goldenmunkey]

Confront him? Why? What is it to you? Does he owe you anything?

Confront is such a strong word, I can't understand why you had to use it.

D: ah, >_< bad choice of words on my behalf, I wont really confront him, i'd some how try to slip it into the convo. But it largely depends on his mood at the time.

I've been in Japan for the past 4 months and have just about lost all contact with him since he doesnt have MSN or Facebook.

Im not even sure if the person in the video is him or someone who looks exactly like him. So I will ask him if he has tattoos or sumthing. If he doesnt, then its not him and i can forget about it.

 

[blue4241]

I have actually found a friend on a porn website. It was actually a naked self pic he sent me one night and a couple of months later I found it on a website. I asked him about it and he said that had sent that pic out to several guys so probably one of them uploaded it on there. He was kinda irritated about it. This is the same guy that I've hooked up with before, so I got to see what the pic was really about.

 

[Eagle653]

Before I came out, the (former) boyfriend of a gay friend of mine went to Hollywood and ended up in at least two porn vids and a series of magazine layouts. It was so amazing to see this guy, whom I knew in a totally different context, without clothes and being sexual.

The classy thing to do is to keep the worlds separate. In spite of how much you're dying to ask, don't (and, yes, don't stare). I can't see a scenario in which this could lead to anything productive because if it's not him, you've opened up a huge can of worms that you'll have to talk fast to get yourself out of. If it IS him, then you can likely embarrass him and out yourself at the same time. (Sounds like a lovely evening.)

Anyway, be yourself and treat him as your friend. If it comes out in due course, fine. Otherwise, it's going to be tricky to bring this up unless he does first.

Good luck.