Solitude

[belamyi]

How can you be an adult and ever get "bored", without knowing what to do, be it with your evening or with your whole life...

 

[belamyi]

You do not play then at whist, sir? Alas, what a sad old age you are preparing for yourself!
Vous ne jouez donc pas le whist, monsieur? Helas! quelle triste vieilesse vous vous preparez!


http://www.softpanorama.org/Skeptics/Quotes/talleyrand_quotes.shtml

 

[Peloso]

My dream house.

 

[dpnice]

Counting I realised that it is over 7 months that I have been a total recluse, speaking to no one apart from waiters and shop keepers. I thought that I would be depressed but though I share my life with sleeping all day and being active all seems to be going well. I love my flat,the plants on my balcony give me a lot of pleasure and Nice is one of the best cities to live in.

 

[belamyi]

Oh, so there are plants left after the gale.

"Waiters, shop keepers"... if you were partnered/married/living with Mrs. Bates... it wouldn't make much of a difference... unless, of course, your partnership had been penned by Barbara Cartland... well, maybe not her, maybe Damon Suede or something like that.

 

[belamyi]

Should I live to be 100 I have 32 years of solitude speaking to no one nor sharing my life with friends.

Do do you think such an extreme form of solitude is possible ?

 

[ShadowCat]

I commented on this 2 years ago in 2019, I got no response or comment or mention I am literally living in solitude in this very thread and if I hadn't have spoken up no one would have even noticed me there! I wonder if it'll be another 2 years, if anyone will notice me here.

 

[belamyi]

My dear Bellamy that is exactly it. My solitude would be insupportable if it wasn’t for everyone else living their lives around me.

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I commented on this 2 years ago in 2019, I got no response or comment or mention I am literally living in solitude in this very thread and if I hadn't have spoken up no one would have even noticed me there! I wonder if it'll be another 2 years, if anyone will notice me here.

You do mean "notice" or, rather, "leave notice"?

 

[rareboy]

I commented on this 2 years ago in 2019, I got no response or comment or mention I am literally living in solitude in this very thread and if I hadn't have spoken up no one would have even noticed me there! I wonder if it'll be another 2 years, if anyone will notice me here.

We are the architects of our own solitude. No one else.

Originally you were complaining in this thread about not getting enough of it.

Now it seems you are feeling isolated.

Maybe you need to be doing more of the heavy lifting.

 

[Peloso]

For most people who prefer it, solitude is a double-edged sword.

 

[belamyi]

^ You mean for the rest it is not double-edged. How so?

 

[Thad1527]

I just love this.

 

[ShadowCat]

We are the architects of our own solitude. No one else.

Originally you were complaining in this thread about not getting enough of it.

Now it seems you are feeling isolated.

Maybe you need to be doing more of the heavy lifting.

Well that was 2 years ago when I wasn't getting any peace and quiet. I stopped going places with the family during cv19 so yeah now there is too much of a good thing! But I mean others were checking in with each other and it just seemed like I was in the way, as if I was coming to a club uninvited.

 

[Peloso]

^ You mean for the rest it is not double-edged. How so?

No I do not mean that for the rest it is not double edged. I can't speak for the rest. I was speaking for myself and many of my fellow introverts/recluses.

 

[Dominus]

Unfortunately, I'm an extrovert. Not just a regular extrovert, I'm on the far side of the spectrum. In other words, I require a lot of human contact. I don't do well alone.

 

[Peloso]

Unfortunately, I'm an extrovert. Not just a regular extrovert, I'm on the far side of the spectrum. In other words, I require a lot of human contact. I don't do well alone.

Would you say your extroversion can be a problem?

 

[Charon]

Would you say your extroversion can be a problem?

It's the root of all problems.

 

[Rickrock]

We all need a little solitude at times, but I like being with people even more.

 

[Dominus]

Would you say your extroversion can be a problem?

Sometimes I wish I'm not so extroverted. When I'm alone too long I start having dark thoughts. I can't stand being alone.

I'm not saying I want to be an introvert. I would really love to be somewhere in the middle of the spectrum so I can enjoy the company of others and still be alone without a problem.

Back when I was in buttfucknowhere, Arkansas on a work assignment, I was practically alone. Why? Yes, during the day I was with others. But after work they got to go home to their families while I got to go home to no one. It got to a point where I actually had suicidal thoughts.

So, yeah, I would say that my extreme extroversion can be quite a problem at times. Even a curse.

 

[belamyi]

Unfortunately, I'm an extrovert. Not just a regular extrovert, I'm on the far side of the spectrum. In other words, I require a lot of human contact. I don't do well alone.

Neither do I, but it has not been that bad for the past forty three years or so (I have always been told, by family and old neighbours, that I was a truly charming very little kids, hence the three years difference with my total age ).