Sometimes the enemy is inside the camp

[frankfrank]

going into a public rest room and finding a 12 year old girl alone, I wouldn't be to comfortable with that..

Or a 12-year-old boy, for that matter. Any such scenario puts me into more angst than almost any other scenario that is humanly possible.

What's to stop the kid from having opportunistic parents who will gladly pursue charges, with the kid saying something like "he reached for me down here" (which would be a total lie, under any circumstance) and it proceeds...MY LIFE WOULD BE OVER. Or maybe the parents extort me for $200,000 for which it will be a "settlement" and charges would be dropped?

I would rather skydive 10 times than be in a public restroom alone with a minor. Skydiving, I will feel FAR safer.

 

[jbrown329]

I don't think you'd please this woman from San Bernardino in California with that arrangement.

Then tell her to stuff a cork in it.

 

[jbrown329]

Good thought, but would a 14 year old girl want to share a rest room with boys of her age? Would she feel comfortable changing her tampon with boys "knowing" what she was doing in that cubicle?

If the boys want to make a big deal out of it, maybe she should make them a bloody mary. Or slap them in the face with it.

 

[mikemizanin729]

The biggest objectors are probably the girls who do not want boys hanging around in and using the girls room. The claim of one to be a transexual should not trump the desire of all the girls to privacy.

Pretty much this.

I think the girls would not like it.

 

[peeonme]

I'm going to be as nice as possible with this one - when on ones period, you don't care. In some form or another there's a lingering urge to gut you for simple, sexist slips of the tongue. So it's unlikely she's going to care about the crinkle of the wrapper for more than a microsecond or three.

My point is that the boys that I knew growing up would harass and tease the girl about being on the rag, kids have enough stress without shit like that happening.

 

[peeonme]

It's a big deal because adults make it a big deal. Just like how showing any skin at all in some parts of the world is a huge deal whereas a 14 girl can wear the absolute minimum amount of clothing on a hot summer day and not get gang raped.

It's more likely that a girl would get gang raped in a bathroom than on a beach.

 

[jbrown329]

Pretty much this.

I think the girls would not like it.

If Americans weren't such fucking prudes about sex/nudity, things would be a whole lot difference. WTF do you expect from a country where a young woman (in college) thinks that she can get pregnant from a toilet seat if a man used it right before she did. No, I'm not making that up.

 

[zombiekiller]

It's more likely that a girl would get gang raped in a bathroom than on a beach.

Again, I think it's a big deal because people make it a big deal. The more repressed a society is, the more this sort of thing happens.

I just don't see men and boys all of a sudden turn into gang rapists just because they now share a bathroom with the girls.

 

[dereperez]

It's more likely that a girl would get gang raped in a bathroom than on a beach.

Rapists will be rapists but I doubt sharing a bathroom will be the cause. I'm not advocating for shared bathrooms necessarily but it's only a big deal for most people because it's not the norm. People will take notice just because it is "different".

 

[luckynumbah7]

My point is that the boys that I knew growing up would harass and tease the girl about being on the rag, kids have enough stress without shit like that happening.

My point is that it isn't the girl's problem. And she likely knows it isn't her problem - by the time most girls hit puberty they can usually agree that some things are obviously sexist. That bleed for 7 days and not die quip, as a for-instance. That's why I said that during a rough physical time the fleeting wish to gut the utterer of such thoughtless and sexist remarks lingers. When something is unpleasant you don't want to hear cracks about it.. However, the 'for your own good, no really' pricks are worse.


Some boys issue with others' bodily functions is the boys problem. And people are still ignoring what assholes girls often are in the same situation. Like you think it's smiles and candy in there or something.

 

[eddielee]

Schools, have to do the best they can, and try to make common sense decisions. It would be expensive to build a third restroom just for transgender people, and a very limited number of people would be using the restroom. For years and years we have been fine with male and female bathrooms, and I have not heard much complaints from transgender people. Would most transgender people, in School, even favour a third bathroom just for them? It would certainly increase bullying. For now, let's stay with what we have.

 

[peeonme]

Rapists will be rapists but I doubt sharing a bathroom [/B]will be the cause. I'm not advocating for shared bathrooms necessarily but it's only a big deal for most people because it's not the norm. People will take notice just because it is "different".

Not the cause, but the opportunity. A secluded, private bathroom provides that more than any open public place.