I don't believe in "soulmate". That implies that there's one and only one person out there that you'll be totally happy with, and if the guy you're with isn't it, you'd best dump him and get looking for the "correct" one. "Soulmate" is fine for romantic books and movies, where you hit a "THE END" and the scene fades out at a moment of eternal bliss. But see, life ain't like that. You wake up the next morning with Prince Charming, and you have to decide who's making breakfast, and who's gonna be the top NEXT go round, and whether to sleep with the window open or closed, and and and...
I believe, for every one of us, there exists a bunch of guys we could have wonderful LTRs with. That doesn't mean that you can just find one, and there - you're done. Good LTRs take work, nuture and care. But if both people put in the effort, the relationship can kick ass.
Lex
Someone once said that everything that ever needed to be written on this topic was covered by William Shakespear nearly 500 years ago.
Man finds love, man loses love, man seeks to get that love back.
Add the pronouns of your choice.
Even "movies" address this angst in about every form that you can imagine.
What the medium doesn't show is what those relationships look like after "The End" has rolled before credits.
Because to me, finding, losing, and getting back is just the beginning.
While in reality, it's about keeping what we already have.
If there is such a thing as a "Soulmate," I have one.
We complete each other in every way.
We know when one is thinking about the other, we know what the other is thinking, we intuitively know the mood, or the emotional state of the other, across both time and space.
Despite whatever relationship that we're in, or where, or what we're doing in our lives, we are to each other the "go to" person where we can just jump right into the moment, without having to give or to share any "back history" for context.
In all honesty, I think that I'd be too afraid to have a relationship anymore intimate than what we share together.
We're not lovers, we've never shared living space together, and we've never kissed, but I know that my life will be a much colder and lonelier place without that person in my life.
But I agree with the sentiment here,
there's more than one, and not just
the one.
