Spanking....

[Ryuusei Boy]

"Oh, hey, I feel pain in my ass, now I suddenly feel the urge to behave correctly".

No.

 

[Zu-Mendel]

Hand/belt/paddle is fine, but the second you break the skin or leave welts lasting longer than a few hours you've gone too far.

 

[bounder]

I think people shouldn't have to resort to violence to discipline their children. However, if the kid just flat out won't listen, and nothing else works, then a spank might be in order.

 

[gsdx]

I grew up in a time when parents spanked their children when it was necessary and school principals could still use a leather strap on students' hands.

Kids these days get away with murder because they know they can. There is no discipline in their lives and it's creating a generation of people that I don't recognise and, quite frankly, that I fear.

 

[Alpha1851]

I was not spanked as a child and I do not condone that type of discipline. I don't believe violence teaches the child anything other than to fear his or her parents.

I've not found a correlation btwn physical discipline and behavior, but the idea is interesting. Back in my younger days I had buddies who were spanked and they weren't perfect angels; I had buddies who were grounded rather than spanked and they also weren't angels. Typically, I think kids just learn to be sneakier the next time so they won't get caught. Staying involved with the child's life and being consistent with rules and discipline seems to work best in my opinion.

I've seen some of those hellions though and know exactly what you mean!

 

[gmoney]

You've definitely touched on a subject that will infuriate some and gather understanding from others.

As far as parenting goes, I'm all for corporal punishment. I was raised with 4 brothers and sisters and we all got spanked when we got in trouble. When it's used in moderation and only when behavior warrants it, I think it can be very effective in teaching right from wrong.

As for schools, I think it should not be allowed. Only the parents should be the ones making that kind of decision. They know the child better than anyone else and when it will be most effective.

As my siblings and I grew older, our parents turned to other methods such as grounding since that would have more meaning as punishment for teenagers.

When my oldest brother began having kids, they would use "timeout" to discipline their kids and I thought that was absurd, but it did seem to work for them.

People have to realize that there's a huge difference between abuse and spanking as a disciplinary tool. Too many think it's only abuse and fail to see its usefulness.

 

[ibill1]

No. My parents never spanked any of us and we're talking about a house with 5 boys all two years apart. If they managed to raise 5 boys, especially when we were 4,6,8,10,and 12, and never resorted to spanking, then anyone should be able to. Parents need to learn how to talk to their kids instead of hitting and yelling at them.

 

[gsdx]

I keep trying to get to nowhere but my gps won't tell me where it is

You can't get there from here.

 

[bankside]

No. My parents never spanked any of us and we're talking about a house with 5 boys all two years apart. If they managed to raise 5 boys, especially when we were 4,6,8,10,and 12, and never resorted to spanking, then anyone should be able to. Parents need to learn how to talk to their kids instead of hitting and yelling at them.

I think this is right on the money.

I was spanked once. It was pointless.

 

[sixthson]

Most of our friends are couples with children. Many of them believe in spanking when necessary and they are great parents. It is not something done out of violence, but correction. Not spanking your child does not necessarily make you a good parent.

After witnessing the bad behavior of some children in public, I think the parents should be whipped.

Personally, I have never spanked and don't see myself ever doing it, but I suspect that comes from being brutalized as a child, by parents who hit because it made them feel good.

 

[Swellegant]

I'm not going to say that spanking doesn't work and should never be used; every child is different, every parent is different, so you can't make blanket statements like that. I will say that it should be the last resort.

I was spanked, and I was beaten... corporal punishment was sometimes about discipline but more frequently about anger and quite often about simply hurting a child.

The knowledge that my mother would beat the crap out of me in the grocery store if I so much as raised my voice certainly kept me from raising my voice, but it never taught me what was wrong with raising my voice. It was just fear, not discipline or education.

The threat of a spanking from my Grandfather was something that certainly helped us behave when we were kids; the only one of the five of us who actually got the strop was the oldest, my cousin Michael, who could always be counted on to push the boundaries so the rest of us could see what happened. And he only got it the once, and that was enough.

But the difference was that my Grandfather always explained to us why we were being punished. Nobody else in my family did. They just hit.

The thing is, a parent who can control himself and use spankings in a disciplined manner probably could do it without the spankings. Physical pain isn't the only thing that reaches children; if your child can only be reached through physical pain, you've already fucked up somewhere along the line.

As some have said above, the main thing is paying attention and spending time... time-outs don't work if you're just blowing smoke up the kid's ass and he knows it... for a time-out to work, you have to stand over him, maybe even hold him still, until he runs out of defiance.

My grandmother never hit any of us, but she was a great dispciplinarian; her thing was to remove you from whatever situation you were fucking up: if we're acting up in a restaurant, she'd take us to the ladies' room and stay there with us until we were ready to behave (and there ain't noplace more boring to a child than a ladies' room); if we were acting up in the store, she'd leave her cart and we'd go sit in the car until we were ready to behave... just sitting there. Most parents these days don't have the attention span to put aside their own concerns long enough to deal effectively with a child.

Anyway... my sister never hit her children, and they're fine. She and I were beaten frequently and are basket-cases. That's all I have to say.

 

[clarinetboy]

I only got spanked a couple of times in my life.Ii think that spanking kids to a certain point is ok.

I once seen this man spank his kids in taco bell. They were running around having a good time until I walked in the door. Then he thought the behavior was unnecessary. So they stopped and I told them it was fine because kids will be kids. then one of the little boys said that he had to go to the bathroom. That man got made at the kid and start yelling at him and saying that he should had went when they came in, not when its time to go. I was like wtf. He took the kid around the cornor and spanked him for a little while and told him to go to the bathroom. Then he came to the other kids that were with him and said that if they had to go the same thing was going to happen. I was upset about that, but couldnt say anyting about because they werent my kids. That was totally wrong. Kids have small bladders, when they have to go they should inform you and you take them where they need to go but not spank them. I still can't believe it and that this spanking was uncalled for.Then he smiled at me for some reason.

 

[Under-taken]

I think hitting on the hand can be useful in some situations, like running the on the road - hit on the hand - DONT DO THAT SHIT!

Spanking on the buttox, bit much I think

 

[Tadaa]

I remember a belt, hand, brush, and a switch. Yes, I believe in spanking...not abuse, but spanking. A spanking should be rare and only done when all else fails. I had one that I'll never forget and to this day, if I bring it up to my mother, I can see the hurt in her eyes. I wonder what the hell they were thinking.

 

[clarinetboy]

Actually you should have said something I surely would've...and if he wanted to get loud and indignant...i would have just went off on hiim. As i stated you can't beat these kids for stupid ignorant stuff....it has to be for the right reasons...I would say something in a case like that. And if they didn't care i would say well you keep doing that and Child protective services will be called on you by someone who see's that.

If i was older i would. Ive just graduated and he was like 30 or older. But he would probably say that im to young to say something to him about kids. but thats the last time im going to let something like that happen. dont worrry. my voice will he heard

 

[CumAlong]

Spanking, not abuse, is 100% fair game on a child. Some children I know will never need to be spanked when growing up, some I can think of should be spanked on a daily basis. I can't say EVERY child should be spanked, but there is absolutely no reason to say NO child should be spanked.

Punishment needs to be quick, explained, and fitting in order to be effective. Spanking, in no way or form is severe enough to be considered abuse. Beating your child senselessly..now thats a different story.

I have every intention of spanking my kids. If it works, it work, if not, I will have to find something else. I was spanked maybe a few times during my childhood, you can bet I never picked a fight with another kid, or stole shit again for quite a while.

After being spanked with a wooden paddle that has "Attitude Adjuster" written on the side of it, I would always come clean and make amends whenever my parent even so much as hinted towards it hanging on the wall...

Unfortunately, not even Charles Darwin himself can fix some kids nowadays. Its sad really.

 

[justsimon]

Spanking is a sign of laziness.

 

[justjoshing]

I was never spanked. Whenever I would do something bad, my mom would either take something away from me, like a new toy, or ground me. That was enough to keep me in line.

I have an eight-year-old brother, who is a little more rambunctious than I was, and my mom does the same. She's never spanked him. Going to be without desert or not being allowed to do something he was looking forward to doing is enough for him.

Do I believe in spanking? No. It seems like an easy way out for parents who don't know how to discipline their children without resorting to hitting. Maybe they should have started teaching their children what was right and wrong in the beginning, and they would have not had these problems. Instead, they wait until the child gets older to do something when he is behaving badly.

 

[freefall]

My parents spanked me when I was a child. The result was me trying not to anger them the next time instead of repenting for my mistakes.

Can't really say if violence is an important key to shape children, but on many cases, it is highly unnecessary and either only frightens them or mould them into stubborn adults---like me

 

[rareboy]

I got spanked for the last time when I was 4 years old because I just stood there and didn't cry.

It scared the living daylights out of my parents.