Stalkers

[Mysterons]

This happened to me last week. I was in Chile with my mum, on holidays. We were at the corner of an avenue, waiting for the traffic lights to change so that we could cross and go to the restaurant in the other corner. A car passed and the guy who was driving it looked at me, winked an eye and blew a kiss! Luckily, my mum didn't notice anything, but I blushed and kinda smiled to myself -not because I liked the guy (he was like 60 years old and not particularly handsome), but nothing like that had ever happened to me and I found it funny. He had quite a luxurious car, and he looked German.

While my mum and I crossed the avenue, I noticed that the guy had stopped the car a few meters ahead, as if he were expecting me to go in! I wanted to get the hell out of there, but I couldn't say anything, so we just got into de restaurant. While my mum was busy looking over the menu I glanced through the window and saw the car still there, a few meters away of the restaurant (and it wasn't parked, it was just there in the middle of the avenue). Then, the man got out and came into the restaurant! He looked at me with lust but instead of sitting at a table he went to the restroom. I was terrified. If I had been alone, I would have just run away. What scared me more was the idea of him making a move with my mum present there. Luckily, he didn't stay at the restaurant and went back to his car. While I ate, I was praying that he'd go away, but he stayed in the car, and occasionally went out to 'wander' near the restaurant, staring at me while talking over the cellphone. Perhaps I was being paranoid, but I felt as if he were going to kidnap me or something like that. I'm 18 but I look a bit younger, and that guy reminded me of those paedophiles they talk so much about on TV.

Finally, we got out and I persuaded my mum into going round the corner (so that we wouldn't have to walk past the car). I was scared that he'd follow us but, luckily, he didn't.

Did something like that ever happen to you?

 

[homemadehuman]

lemme see if i get it right,a man was following you everywhere,looking at you directly...and you said/did nothing? if you never met him before why were you so afraid? what was he gonna do/say? ,my advice is,if you ever see this man again,especially in a place where it wouldn't be a coincidence,say near your house,college,friend's,seek help inmediatly,don't confront him on your own,he may be a rapist or just an old perv,but be careful anyway.

 

[Eagle653]

In these situations, you feel violated, even though no words were spoken and no physical contact was made. You're being spied on, stripped naked with his eyes, and your space and safety violated. It's creepy to say the least.

You did all the right things, but it must have been even more anxiety-ridden hoping he wouldn't create a scene with your mother there (even though if he was at all rational he wouldn't with others you obviously knew nearby).

Glad it all worked out alright, but that sort of thing would have unnerved me as much as it did you.

 

[Mysterons]

lemme see if i get it right,a man was following you everywhere,looking at you directly...and you said/did nothing?

I don't know... I just thought telling my mum 'that guy is lusting after me' would make matters worse.

if you never met him before why were you so afraid? what was he gonna do/say?

It's difficult to explain... he was staring at me as if he was going to make a move at any time. He wasn't just 'flirting', he looked like wanted me to go with him whether I liked it or not.

In these situations, you feel violated, even though no words were spoken and no physical contact was made. You're being spied on, stripped naked with his eyes, and your space and safety violated. It's creepy to say the least.

You did all the right things, but it must have been even more anxiety-ridden hoping he wouldn't create a scene with your mother there (even though if he was at all rational he wouldn't with others you obviously knew nearby).

Glad it all worked out alright, but that sort of thing would have unnerved me as much as it did you.

Thanks for your kind words. As you said: he was stripping me with his eyes. It's creepy how they can scare one only with a look.

 

[homemadehuman]

Is it possible that he knows you from somewhere? I mean, it seems really strange for someone to just do that to a complete stranger in public like that. Why would he even think you would be receptive to.....whatever he was up to?

that's exactly what i was thinking,it such thing exists it's an irrational behavior even for a stalker to chase an unknown person with such boldness,it's not the case usually,that's why i said mysterons gotta keep an eye open if the perv comes around again,that would only confirm that it wasn't quite a random encounter,in any case,sorry you had to go throught such discomfort,i hope you never meet that jerk again

 

[OTHFan]

You have your gut instinct for a reason so trust it. Don't worry about being paranoid or anything. Your safety is more important. Thankfully I can't recall anything that creepy happening to me and hopefully it never will. That must have been so freaky.

 

[KingofFaeries]

More than likely he was hoping you'd follow him into the bathroom, when you didn't he was probably hoping you'd break away from your mom for a bit so he could get you. Sorry don't know any non freaky way to say that.

Keep your guard up for awhile, if you see him again go to the police.

 

[Fishstix]

I do agree that it's creepy, especially since you're 18 and he's really old but he probably took your smile as a sign that you were interested. I would've been just as equally uncomfortable. It's nothing to call the police over unless he stalks you further.

 

[Mysterons]

Is it possible that he knows you from somewhere? I mean, it seems really strange for someone to just do that to a complete stranger in public like that. Why would he even think you would be receptive to.....whatever he was up to?

I'm sure I haven't seen him before, but I agree that it was weird the way he tried to approach me. I mean, he had just seen me and 'liked' me (ugh! it sounds awful) at first sight! And to top it all, he pretended me to 'flirt' back with my mum there! Even if I had liked him -which I certainly didn't- it was pretty obvious that I wasn't going to respond. That's what made me think that he kinda wanted to force me to go with him.

But perhaps King of Faeries is right and he hoped that I'd go to the bathroom. The creepy thing is that he still stayed nearby after that. Anyway, two weeks have passed and I'm still damn relieved that he finally gave up. It had a 'happy ending', after all (compared to some awful stories I've heard).

 

[darkdreamerx]

I've definitely had similar things happen to me. I was at the mall with my mom a week ago, and a guy followed us for a good 30 minutes. He wouldn't take his eyes off me even when we sat down at the food court. He was pale, rather large and dare I say "grubby" looking. It was incredibly sketchy.

I'm 18 also and I wish my boyfriend was there when it happened. <shudder>

 

[Fishstix]

I've definitely had similar things happen to me. I was at the mall with my mom a week ago, and a guy followed us for a good 30 minutes. He wouldn't take his eyes off me even when we sat down at the food court. He was pale, rather large and dare I say "grubby" looking. It was incredibly sketchy.

I'm 18 also and I wish my boyfriend was there when it happened. <shudder>

Ahhhhh! 30 MINUTES! That's even creepier than the OP's story.

 

[Mysterons]

I've definitely had similar things happen to me. I was at the mall with my mom a week ago, and a guy followed us for a good 30 minutes. He wouldn't take his eyes off me even when we sat down at the food court. He was pale, rather large and dare I say "grubby" looking. It was incredibly sketchy.

I'm 18 also and I wish my boyfriend was there when it happened. <shudder>

Scary! It's so weird the way those stalkers can become obsessed with someone...

 

[youngnihilist]

you're thin, probably cute and boyish looking, and 18, you'll get alot of creeps after you. be careful.