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Sticky Situation with a Bi guy

If you want to have an affair with him, have at it.

But be aware of what you're signing on to.

He's cheating on his girlfriend with a guy, and she probably doesn't know he's ever even thought about sex with a guy.

He's being dishonest in a fundamental way to someone he's led to believe is his most intimate relationship.

If he did it to her, he'd do it to you. If you're prepared to have that happen, that's your decision. But don't fool yourself into believing what you want to believe.
 
Yeah i know he's cheating on her. I've said to him in the past is he's unahappy about not getting sex from her that he should talk to her about it. He's always whinging and complaining to me that he's not getting sex from her, and he being a 19yo constantly horny all the time must be hard from him. I seem to be the one giving him the sex when you know it should be her. I've probably been selfish but hey - how can i say no?

He hasnt called me yet.. but it's the weekend so he probably will. I dunno what to say to him. i mean sure id love it to continue. The sex with him has been so great. He's got a nice cock, nice body, and he's very passionate in bed. Something that i've always wanted. I wont deny that i've got a very high sex drive. But i just cannot do casual sex with multiple partners. But to say that im finding it unfulfilling from my point of view. I've thought about being in a relationship with him but to be honest me and bi guys have never really mixed.

Maybe one day ill find myself a hot young gay thing lol.
 
Coming from a 19 year old bi, I'd say give him the toss, I am a similar situation at the moment, but we both are just in it for the fun. If you are looking for more confront him on it, and what happens happens, sex can be good but a worth while relationship is great.

Good luck.
 
reinventedboy,

Describe what this "Bi guy" does with you. Seriously, describe how he is when the two of you go at it as lovers.
 
reinventedboy said:
I dunno what to say to him[ QUOTE]

Well, take a look at your posts...you've told us how you feel, so why not tell him something similar. You don't seem like you're upset, but just want to know where things are going, and I think that's a totally okay thing to talk about. Especially considering you seem like you have a friendship as well as sex.

You seem like you're okay with the way things, but things would be even better if something more came of the situation.

As a bi 19 yo, my only experiences with men were with a friend who just wanted sex, similar to your situation. Neither of us were looking for anything more, and nothing more ever came of it. However, if he had ever told me he had feelings for me...I definately would at least be open to talking about it, and in afterthought, and although I wasn't planning on it being anything more, probably would have given it a try.

Now, my situation was different because I did not have a gf at the time. But, I'd say just don't come across like you're intitled to or expecting something more, be honest, and I think things will be ok.

If something goes wrong, and he reacts badly to this idea..it might be for the best, afterall...your feelings are there, so you'd just be telling him the truth. But I don't see why he'd react negatively as long as you're cool about it.
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As A Lover he is great. He's very passionate. We kiss for ages... He's very good with his tongue. I love his body... its so smooth and muscly and toned. He's got not much hair apart from a snail trail underneath his belly. His smile melts me and he's got really deep green eyes which i love looking into.
Whenever he has sex he mostly fucks me (im more of a bottom i think anyway) and he fucks me good and hard. When he comes over he usually ends up staying the night, so after sex we're sleeping in each other's arms. Next morning on a few occasions we have sex again. Lately its been once a week mainly on the weekends.
i think i went into too much detail there.. But that's the kind of passion i yearn for. I've had similar passion with my ex's in the past but never as strong as this. When im with him i feel like... Well.. i feel protected.
He txted me this week to ask me if we could hook up next week but i havent txted him back yet...
 
Hey reinvented,

Mate...remember one thing for me. You deserve more than to be a fuck buddy...if thats what YOU want. Your posts paint you as a sensitive caring loyal guy...and you've got caught up in pretty one sided situation. I'm sure this guy hasnt set out to hurt either you or his gf ...and to be honest it doesnt matter. This mate is about you. I understand how you got to this point...and its easy to understand...but you are worth way more. It doesnt matter now about whether this situation is right or wrong...this is about your future.

You deserve to be cared for the way you want. You deserve to be in a relationship with someone who understands you, comforts you and completes you. Sex is a great thing and its nice to find someone to share it with. But now you are yearning for more and are worthy of it. Your emotional needs are as real and valid as your (and his) sexual needs. Dont be ashamed of that or scared of it. Its a sign of the person you are...

Games...like not responding, are just a recipe for making this worse. You're better than that mate...better than being used and better than playing with his emotions. This shouldnt be about seeing if you can not be so convenient for him....this is about respect for yourself.

Its hard to contemplate, but you need to talk to this guy and explain how you feel. You have a right to feel the way you do and to expect more from your partner. Whether this guy is worthy of you is the question. Your emotions and values are guiding you...you know he's cheating on his gf...and you suspect he wont leave her. Your heart is worth more than these games. You need to know what your future holds with this guy...be open and honest like you have here...and see where the cards fall.

Sex is a wonderful gift to share. But love is something you deserve.
 
reinventedboy said:
As A Lover he is great. He's very passionate. We kiss for ages... He's very good with his tongue. I love his body... its so smooth and muscly and toned. He's got not much hair apart from a snail trail underneath his belly. His smile melts me and he's got really deep green eyes which i love looking into.
Whenever he has sex he mostly fucks me (im more of a bottom i think anyway) and he fucks me good and hard. When he comes over he usually ends up staying the night, so after sex we're sleeping in each other's arms. Next morning on a few occasions we have sex again. Lately its been once a week mainly on the weekends.
i think i went into too much detail there.. But that's the kind of passion i yearn for. I've had similar passion with my ex's in the past but never as strong as this. When im with him i feel like... Well.. i feel protected.
He txted me this week to ask me if we could hook up next week but i havent txted him back yet...
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You have hinted that you have also topped him -- though much less. How does he react in all of this? And as well as when he's fucking you -- and when you're fucking him?
 
UPDATE : He called me last nite, wanted to arrange to meet up with me. I told him that we needed to talk... and he asked me wat about, and i told him i had to get some stuff off my chest. So were going out to dinner tomorrow night to talk - My god...this is the first time we've been out - without the sex. LOL
 
Sounds like a good move. It won't hurt to let him know that you have feelings for him. I mean, it really shouldn't surprise him considering how passionate he is.

So talk and be honest and see where your path goes. You are very brave to risk giving it all up in order to be true to yourself.
 
An Update :

So we went out to dinner and talk yeah. I told him everything. Confessed how i felt. He said he sorta knew that there was something more that i felt for him. And he also told me he was too young for a relationship and is still figuring out his sexuality. He says he likes both guys and girls and he likes sex too much too be involved with someone.

And... The calling has stopped, we havent seen or spoken to each other since :/ that was over a week ago now.
 
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